Terms of Endearment

I am much much closer to Hankster's age than to yours, Healed. And indeed to each their own, I was not criticizing your reaction at all. I was amused at my own reaction.
I really like being old. I always wanted to be older and young to me, was always off-putting or insulting. I would never allow a therapist or anyone to address me as "young" anything. I do not consider it an endearment or compliment. I also believe it is somewhat misogynistic and patronizing- rarely are clearly adult males complimented by being called "young man" or "boy". I embrace crone-hood happily.

She ha used sweetie several times, and lady. I'm okay with them, I know she really cares about me. In my younger feminist days, maybe even older I would have lit into her. I'm now good to handle those terms of endearment, even when they come from my dad.

nope! and i hope not... it'll be really confusing omg and i'll run out of the room

My T has only called me by my name... probably because she's only 5 or 6 years older than me and I'm only 22 so we are both young. I love being called endearing names by everyone else so with her it would probably be the same although I would probably laugh.

My therapist has never used any terms of endearment with me. And come to think of it I don't he's ever said my name during my session.

However, adhering to boundaries prevents me from calling him any form of term of endearment. There is a slew of stockpiled names (endearments) that I would love to say to him during our session!

Outside of therapy, I have oodles of terms of endearments/nicknames for people and animals. I kind of like naming things!

Bunny (my nickname)

My T called me a poppet last week. I was being really obnoxious to him and he said: "You are such a poppet." I have no idea why, I was being horrible.

My t has never used a term of endearment with me. I'm trying to remember if he's ever even used my name in session and I don't think he has.

"Young lady" would strike me as rather patronizing. I'm in my 50s and he's just a few years older than I.

It's patronising all right. But most terms of endearment are.

The chef at our cafe at work calls me young lady...it makes me smile...since I am 45..but he reminds me that he is 20 years older and I am young compared to him... My t and xT do not call me anything...other than my name

My T has never used those terms in session, and I think I would run out of the room in embarrassment if he did, or just melt into the couch and beg him to be something more. (yes, sight transference issues going on).

My T does use my name in session ALL the time, and once not too long ago used my first AND last name. I am beginning to think he does it to keep me grounded so I don't dissociate or switch, but lately it's been rather annoying.

Hmm...I may have to mention it to him next time

"Young lady" sounds kind of kinky to me.

Wondering what age Hankster and Stopdog are now...

Umm, kinky?

Older than dirt but younger than god.

...and twice as old as rabbits!

My H's family (STBXH now) always had short names to call each other like Ger & Ner ( Nermine), Sis, & H always called me Deb. My communication with him, I have limited to only written emails or texting on the phone....no voice....but I have to say, I never use the Ger for him any longer....I have no fondness left for him that I would want to call him by anything but his real name.....& it irritates me when he still writes Deb when communicating with me.....I feel that it's all too familiar & not appropriate. When dealing with a financial issue through a 3rd party, the loan modification people who were trying to force me to sign on the loan that I wanted NO PART OF & REFUSED TO SIGN...got him on the phone with me....just hearing his voice was like hearing fingernails on a chalkboard......let alone being called any familiar name other than my REAL name.

I have never been into terms of endearment & told my H when first married that I would punch him a good one if he ever called me sweetheart or anything like that. I'm not that obnoxious with others who seem to have that habit...but I was darned if I was going to allow any habit like that to get started with my H.

Think Secretary and 50 Shades of Grey (though the latter is rubbish)

I was hoping you meant it differently.. I don't see it that way at all!

I watched Secretary because Madame T recommended it! I enjoyed it.

Madame T must be very kinky?
I liked this film also

She had her fun side.