[The Fox & the Hound]

So, in another I made, I asked about not wanting to get help. A lot of people encouraged me, & do I do want to tell someone. So, later in the thread I talked about possibly meeting with the school psych.

So one of my friends is seeing the school psych., because her parents want her to have more friends, & boost her confidence.

My friend told me, that the school psych. would want me to be part of the group(it's a friendship group). She'll ask how you feel on scale from 1 to 10, about your home, & school life, friends, & other things.

I have been struggling a lot, with depression, & suicidal thoughts. Right now, It seems that nothing will ever get better. I just keep on going in downward spiral. It's horrible. I never have fun, & don't enjoy anything anymore.I am really paranoid, thinking my friends, & family, & that everyone hate me.Plus, I am ruining friendships because of my depression. I have little motivation to do anything, & my grades are horrible. When I am not depressed, I am really irritable

But , on top of that. I have been contemplating suicide. I do have plan, as of right now. I actually am considering go through with it.

The problem is- I am really scared to go to her first. I never told anyone about my depression, ever. What will she even do when I get in there?

I want to tell her about my suicidal ideation, that I actually have a plan, & that,at times I want to go through with the plan. But, if I tell her that, what will she do? Does she have to do anything?

[phaset]

You can ask her if what you say to her is confidential. If she feels you are in danger though, she will be required to do something. Please don't be scared to tell her you are having problems though.

[Favorite Jeans]

Well you can ask her from the outset about the limits of her confidentiality. She may have some personal policies but, especially if you're a minor, she will have legal protocols to follow.

She would most likely need to tell someone else if you tell her you're actively suicidal. That might be what needs to happen in order for you to get the help you need. It's probably a good idea to tell her. It might feel uncomfortable and she might need to involve your parents and maybe a psychiatrist or another healthcare provider. It won't be a picnic. But it sounds like you're not having such a great time anyway. Give yourself a chance. It's amazing what can happen when depression gets treated.

[nottrustin]

I can tell you from working on a psych unit at a hospital most colleges WANT to know what is going on. Colleges really want to help students. Do you see the dr. at the health center of the school?? If you do I would talk to that person and see what they say. The other thing is I believe the dean of students would also be able to help.

I know that with our college students the schools keep in contact during the patient's stay and have everything set up for student.

[The Fox & the Hound]

I'm in HS, & I am still a minor, not sure if that makes a difference.

[Victoria'smom]

I Would sit down with the parent that I trusted the most and tell them you need help and you think you may be suicidal. I know it's hard, I had to do it and was afraid. It was a time that I most felt rejected and unsafe. My dad told me if I felt that way tomorrow tell him and all was dropped and forgot. At least if I went to the school psychologist after they would have a heads. The school can force counseling if you need it and your parents won't help you but I would try to keep your health and school separate if possible.

[HazelGirl]

You can never know whether life could get better if you don't try to get help.

[Favorite Jeans]

Originally Posted by The Fox & the Hound

I'm in HS, & I am still a minor, not sure if that makes a difference.

It makes a huge difference because it means that others are legally responsible for your safety and well-being. Also makes me want to apologize for having been not so gentle with you earlier in this thread. I forget that posters here could be teenagers.

On the upside, I know it's become a bit clichéd to say this but it gets better. Really. I'm not patronizing you just trying to say that once you leave adolescence and make it to the other side, life usually improves a lot.

Is your home environment safe? What kind of parent(s) do you have? How do you think they might react if you told them you were feeling this way?

[The Fox & the Hound]

Yes, it is safe, nothing really bad happens. My parents are, supportive, & loving. I don't know how'd they react, I would like to tell someone else though first. I am scared to tell them.

Since, I am still minor, what will she do if I tell her about my suicidal thoughts, & that I'm actually contemplating, & have a plan? I've heard a few things, & it really scares me. I do really want to tell her but, I just get really fearful.

[phaset]

I think you should tell her as much as you are willing to. Someone I knew told the guidance counsellor that I was suicidal, he called my parents. It all worked out in the end and I didn't have to be the one to tell them. I didn't get sent to the hospital. I never could have told my parents.

