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i just remembered when i emailed her that i wanted to change T and then went there she didnt "fight" for me to stay. she simply explained that she wanst criticizing me and actually other people said to her that sometimes shes bi.tch. and then simply said "u can continue with course but we cant give u another T". soooo she couldnt care less. why would she care now? i tell her i want to leave she tells me go lol
whats shes doing?? confrontation. few minutes ago i found this site that u can download books of psych and im reading one about confrontation. and she should know already that the way she does it isnt right for me. she should adapt. but u think she EVER admits shes wrong?? was the 1st thing i hated about her in the course.

This isnot personal though, you have to remember that. You wrote her you want to change Ts, so now she has to go from there...she is taking you seriously. Its not that she doesn't care, but you expressed you dont like her and there isn't much she can do about it. She may be acknowledging she is not the right personality match for you - it sounds like you have made this clear to her. She's agreed that you are right, she is sometimes b****y. She knows its not a good fit for you and wants to help you someone different from her.

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It sounds like this T has a different style therapy that you don't meld with. I would say, move onto another T, this one is obviously not your sense of style. But, you also said before that you don't have any other options with T's due to your lack of work & this being free for you now.

You sound American to me (just by your lingo), so I know that I could be wrong. Do you have a County Social Worker? Are you getting County Assistance at all? Whether or not you're an eligible candidate depends on a few factors, but the one most applicable is household income level.

It can't hurt to go and apply. While some people hate their county social workers, mine has always been very helpful to me. She has come up with residential mental assistance (when I needed it), driving assistance to pick up my daughters from my ex-hub's apt., food assistance, mental health facilities, and more! She has all sorts of information available at her fingertips & knows what I am applicable for. If you haven't tried that yet, I really do recommend giving it a shot.

There may be other mental health clinics (or individuals) that do accept county funding to help those who are in lower financial brackets.

I hope that this idea can help you ~ best wishes!

u didnt read everything... that email was ages ago. this shouldnt be about a personality match but an approach that is suitable for me.

lol shezbut my english sucks and u say im american? im flattered :P im european. we dont have such thing here but thanks anyway

Personality match can be as important as approach sometimes. Communication can be very difficult if you don't mesh with a person, especially your therapist. It is affecting her ability to treat you in a way that suits you that is clear. The best thing she can do is help you find a T whose approach would work better for you.

well she wont do that.. and i think if they wanted to help me they make the effort of puting me with other T there but oh well

I know you've tried to get her to help you find another one. If you really feel like this cannot work, write down the reasons why you think it cannot work then give her the paper. That way, she can't go b****y on you about that. Then politely tell her, at this moment, the best way you can help me, is to help me find another therapist that I can connect to better because as long as I can't connect to you, it won't help me. Maybe you should also mention to her that you feel like, she doesn't want to help you because you feel like she won't let you develop a relationship with her.

If she out right refuses, get in touch with your old t? See if she will help find you someone. She might know someone who does it for free because they are with an organisation. You could say something along the lines: I feel like my current t is putting up a brick wall and not letting me in, so I can't develop a relationship with her because she won't let me get close enough. I know that you wanted me to try, and I have. I have tried my hardest to make it work. But it hasn't. She isn't right for me and I am not right for her. Please can you help me find someone who will let me connect with them. I really want therapy to work because I want to sort my problems out.

hi. i seem like a pain but i cant tell her frankly i dont want her anymore. i need to be sure ill be able to find other (which i seriously don think i will) or ill end up with none.
ya i thought of talking to the other girl but thing is i have no way to contact her, don even know where she lives or her second name to try find it online...

Well, only way it can work is if you try to put your bad relationship past you both and ask her can you start again. You seem angry with her. Is that fair for me to say?

of course lol i hate her... and she knows it. specially last session the idiot didnt remember one thing and i was kind of aggressive. her job seems to be making me even more mad lol

Maybe Therapy isn't for you? Or that kind of therapy.

lol now its my fault. thanks

No. Just maybe it isn't for you. Therapy isn't for everyone is it? Maybe you need a different kind of therapy? There are different kinds. It's not a one shoe fits all. More of a you need to try everything to find what is best. You are an individual. Different things work for different people, right?

You can either stick with her, drop the therapy altogether or try to repair the damaged relationship. Not many choices. Or try a different kind of therapy or try to get a new t even though that will be rather hard for you. Do you see a way forward in this? If so, what do you think could happen? What will help you move forward.

Ts appointment was fantastic, NOT. half hour just to answer 2 bs questionnaires about how have i been feeling for last 15 days and life in general. didnt change much since i answered those back in january. and the comic part is... (drums).... she gave me a satisfaction questionnaire to answer at home and is supposedly anonymous hahhahaha should i put what i REALLY think? lol they can always find out for my writing...

sooo i finally replied to the questionnaire... i was honest.. said was unsatisfied with therapist and therapeutic process but now im worried about the consequences! damn! im there for free they can tell me to f.uck off

dont want to jinx it but in his 2 sessions she has been quite nice... maybe she noticed i got quite angry and decided to easy on me? and today with goals she actually clarified somethings i had wrong impression which was nice... hope she keeps this way!

that is what they are trained to do to have no expression no reaction its like talking to a empty shell might as well be talking to the brick wall

thts not there job is to sit there an lisen an not to respond an if they do respond they say whats ever on there mind i wish u luck with the crazy lady

dear t

thank u for being such a ***** that i canttttttt even count on u in moments like this... the only person i have lolol i wish i could say wha i really think about u caz clearly ur too ****ing dumb o know tthat i hate u.. someday i will for sure