[MASIMO]

I Think about my T everyday. Am i obsessed? It might be his words ringing in my head. It might be Feeling needy or distressed. Maybe I'm Feeling like I want to be with him.
But It's everyday, am i just strongly attached, is it My affections for him? Is this normal?
Afterall he is part of my life.

[unaluna]

I guess it depends on what we're thinking? I do this too. I used to do it regarding a previous t to escape into romantic daydreams - i dont do that with my current t. There is some escapism, but not so single-minded or goal-oriented, shall we say? Now it's more as you say, they ARE a part of our life, and i am trying to form a positive introject to replace my mother's negativity, so keeping a positive picture of them in mind may seem childish, but i would prefer to say regressed, as part of a plan for future better mental health.

I think about my t every day. She says she thinks about me every day. Neither of us is obsessed with each other. Maybe its just people who care about each other and are part of each others lives.

[stopdog]

I usually hate the one woman everyday. I don't htingk of the other woman everyday at all.

[Perna]

I'm like hankster, replacing T's better thoughts and advice and thinking about her for my step-mother's and my relationship.

[growlithing]

When someone says "obsessed", I think about something that is more preoccupied than just thinking about T every day. I think about my T all the time. I personally don't think I'm obsessed. She's just a main character in my life right now.

But even if you are, that's okay. I told T once that I was sorry for being clingy. She laughed and said that she's glad I'm experiencing being clingy in an appropriate place where we can observe that and work through it together BEFORE I drive a future boyfriend insane. You're supposed to have problems and then work on it. If you're way too preoccupied with your T, that's good because you have something to address with her, find the root of the cause, and attempt to fix it.

[reesecups]

I don't have a romantic interest in my T, but I often imagine telling her about the issue that might be going through my head at the time.

[always_wondering]

I think about my T everyday. The thoughts are like this: "What would he think about this?", "Can't wait to tell him about that!". Then I think about what I am going to tell him, and I come up with solutions to my problems on my own. Then, when I show up for the appointment, I don't know what to talk to him about!

[SeekerOfLife]

Hi. You sound exactly like me! (Is that possible? ). I have the same though pattern. Going to therapy is the most positive thing in my life right now. After I have a session, I start planning what I need to discuss at my next session. Often, I get something figured out on my own before I get to meet with her. Often, I just have too much on my list to cover in the alloted time.
I don't think I am obsessed. I think it is natural to replay positive experiences. I think it is a good thing to look forward to and plan for the next appointment.

I was obsessed, and thought it was unnatural. My therapist explained that it was mostly transference and it was normal. I'm Out of therapy now, and my mind is focused on so many other things. Before therapy I couldn't focus on too much of anything. I'm on vacation with my family at the moment, and I find myself calling on her in my head more to get through some of the rougher moments. Its working because I haven't felt the need to change my plane ticket, and head back home earlier than planned. Also, I'm not emailing or calling her.

[Syra]

Originally Posted by MASIMO

I Think about my T everyday. Am i obsessed? It might be his words ringing in my head. It might be Feeling needy or distressed. Maybe I'm Feeling like I want to be with him.
But It's everyday, am i just strongly attached, is it My affections for him? Is this normal?
Afterall he is part of my life.

Me too. and I wonder the same thing.

[purplemystery]

I think it's actually good and maybe even healthy that you are thinking about your T a lot. It's probably because you recognize that he is offering you something that you need. Repeating the positive things that our Ts say in our heads might replace our negative self-talk, or negativity that we've received from others in the past.

It's all part of 'object relations'. It's not obsession.

[rainbow8]

I also think about my T every day. Sometimes it feels like obsession, and sometimes it doesn't. My Ts have always been big and important parts of my life. I often worry that something might happen to her, and I grieve for that. But much of the time I'm thinking of her when I'm doing something that we've shared, like art or photography, or yoga, and I feel happy that we're both doing something we enjoy, and I feel connected to her then.

[Hoppery]

Originally Posted by always_wondering

I think about my T everyday. The thoughts are like this: "What would he think about this?", "Can't wait to tell him about that!". Then I think about what I am going to tell him, and I come up with solutions to my problems on my own. Then, when I show up for the appointment, I don't know what to talk to him about!

Write it down! It works.