How to prep for 2nd session

Lauliza · Feb 14, 2015, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Orvel

If someone insults you and you in that moment feel desensitization and don't react to this insult, your response to the situation is not appropriate. It's a defense mechanism and there is nothing wrong with it, it just isn't the response you should be having.

I don't think this is necessarily true, at least the way it's worded. It's true people usually go to therapy because something needs to change, but it's not always behavior.

Orvel · Feb 14, 2015, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Lauliza

I don't think this is necessarily true, at least the way it's worded. It's true people usually go to therapy because something needs to change, but it's not always behavior.

No, but the behavior certainly changes as the result of inner change.

I went to psychotherapy because of anxiety and low confidence, but these are not the things we are trying to change. These things will change when the deeper issues are resolved.

This got too off topic.

stopdog · Feb 14, 2015, 07:12 PM

I disagree that behavior is always something that need change. But I am not letting the woman have free rein with me. She does not get to just mess around and try to fix or change stuff I don't want messed with or changed.

x123 · Feb 16, 2015, 02:05 PM

Thanks, everybody.

I guess I should have said that I summarized my biography and psychological history. You guys are right that it isn't covered yet. (But I was talking pretty fast.

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ragsnfeathers · Feb 16, 2015, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Knittingismytherapy

I'm not sure that it is even that I need to find my own way to what works. I get the impression that it's just the way he runs things; we own our own therapy experience. He is not an instructor or a leader or boss or authority in any way; he is a facilitator in our growth. It is my room, my safe place, somewhere I'm always in control. Or maybe it is because I experienced csa and bullying and a bunch of other crap that messed with my head, and took away my control, and now I'm dealing with the fall out, and need a safe place for that.

Ultimately I am in control, but T is helping actually slow me down, because I'm flying ahead so fast that im actually not in control or able to handle it yet.

Makes sense. It's probably the way my T works in general, too. Makes me feel free in there, besides safe. Sounds like your T has a good balance of steering when it would be helpful without him controlling the session.

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