[melania]

People here are so open and talks a lot about their personal life, so I thought- am I the only one who afraids that someone who I know can read my posts and recognize it's me?

I told my therapist about the forum some time ago because we had a discussion about hugs and wanted to show him that it's normal part of therapy, so I told him about this forum.
So he knows I'm here and easy can find me.

Does anyone know you are here? Aren't you afraid they could find you?

I'm just very paranoid, I'm sorry.

No, I really don't worry about it. The only person who vaguely knows I post here is my husband, and I'm not even sure he knows what website this is. He's not interested. Otherwise, I don't think anyone I know would really be interested enough (or weird enough) to actually hunt down this website, figure out which username is mine, and read my posts. And honestly, even if someone I know were to read my posts, nothing I have written is particularly secret information.

[stopdog]

I don't think I am interesting enough for others to come looking for me. I also don't reveal much personal information. Mildly Depressed/anxious lawyers are a dime a dozen.
Plus, from my reading of very old threads to the present ones, no one is really all that unique. We tend to fall into similar types with the same topics and types of responses cycling over and over.

Yes, I am very conscious of staying anonymous. This is an extremely public forum, and everything we post is indexed by Google. I don't think anybody would search for me here, but I worry about being found by accident. So using very general terms and not writing anything too specific about my life or therapy is an important thing for me.

[melania]

Originally Posted by Mastodon

Yes, I am very conscious of staying anonymous. This is an extremely public forum, and everything we post is indexed by Google. I don't think anybody would search for me here, but I worry about being found by accident. So using very general terms and not writing anything too specific about my life or therapy is an important thing for me.

I completely agree with you, I regret I wasn't so smart before I wrote here all of my sick thoughts, I wish to delete everything.

[stopdog]

I think you can contact the mods and ask to have your threads deleted if you really want them gone.

[melania]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I think you can contact the mods and ask to have your threads deleted if you really want them gone.

On one hand I want to ask them to delete everything but on other hand I hate to be so paranoid that I can't even talk here without fears.

I will think about it.

[HazelGirl]

No one knows I post here. The only person who might be able to recognize me is my T, and I seriously doubt she is looking over this forum for me. So I'm not too worried about it.

[Lauliza]

The posts on this forum can be found via a google search. But so long as your user name doesn't identify you I guess it wouldn't matter. I didn't think about that at first so I had to change my user name. You can also have posts deleted by the moderater if you want.

[marmaduke]

I don't think anyone would recognize me. I don't think anyone would be that interested.
But its a good idea to change small details anyway, just in case.

I think this is at least part of the reason the instructions, when you register, tell you not to use the same user-name you use on other websites. Personally, I don't care. I'm older & I don't have any friends or family so there's no one to care one way or another. Besides, I hid for decades & what did it get me? If somebody doesn't like it, they can suck eggs!

[CameraObscura]

My t would be able to recognize me here if he went through everything I posted here and put the details together. I've never mentioned this site to him, and he has a life, so I'm not worried.

I can see your concern, though. Google forgets nothing, and shares everything.

[Webgoji]

Lol, if someone read my posts then maybe they would actually start listening to what I'm telling them.

[Alone & confused]

Me personally, I wouldn't care WHO sees my posts. I am HIGHLY opinionated, and VERY outspoken. I never say anything here that I would not say to ANYONE who would listen! I understand though that some of you here have some very delicate issues that you would want to keep private, and for your sakes I hope we are protected here. But I would LOVE to have an even more public place to air out my grievances and complaints and opinions about several things that I find wrong with the world! (not that anyone would care or even listen!) But after YEARS of abuse, & shame & fear, I'M TIRED of suffering in silence, and I'm no longer afraid to talk to ANYONE about ANYTHING. I WILL NOT BE ANYONE'S SILENT VICTIM ANYMORE!! Of occurs course I WILL ALWAYS protect other peoples privacy though. But, as for me & all MY problems, I have come out of hiding, and will expose my darkness to the light!

[brillskep]

Only one friend knows about which forum it is I'm on (and he doesn't know my screen name or what sub-forums I use). I care a great deal about my privacy and I know I've found threads on PC by googling therapy-related topics, but I guess it's up to every one of us to assess how recognizable we are. I think one would have to look really hard an read many of my posts to recognize me. I keep as anonymous as possible while still giving some details about my life, so I'm confident no one I know could find me here.

[melania]

I wrote to mod message to delete two of my threads of other subforums.
I'm not so scared about my therapy posts which also is sick as much I'm worrying about threads where I'm talking about other things in my life.

[HealingTimes]

I read more than I post ( I feel invisible and like I don't fit in here) and never post something that would identify me to anyone I know (other than my T).

My T knows that I have posted on a forum, but she doesn't know I have posted on this particular one. If she were to come on here (and I highly doubt it) she would definitely realise its me...but that doesn't really bother me.

[Mactastic]

No one knows I post here, especially my T. I hear some people talking to their T's about this site and I can't imagine....why on earth would anyone want their T's to know about it? I value my privacy too much.

[Silent Void]

No one gives a crap about me here or elsewhere, so I don't worry about it.

[Crescent Moon]

Assuming real names aren't used, I can't imagine how anyone could be found even by search engine. And being vague about location, and being mindful about not using a bunch of specific details about yourself would make it difficult for even your family or best friend to be sure it's you.

[Aloneandafraid]

I'm worried. Anxious. What am I doing? Why?

[rainbow8]

Originally Posted by Aloneandafraid

I'm worried. Anxious. What am I doing? Why?

Are you referring to posting on here, or in general? Are you okay?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Silent Void

No one gives a crap about me here or elsewhere, so I don't worry about it.

My feelings exactly! Theres a line in the musical "Bye Bye Birdie" where the dad is complaining that no one respects him, and his little son pipes up, "i respect ya, pa!" And the dad goes, "I dont want your respect!"

[melania]

People very often talk about me (it's not my imagination, it's reality), I often know something new about myself which is not true. it made me paranoid. They talk bad things.
They often make rumours about each other and I hate it.

[RTerroni]

I have thought that before and honestly my username makes it easy to detect me, but than again I have told my Therapist repeatedly that I post on here and she doesn't mind it.