Mad At T For Not Emailing Me Back

This is why lots of Ts dont email. You open that box and we get anxious if they dont immediately respond or respond how we wish. Because she did respond (appt reminder) but it wasnt what was wanted. So then we are mad. We want more than the hour a week. More than a response. More, more, more and if they dont we are mad. Really?

I believe the inconsistency is the issue here. It's not about whether email is appropriate or not: clearly in your therapeutic relationship, email is allowed and you've appreciated it in the past, as I do with my therapist.

So, I empathize with how hard it is to wait for a reply from someone who is so supportive and caring in our lives when we are struggling. I hope she clarifies with you what you can expect from her regarding emails and that it's a satisfying answer.

I think you have every right to discuss it with her and I am sure it is hard to confess to how important hearing back from her is, but... perhaps it will not be a surprise to her, perhaps she will appreciate your honesty and desire for clarity. They're all good therapeutic goals.

Actually I'm not /: I don't know why the parts thing came up for me....It was just something I started saying to my T during sessions from very early on. But I know just a little about IFS through another poster on this boards suggestion that I look it up (after mentioning "parts" in one of my posts a long while back). I know - kinda weird. I've actually thought about finding an IFS therapist since mine doesn't seem to be doing it.

I know the anxiety feeling while waiting for email replies from anyone. I would speak to your T and ask her what her email boundaries are to help ease things for yourself.