[LifeIsCruel]

I have seen 21 "professionals" during my battles...21!!

NONE of them were of any help...a total waste with their "CBT BS".....

I will admit, I did have one---just 1...whom really helped! He is a Psychiatric Technician...and he was/is the best for me! Sadly, I only got to see him whenever I was hospitalized Inpatient, due to suicide attempt. I tried, I begged to get him for my Outpatient needs....the hospital with their "guidelines" would not allow it! He was so helpful, and really was guiding me to where I needed to be! I was so desperate, I even asked him to see me in private and I would pay him...LOL...but he is a great professional and due to his ethics (which I can respect) he refused

Get this!! I had about 14 of them, just sit there and write...and listen, while I talked??? My dogs will sit and listen to me!! Hello!!!!!!

[HazelGirl]

You're not going to like what I have to say, but I will say it anyway. Take it or leave it.

If you have seen 21 therapists, the problem isn't the therapists. It's you. You haven't given enough details for me to have any guesses as to what is causing the problem. But it isn't their fault. It has something to do with you.

[Freewilled]

Have they all been CBT oriented? If so, can you find a psychodynamic T?

My T is humanistic and he does not focus on CBT techniques...he does more trauma-related stuff and the relationship is more central.

[stopdog]

I completely believe that sometimes therapy does not work for a person and that it is NOT the fault of the person. Therapy is not going to help every person and it is not because the person is doing anything wrong. I think it is also possible to need to interview than 21 therapists before they find the right one. I have interviewed over 30 some odd of them this last go around and found 2 I could tolerate. I am having an interesting experiment, but I would not say they are particularly useful for what I originally sought therapy for and certainly most therapy is not a efficient way of resolving anything that I have seen. I also found CBT to be worthless, patronizing and pointless for me. It is a method some others find useful.

[nottrustin]

Sounds to me like you need to try a different type of therapy..

Also, you mentioned the psychiatric technician who really helped you out in the hospital. At the hospital I work in a the technicians are cna's with on the job training in behavioral. Was this person for you somebody that talked to you and listened without judgement??

[CrimsonBlues]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I completely believe that sometimes therapy does not work for a person and that it is NOT the fault of the person. Therapy is not going to help every person and it is not because the person is doing anything wrong. I think it is also possible to need to interview than 21 therapists before they find the right one. I have interviewed over 30 some odd of them this last go around and found 2 I could tolerate. I am having an interesting experiment, but I would not say they are particularly useful for what I originally sought therapy for and certainly most therapy is not a efficient way of resolving anything that I have seen. I also found CBT to be worthless, patronizing and pointless for me. It is a method some others find useful.

I completely agree with your comments, stopdog. Therapy might be helpful or useful for some but not for everyone. It is very possible for someone to not be helped in therapy and that doesn't automatically translate to a problem with the client.

LifeIsCruel-I'm sorry that the one person who was helpful for you is someone you can't meet with in a therapy setting. I know how frustrating and painful it is to try to find adequate help. Are you still looking for a therapist at this point? I hope you find the peace that you so deserve.

[RTerroni]

I had that with the first person I saw and I know it is frustrating.

[sweepy62]

I am sorry you went through all those therapists, therapy is not for everyone,

[ahdm]

I had CBT, and it didn't do much for me either. I've had to stop now after 14 sessions, but I think it's good that I've stopped. I think I need to find another therapist with a different approach - the therapist was right for me, so right, but it was just the type of therapy...

CBT isn't for everyone. I'd advise you to find a different type of therapy, similar to the therapist you saw in In-Patient. Don't just go back to CBT. It doesn't work for you.

I also agree with HazelGirl, and not to be harsh, I don't mean to be, but if CBT hasn't worked for you, why have you gone back? Why didn't you address the fact that therapy wasn't working for you IN your actual sessions?

I hope you find a therapist who is right for you.

[doyoutrustme]

maybe the technician can refer a like-minded collegue for you, someone who is not into CBT. I agree CBT is annoying and stupid.

However, you do need to ask yourself how 21 therapists failed you. Where are you finding them? Are you doing the legwork? Talking to a T or a dog doesn't help. You need to set goals in your first sessions and talk about how the T plans to treat you. and make sure it isn't CBT.

[LifeIsCruel]

With the exception of one post....a sincere "Thank You" to the rest

The psy. tech....he listened, he showed me alternatives, he provided me with coping skills, he helped me to refocus, he was humourous, he was a caring professional, he showed me alternatives, he opened my mind to choices, he related to me, he empathized and sympathized with me, to sum it up....he DID his job..above and beyond!!! I would pay mega $$$ to have just him!

Yes...he made me 4 referrals...they too, were not on my wavelength as he was! This guy will always be the epitome of mental health providers!!!

[SeekerOfLife]

Question friend. Do you actually WANT to get well.

[stopdog]

Even the guy who owns this site admits a therapist does not know if therapy will help a person or not and that they may not be able to help. It is under something like 10 Things Your Therapist Won't Tell You.
". I honestly don’t know whether I can help you or not.

Most therapists honestly believe they can help most people with most problems. However, until you get in there and start working with a therapist, a therapist can’t really predict whether they’ll be able to help you or not. Most therapists believe they can help anyone who comes to them with a specific problem they’re trained or experienced to handle. However, every single individual is unique and there are few reliable predictors of any given therapist’s success with any given client."
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...wont-tell-you/

[unlockingsanity]

Originally Posted by LifeIsCruel

With the exception of one post....a sincere "Thank You" to the rest

The psy. tech....he listened, he showed me alternatives, he provided me with coping skills, he helped me to refocus, he was humourous, he was a caring professional, he showed me alternatives, he opened my mind to choices, he related to me, he empathized and sympathized with me, to sum it up....he DID his job..above and beyond!!! I would pay mega $$$ to have just him!

Yes...he made me 4 referrals...they too, were not on my wavelength as he was! This guy will always be the epitome of mental health providers!!!

From my perspective (which is very biased on this topic, I might add), it sounds like you would really benefit from a relational perspective. You mentioned that he was humorous, empathized and RELATED to you. I think so many people either don't know or underestimate the healing power of simply being understood by another human being and being accepted.

Check out the relational perspectives (don't be afraid of the words 'relational psychoanalysis....it's not the blank-slate, traditional mind-frame of lay-on-a-couch therapy. It's like psychodynamic, but with a focus on the relationship.)

I could definitely see how you would blow through many therapists if you were limiting yourself (or your area has a limited variety of approaches) to only CBT. That approach works for some but is so annoying for the rest. It's so demoralizing, in my opinion.