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Old Sep 03, 2013, 06:53 PM
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When should you listen to logic and when should you listen to feelings or should you listen to both and make a decision on the stronger outcome. I have no ides what I'm trying to say here. just had to get it out of my head.
I think you should listen to both.

When they pull in opposite directions, you need to think carefully about what you really want and what your values are.

Do you have a concrete example?
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Old Sep 03, 2013, 07:13 PM
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My ex-H has been saying that it would be more econimcal for us to be each others carers and it doesn't matter now as I now realise he is probably being manipulative and its all about him again anyway.
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Old Sep 03, 2013, 07:19 PM
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My ex-H has been saying that it would be more econimcal for us to be each others carers and it doesn't matter now as I now realise he is probably being manipulative and its all about him again anyway.
yeah, that sounds fishy. Logic says he's your ex for a reason.
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Old Sep 03, 2013, 09:24 PM
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My ex-H has been saying that it would be more econimcal for us to be each others carers and it doesn't matter now as I now realise he is probably being manipulative and its all about him again anyway.
Since he's already had a heart attack, does that mean you take care of him, he dies, and too bad for you then? Tell him you're in college, you can do the math!!
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Old Sep 03, 2013, 09:27 PM
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I have to go to bed.... really not feeling well. Hope the painkillers/fever killers kick in soon. Some cheese with that whine, please! Goodnight, couch.
Feel better! I remember the end of Monty - it was sad.

I heard french rock n roll today - I love it, I dont hear enough of it.
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Old Sep 03, 2013, 09:28 PM
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Since he's already had a heart attack, does that mean you take care of him, he dies, and too bad for you then? Tell him you're in college, you can do the math!!
What a memory you have Hanks. I'm having one of those "OMG I'm nearly 50 have I done the right thing" moments. I have to grow up smetime.
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Old Sep 03, 2013, 09:39 PM
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What a memory you have Hanks. I'm having one of those "OMG I'm nearly 50 have I done the right thing" moments. I have to grow up smetime.
Sorry this is something I grew up hearing about! My dad married someone 12 years younger, his brother's wife was 17 years younger, and all my dad ever talked about was that they married younger wives to have someone to take care of them when they got old! Now the men are gone and the women are gonna be 85 this year. Too mean to die.
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 04:47 AM
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The role model on MoodGym was probably born happy and never had to work at it. What can I learn from that?

Grrrrrrrr!
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 05:50 AM
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Good morning, couch peeps! (or good day, good evening)

Ah, and so it begins....Woke my daughter up for school and she asked, "Can I have 10 more minutes?"

I fell asleep on the couch last night with my daughter leaning a pillow against me. I woke up while it was still dark, thinking I still had hours of sleep left - only to find out that my alarm would be going off in 15 minutes. AARGH. I hate that.

Gotta get my daughter to the bus, then get showered and to my assignment. I only have two assignments scheduled for this week - a 2 hour assignment this morning to interpret a college class and a 2 hour assignment tomorrow morning for physical therapy for a small child whose parents are deaf.

I need to finish reworking my resume and send it out to the behavioral health center. I asked T if he would help me with it, as I need to incorporate aspects of myself related to human services. I have a great interest in behavioral health but my background is in business. Both are necessary, and I'm not quite sure how to make it work. He told me to send what I have and he will see what it sparks. Unfortunately, I don't believe I'll have time for that. It's been since last Friday, so I feel a lot of pressure to send it today.
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 08:56 AM
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Another quiet night on the couch. I need to try to get some sleep and stop thinking about lap dancing
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 09:16 AM
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Sounds like a plan, BPA.
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 02:01 PM
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*tumbleweed*
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 02:03 PM
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I hope people are off doing better things than couchsurfing. I'm feeling a little better but have a fever again tonight. Bah. I will go to T tomorrow morning, in any case. I am not coping well with RL right now. I hope I'll manage to talk to T about that.

Have a good rest of Wednesday, or start of Thursday, as the case may be.
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 02:06 PM
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((( Mast ))) - Sorry to hear that you have a fever again and are having trouble coping with life. I hope you get some rest and that you can have a productive T session tomorrow. (( HUGS ))
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 02:09 PM
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I haven't been very productive today. Well, I take that back. I got my daughter off to school, went to my assignment, finished my resume/cover letter for the job at the behavioral health center - sent it to T - got his feedback - incorporated it into my cover letter - and sent it. I'm kinda freaking out about it because I incorporated some of T's words that didn't fit well for me - and wished I didn't. Oh well. Not much I can do about that now.

I hoped to finish the back lawn today, but my knees and ankles are screaming. Not sure what is causing that, but I am in a tremendous amount of pain right now. I'm hoping it'll subside enough so that I can tackle the back lawn this evening. If not, tomorrow.

My daughter will be home from school in a few minutes. She's off for the next 4 days, so we'll be planning activities. There's a back to school pool party at the swim club on Friday night and her BFF will be coming over and possibly sleeping over. That'll be fun for the girls.
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 03:25 PM
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My daughter is home, and I just introduced her to "Perfect Strangers". Remember that show? We're watching the first couple of seasons on DVD.
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 04:23 PM
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Draft letter to my boss:

I'm feeling in need of encouragement.

We've been making steady progress at X, and I've done some clever programming.
Furthermore, whatever I do for X will eventually be used at Y and Z as well.

But I never get a sense that anything is FINISHED. There are no milestones and no celebrations. All I get is, "OK, I've survived another week."

I'm not overworked and I'm not about to quit. But a big vote of confidence would be appreciated!
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 04:26 PM
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Home from the first day of school.. Only got 4 crappy hours of sleep last night, so I am EXHAUSTED. I could go to bed right now. My feet are killing me today too.. Kindergarten class is great! They are wonderful, my afternoon pre-k class.. holy crap! I think they are going to be a challenge!! But, I am glad that the school year is here!!
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 04:33 PM
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Healed....I'm glad you loved your Kindergarten class. Afternoon Pre-K sounds like a bunch of kids who should be napping.... I hope you have an aide in the room for that class.

I hope you will be able to sleep tonight now that the first day jitters are past.

How did your D like her first day of Kindergarten?
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 04:36 PM
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CE... You don't have milestones or timing goals for your projects? In one way that seems nice because you don't have someone breathing down your neck but on the other hand like your letter mentioned you don't feel like you are achieving something....

Can you set your own goals? Plan your own milestones to celebrate...
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 04:42 PM
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glad all had a good first or is it second day
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 06:45 PM
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Tonight is actually the first time I felt a twinge of jealousy when my H was leaving to go to T... I really miss having someone to talk to ... someone to listen while I talk through some decisions that I need to be making...
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 06:59 PM
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Tonight is actually the first time I felt a twinge of jealousy when my H was leaving to go to T... I really miss having someone to talk to ... someone to listen while I talk through some decisions that I need to be making...
How does he go and you don't? Time to redo the budget and move some of his discretionary spending over to you for t. Sez me!
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Old Sep 04, 2013, 07:09 PM
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RTS - I did not realize he went and you did not. I hope you can figure out a way to go back to the therapist if you want to go.
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RTS - I did not realize he went and you did not. I hope you can figure out a way to go back to the therapist if you want to go.
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