The answer is: (Couch) 84. The question is...

Everyone got stars so there would be no need to comment upon just having the star.
My mother thought I was an odd child and that it reflected poorly upon her. Also, I believe, she was worried about how someone as odd as I was would get along in the world.

...I didn't give a ****.

I was the same with a different reason lol

It really bothers me Stopdog when a parent believes their child's oddities/differences/personality/etc. is a negative reflection of themselves. To me it's a problem with differentiation, not wanting the child to be their own person...
Mind you though, I say this as a parent, and with my own situation in mind. I love hearing your perspective. It makes me think...

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I got a gold star on my name tag at the wildlife clinic a few weeks back. They do that when a volunteer hits a certain number of hours...it gives me more privileges. I have to admit, I kind of beamed a bit. I have always been an over-achiever. It's funny though, after a day of beaming, I was checking into the next "level" and how long it would take me to get there. Then I chastised myself for being "behind".

My dogs have always loved the snow (except one). I towel dry her toes, she'd never wear booties. She hates her coat too, so she just gets to freeze. They don't use salt on the roads here because it gets into the water tables, so I don't have to worry about her pads too much.

Ready...No, I didn't find one. I am back to not wanting a t again.

My dogs like it until it gets into their toes. Both the breed I have now and my siberian mix have had trouble. Even when I trim the hair - little ice pellets form. I tried boots which they rejected and refused to move in as well as bag balm/ointment type of stuff. I am glad we do not usually get much snow here.

So. I'm going on a trip in a week. Just me - no kids.

I have two things that I don't know how to bring up with my lovely hostess - the first is that I have super sensitive skin. If my sheets are washed in anything fragrant, or Tide, I will break out in hives. My mother forgot once to wash the sheets before I came up (she immediately started using fragrance when I left home) and I ended up itching all night even after Benadryl.

Second, I have a dietary issue that some see as faddish (I'm not trying to be faddish, but the research hasn't been definitive - all I know is I don't end up in the bathroom with gastro pain if I cut out this particular food - my doc thinks it's legit and my father and grandmother had the same issues).

In both cases I thought about messaging her and saying, "Hey, I have these two issues. If you'll let me know the size of the bed, I'll bring my own sheets so you don't have to do anything special. As for food, I can buy some of my own stuff and eat cheese quesadillas if need be so you don't have to make anything special or weird."

I think it would be perfectly acceptable to message your friend Nowhere. She wouldn't want you to be miserable I'm sure.

I would not get into laundry issues with a host - I would get something like this:
Amazon.com : Amadora Luxury Double Brushed Microfiber Travel Sheet/Sleep Sack : Sleeping Bag Liners : Sports & Outdoors

It's raining and cold here. I'd give almost anything for an open fire and a comfy couch. And a nice cup of tea.
House hunting is getting me down. Seems like everything I look at either I can't show enough income or my situation otherwise disqualifies me... Sucks.

I wish you could come visit, JS. You would get tea, couch, and open fire.

My mum too! It was annoying at the time, but looking back I suppose it was a kind of love. I think she would have been relieved if she had lived long enough to see my daughter.

Weird kids don't always die alone in the gutter, Mum.

PS:

She wasn't actually that pushy on grades.

SD I'm sorry to hear about your star situation as a child, I had the same parents as you! If I made straight A's they would get mad because I didn't get perfect attendance. Go figure! But my little sister was so horrible and awful that it was my JOB to be perfect. Here I can't let go of that even now.

Shakey, you wanna move in with me? I've got plenty of people already, one more small family won't make a huge difference!

I had PT this morning then took the little one to play therapy, I just love play therapy. I wish I could sign myself up for it LOL but I'm afraid it would cause the MHC to roll their eyes at me.

Happy Friday couchies! Sorry to hear some of you don't love the weekend, I just love sleeping late. Sorry I was such a downer yesterday, I was having a pity party day. It's all blown away now. Thanks for putting up with me!

Yes. But that was how it was back then. Women had no status of their own and could only wear the reflected glory of husbands and children. There are still plenty of cultures like that, unfortunately.

I have some compassion for those who have to live in a culture different from the one they grew up in - everybody.

Elephant in the room:

PC uses a gold star reward system, issuing titles and icons for seniority

That's a good plan. But phoning her would be even better.

True enough

I am applying the concept to my own situation though - I have a SNs child. And a lot of Stuff...
I've been in the position of being blamed for his disabilities - something that happens to women pretty often actually, being shamed for not having a 'perfect' child, whatever that is. And then there's the pressure on my daughter to be the one who makes up for everything. So it bothers me for a lot of reasons.

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Hugs JS!

I'm only a few months in, but I think I understand that struggle.

Thanks - but it was not that bad for me. I had the sibling for outward perfection - he was a lot more into that than I was. I was just sort of laughing at it remembering how it frustrated my mother that things like that just did not get me to care if I did not otherwise care in some fashion - whereas the sibling cared a lot.
And then I laugh because the breed of dog I like is sort of the same way - if I take a class with a lot of my breed in it as well as other herding breeds, all of my kind sort of sit back like "let the border collie get the sheep- we will take a nap, maybe get a biscuit from your pocket and watch that type A dog have it"

Haha. I don't even have her phone number ^^ I should probably handle that.

I am once again feeling like everyone in my life hates me now AGAIN . crap has gone on and I am still blowing everything up .im completely reactive and cant seem to take a breath . I don't know what is real and what is in my head and what has anything to do with me . I have been so reactive I have angered some people who are now trying to make things even worse for me I don't know how to fix any of this .I have already apologized but there has been no response except to send horrible e mails to other people causing more hurt

I've sat staring at this quick reply box for so long. I will write a line... then erase... then write another... then erase. I just can't form thoughts.

Annoying.

I'm like that a lot lately. Where to begin...?

Yeah. Pretty much. You know I journal every day. All sorts of different things... The same things... Yet I don't know what I need. Frustrating.

Anybody else wonder what a mome was what it outgrabe rathfully. I know its just words but They are wonderful ononatapoic (?spelling) words some of them. You can see the landscape and the jabberwocky and bandersnatches. Wish i was that clever. i also didnt know until i was in my 20's that C.S. Lewis wrote adult books as well.

I do this all the time. For me its about being vunerable. Usually i end up posting some fluff.