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Old Mar 24, 2014, 02:26 AM
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I've noticed a lot lately that when I read threads on this board that ask about our T or when I think of therapy, I think of my previous T: "K".

I saw her October 2010-June 2012, mostly once a week, with a few twice weekly sessions and frequent between session contact. I lived in another state Aug 2012-May2013 and briefly had some therapy there, but nothing more than a few sessions. I did have one in-person session with K last March and one phone session last April. In summer 2013, I began seeing my current T: "S", but not as frequently. I previously met with her Aug 2007-Aug 2008 for individual and group, when I was in college and dealing with an eating disorder. S helped me tremendously, and I was attached and sad when I moved away and no longer could see her or even communicate with her (as she went on maternity leave shortly after my move).

Even in my current job as a youth mentor, though, I often think of how K conducted therapy when considering how I should be with the kids. I haven't had contact with K in nearly a year, and have worked with S in the past extensively and now, but K is still the first T that comes to mind when I read the board or think of therapy. I have to remind myself that she's not my T anymore, though I've sometimes answered threads as if she were. I'm not sure what to make of this. I'll see S in a few weeks, as money is tight right now and I can't afford to pay for a session at the moment- in fact, I'm paying her this week for a session from February. I'll bring it up with her then, but I've also got so much else to talk about in session. I just feel weird about still having this attachment to K. But heck, I still remember my ex bf's phone number and we haven't had contact in three years. Stupid attachment issues...

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Old Mar 24, 2014, 02:52 AM
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I think you are right. It is all about attachment.
I post much more about my ex-T than my current T.
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Old Mar 24, 2014, 04:35 AM
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It is attachment I still think of t1 as my t and that was three years ago and I still think I am with my ex even though that was three years since we split.
Did you and your t split in good terms or was there some unfinished business Rainbow? I know this is why I still hold into then and attach to those relationships so much because there was never closure and I cling to some hope.
It's so hard but I think once you sit with these feeling and figure out what they want and need to move on it might help?
I am trying to do this now and it's very hard because I get caught up with feeling close to them again instead of separating .

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Old Mar 24, 2014, 11:50 AM
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Because she's not there.
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Old Mar 25, 2014, 08:20 AM
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I still think a lot about my old T. We never really had closure. It still hurts. My postings here are about my current T.
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Old Mar 25, 2014, 09:06 PM
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Did you and your t split in good terms or was there some unfinished business Rainbow? I know this is why I still hold into then and attach to those relationships so much because there was never closure and I cling to some hope.
It's so hard but I think once you sit with these feeling and figure out what they want and need to move on it might help?
I am trying to do this now and it's very hard because I get caught up with feeling close to them again instead of separating .
Well, my job was ending and I applied to grad school and got into one across the country, so I went. I had plenty of preparation, but didn't really want to leave, I just didn't know what I was going to do there anymore. It's hard for me to move on, because I'd love to go back since most of my friends live out there (though now I'm living closer to family- left grad school last year bc I hated it and living in such a cold place).

Thanks for the support. I just miss my old T a lot this week
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