Trouble remembering

When I was a child, I can remember my father telling me I did things that I didn't do, said things I didn't say, saw things I didn't see, heard things I didn't hear and vise versa. I then remember questioning my memories. Everything I thought I remembered, I would doubt ever happening. could this be a root to current problems remembering almost everything that is important? If so, what can I do to remedy this? I don't want to have to write everything down because I don't even remember that I did.

My meds cause me some memory loss & foggy thinking. My T recommended another T who has you do specific exercises to improve memory & recall. I don't remember much of my childhood, but what I do remember makes me not want to remember the rest!--Suzy

I'm not clear if your father told you things about when you were a child or told you things when you were a child as you say.

Can you ask an aunt/uncle/sibling/friend's mother, etc. about a story or two to check what he's saying and how he perceived things? What sorts of things are you talking about; you could have had an "imaginary friend" like lots of kids have, and other "normal" situations you just don't remember because they're not particularly "important" to you. Or, my brother and I use to tease my niece (she's 46 now and the mother of 3 children, one of whom is getting ready to finish her first year of college) that she was a boy and try to convince her. Could your father have been a "big teaser?" How did your mother act in such situations? Just because you don't remember things in your childhood doesn't mean there's something wrong with your memory or what you do remember. We're all selective about what we remember and how we remember it and it's what you remember that is important for your life.

Invalidating environments are environments where people disregard our perceptions, thoughts, feelings etc. Over time... We can have serious doubts about our own perceptions, thoughts, feelings etc because people keep telling us that we feel something when we are pretty sure we do not etc.

I had that big time. Still have it about some things.

If you don't really know what is going on... Then I guess it can be hard to remember too...

Hello I hope you are doing well. Medications can cause memory loss, but since you were exposed to questions regarding your behavior and thoughts, possibly you are blocking out remembering, due to the trauma that you were exposed to as a child in not thinking or believing what you were hearing as a child was the truth Therefore it is possible, that you are afraid of remembering, for fear of rejection or inappropritateness of your actions, and you dont feel safe making decisions, due to the fact you dont feel you can make the right decision because you never learned to make your own decisions earlier in life, due to others interpretation of what was happening in your life when you were younger. so therefore you have to rely on paper and written arrangements for safety reasons in your life, because of a mistrust in what you think others percieve about what you are saying or doing . I hope your therapist can help you learn to take initiatives in your life that are healthy and you start to feel safer in making decisions without relying on paper to be your proof that you are safe. There is help for you and I hope you take full advantage of the fact that you can get help and be helped to feel somewhat safe again and have good boundaries in your life. Take care Sincerely Soidhonia.