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I've been seeing my Pdoc for around 3 years. With all that he is already done for me (waived fees, taken me on as a private patient but billed me through a government clinic, even though he wasn't supposed to, gone into bat for me when the Govt. Suits he answers to started insisting my treatment be terminated, agreed to transfer me back to the other clinic if the new one doesn't work out and the 'Suit's can get stuffed, etc etc), now he's not only agreed to have me come in for a special appointment to be monitored when I take my first dose of a new AntiDepressant, because he knows I'm worried about having a bad reaction, he's also agreed that if anything happens, like if I end up getting really bombed out or sedated, so long as I'm safe to travel, he's going to arrange to pay for a taxi home for me - that's approximately a $100 fare.
What the hell did I do to deserve this. I mean I really appreciate it, but I feel like I don't deserve him being so good and helpful to me. I'm no one special, and it makes me feel like I should be, I don't know, doing things to earn what I'm being given. Does anyone else struggle with feelings of guilt when their Pdoc or T is so nice to them.
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Diagnosis: Complex-PTSD, MDD with Psychotic Fx, Residual (Borderline) PD Aspects, ADD, GAD with Panic Disorder, Anorexia Nervosa currently in partial remission. Treatment: Psychotherapy Mindfulness ![]() |
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YES! All the time. What I'm learning, though, is that they wouldn't offer to do these things if it wasn't something they wanted to do. We don't always have to earn or be able to justify someone else's kindness. It's really hard to accept, but I think there comes a point where you just kind of have to say to yourself - "they are being nice and I can accept that without feeling guilty or undeserving." I've found that the more I tell myself that, the more I start to believe it.
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I know logically that's not a healthy way to think and I deserve help as much as anyone else, but I'm just not used to having a Pdoc who is this good at doing his job to the point that he goes above and beyond for his patients. I think this might be something I need to work on. ![]()
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Diagnosis: Complex-PTSD, MDD with Psychotic Fx, Residual (Borderline) PD Aspects, ADD, GAD with Panic Disorder, Anorexia Nervosa currently in partial remission. Treatment: Psychotherapy Mindfulness ![]() |
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I'm sorry you can relate. I agree with what Blessed Rhiannon said though, we need to remind ourselves that we do deserve their help (even if the guilt starts kicking in).
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Diagnosis: Complex-PTSD, MDD with Psychotic Fx, Residual (Borderline) PD Aspects, ADD, GAD with Panic Disorder, Anorexia Nervosa currently in partial remission. Treatment: Psychotherapy Mindfulness ![]() |
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Accepting this stuff is a work in progress. It's worth talking about with your pdoc/T, but you might have to go with a bit of radical acceptance too.
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Diagnosis: Complex-PTSD, MDD with Psychotic Fx, Residual (Borderline) PD Aspects, ADD, GAD with Panic Disorder, Anorexia Nervosa currently in partial remission. Treatment: Psychotherapy Mindfulness ![]() |
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You deserve his kindness and generosity. Why not? Everyone deserves competent, compassionate healthcare. The fact that so many have to go without this is a problem with the system. I'm sure you're a good person, but that shouldn't be the point.
Anyway, if you're not doing it already, I'm sure that at some point you'll pay it forward when you're in a position to help someone who needs you. I have no doubt that your pdoc got many lucky breaks and much support along the way that allowed him to get as far as he has and he is now paying it forward with his kindness to you. |
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(((Willowbrook)))
This is great news. I think you can get used to it. Wouldn't you do it for someone if you could? My former T (also my Pdoc like yours) treated me weekly for free for an entire summer when I was having a really difficult time. I felt guilty and worried like you at first, but later, I accepted it 100%, and it didn't effect our sessions. Please don't think you have to be in any way different, such as more appreciative, less 'needy' because he is doing this for you. This is his compassion and he is giving it to you. Giving being the key word... ![]() Like Favorite Jeans said, pay it forward some day if it makes you feel better. In fact, that's a lovely concept. ![]() |
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Diagnosis: Complex-PTSD, MDD with Psychotic Fx, Residual (Borderline) PD Aspects, ADD, GAD with Panic Disorder, Anorexia Nervosa currently in partial remission. Treatment: Psychotherapy Mindfulness ![]() |
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I do try to pay stuff forward as well by just being supportive to friends who are going through similar stuff with MH issues and trying to make myself available to them if they need me. I guess I just sort of expect that I should be making this huge grand gesture of gratitude towards my Pdoc because I'm not used to this level of someone going out of their way to really help me. I'm a lot better than I used to be, but I do struggle with self esteem issues which I think does tie into the whole 'feeling undeserving' stuff. I know my Pdoc is trying to work on lifting my self esteem by telling me all the positives he sees in me, it's just still hard for me to accept that stuff is true though hence the feelings of being undeserving. I might include some of this stuff in my next pre-session notes so Pdoc and I can talk about it more. ![]()
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Diagnosis: Complex-PTSD, MDD with Psychotic Fx, Residual (Borderline) PD Aspects, ADD, GAD with Panic Disorder, Anorexia Nervosa currently in partial remission. Treatment: Psychotherapy Mindfulness ![]() |
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