[BeaFlower]

You could tell her that you have something important to say but you are afraid to do it, she could put you at ease. It's a good idea talking with her if you still don't want to talk with your parents. If you find some help you'll can feel better. It's worth trying.

[Favorite Jeans]

Originally Posted by The Fox & the Hound

Yes, it is safe, nothing really bad happens. My parents are, supportive, & loving. I don't know how'd they react, I would like to tell someone else though first. I am scared to tell them.

Since, I am still minor, what will she do if I tell her about my suicidal thoughts, & that I'm actually contemplating, & have a plan? I've heard a few things, & it really scares me. I do really want to tell her but, I just get really fearful.

She will likely need to involve your parents and will probably give you some choices as to how you want that to happen. She might arrange for you to be assessed by a psychiatrist (or your family physician) to consider whether meds might be helpful for you. She will probably arrange for you to have some ongoing, regular therapy. I think it's unlikely that she'd send you right to the emergency room or anything like that.

Change is very scary even when you're moving in the right direction. It is scary to tell someone about your depression for the first time. It's a big leap or faith. But I think, especially since your parents are loving and supportive, that you are going get the help you need to start feeling better.

[The Fox & the Hound]

Ok, good.I've had many people online tell me if I have suicide plan, I'll be put it in the hospital for at least 72 hours.Does

Do they have to make me go to psychiatrist? It's would be bad enough if my parents know. but going to one would be really scary. What will they do?

[BeaFlower]

Sincerily I don't know how it works exactly, I hope that someone else can give you information. But I think that she can't oblige you to talk with a psychiatrist if you don't want, she can only suggest it.
But are you sure that you don't want? If she suggeste it it's because she thinks that it's the best thing to help you. But I think that you can also talk only with the psychologist if you prefer.
Make us know if there are news!

[Favorite Jeans]

Originally Posted by The Fox & the Hound

Ok, good.I've had many people online tell me if I have suicide plan, I'll be put it in the hospital for at least 72 hours.Does

Do they have to make me go to psychiatrist? It's would be bad enough if my parents know. but going to one would be really scary. What will they do?

If you can assure the school psychologist that you will not harm yourself between now and your next meeting (and promise to call a crisis line or 911 or something if you are in danger) they will usually not send you to the hospital. If you really cannot honestly give that assurance, then maybe the hospital is your best bet.

A psychiatrist will just talk to you. They'll ask you questions and answer yours. They will try to understand your depression, assess whether you're a threat to yourself or anyone else and maybe prescribe some medication. They're not usually scary people!

[Victoria'smom]

She may have the crisis team come meet with you. Its a person that you'll be able to talk to one on one. They'll help you identify what issues you are having and help you find solutions that don't involve harming yourself. They also have many more resources available to help you.

[The Fox & the Hound]

I really need to push myself & tell her. I'm thinking of telling my friend, to ask the school psych, if I can talk to her. That would be easier for me.

I will tell her about my depression. But, I don't want to tell her about the suicide, because I do SI, & truthfully I don't know if I can promise her I won't hurt myself. I really don't like lying, but I do want to tell her,& get help. I am just scared if I do tell her I SI that she would send me to the hospital,. People tell me it is horrible,scary, & that it reduce your job choices.

[BeaFlower]

Originally Posted by The Fox & the Hound

I really need to push myself & tell her. I'm thinking of telling my friend, to ask the school psych, if I can talk to her. That would be easier for me.

I will tell her about my depression. But, I don't want to tell her about the suicide, because I do SI, & truthfully I don't know if I can promise her I won't hurt myself. I really don't like lying, but I do want to tell her,& get help. I am just scared if I do tell her I SI that she would send me to the hospital,. People tell me it is horrible,scary, & that it reduce your job choices.

I think that it's a good idea to ask help to your friend and to begin by taking with the psych about depression. Then, if you are at ease with her, you can decide to talk also about suicide...it surly would be more useful for you if you talk also about it.

One of my son's friends told him that the friend was thinking of killing himself. My son told the school counselor, and the school counselor talked to the boy and the boy's parents. The boy did not have to go to the hospital, but they definitely involved the parents. I truly hope you get the help you need.

[nicoleflynn]

It is important to get help; nothing will change unless you reach out. xoxo