Terms of Endearment

no never has and i hope never will.she is my T not a friend, or lover

I didn't like kiddo because I don't want him to feel remotely paternal toward me.

How much older is he...mine is 7 years younger...I'm thinking of calling him kiddo... Lol

He's five years older.

So is my wife...so kiddo is NOT ok in your situation. , per me.

No. Never and I can't imagine she ever would.

No, I don't think T has ever called me "sweetie" or "kiddo" or anything like that. If she did, it wouldn't bother me though. Since she's almost 20 years older than me, it would feel natural and sweet. I mean, to her, I am kind of a "kiddo."

My Ts have never called me any names like that, but my dietitian did call me "dear" sometimes. She's about 12ish years older than me, for reference.

T1 has called me dear occasionally ... I like it

I don't use terms or endearment on anyone & I don't like them used on me!!!!!

Just NOT my style.....Therapy especially IMO, it's a professional association & I treat it just like I did my engineering career.

I just want to know how to deal with depression

My ex psychologist, that I miss so much hasnt and my nurses never have, the student counsellor at college used to call me sweetheart a lot, I didn't really mind.

My T has called me sweetie/sweetheart and I like it when he does : )
There was one time I was crying hysterically and he was sitting on the couch next to me holding my hand (this was towards the end when I was trying to catch my breath) and he said "you are gonna wear yourself out kiddo" and it made me smile because my mama calls me that still occasionally... So I love it-makes me feel good : )

I don't recall t calling me by anything but my name or you. I am not sure how I would react. It would probably depend on what t called me. I am not fond of being called hun or honey by anyone.

I think it has to do with the relationship. We give off vibes of what we might like/not like and T's are usually pretty good at getting a sense of that, at least as good as we are; I can't imagine my T using a term of endearment for me, I'm rarely "endearing" in that relationship.

Some people use terms of endearment habitually, without putting any thought behind it. I realize that and try to just ignore it. It's just a habit (and often a southern thing that you run into in these parts), and I myself can roll into it quite easily if I put my southern thing on. But it would seem completely unnatural and odd coming out of my T's mouth.

I wouldn't like it if my psychiatrist (male) used terms of endearment with me. That would seem unprofessional. But it's fine coming from my therapist (female). I wonder if this is sexist of me.

i think she's said dear a few times but it doesnt bother me. its kind of sweet.

my therapist never does, except one time i thought she called me "honey" when we were hugging goodbye. i'm sure it was just my imagination

my gynecologist, however, calls me just about every term of endearment there is! most often it's "love," but it's like it's just a part of her everyday speak (like i get the feeling she's like that with everyone). i'm sure i blushed one time though when she called me her "sweet baby girl."

Trying to stop screaming inside my head.
If my female gynecologist had called me any term of endearment, I am afraid I would have caused her physical harm. Just thinking about it gives me the screaming heeby jeebies.

Thanks for explaining to me.

Speaking of gynecologists, my T and I see the same doctor, who happens to call me sweetie/ hon, and i wonder, while shes doing the exam does she call my t the same thing?

yes! i was referred to this gyn by my therapist, and she sees her too. when i told my therapist about the terms of endearment, she seemed genuinely surprised. maybe because they're closer in age and/or more like colleagues?

I think the only person I would have a worse reaction to a term like sweetie or hon from than the therapist is a gyn (I mean any md would piss me off, but the gyn more than most). It is just so condescending and I believe usually means they can't remember your name.

My T1 called me "kiddo" a few times. T1 is 40+ years older than me. I didn't mind. It made me feel protected.

I worked with a really sweet and fun lady in her late 30's for a few months. She had a lot of energy and talked pretty fast, and periodically she would call people "baby-doll". Men and women, didn't matter. She was barely conscious of it. It didn't bother me at all - I didn't take it personally.

My T rarely addresses me by my name, let alone any terms of endearment. He has a lot of experience and he's very careful in his words and actions because he knows that even minor stuff can set off certain people. He likes to walk around the office during sessions because he has a medical condition where he shouldn't just sit for long periods of time. I remember the first time he did it, he said to me: "I'm going to get up now and walk around. Is that OK with you?" He's such a pro ....