[growlithing]

I miss LCM so much. She went on vacation for two weeks in India. I can't talk to her at all and I can't stop crying. I feel like she died. I know she hasn't. I miss her so much. I feel so lost without knowing she'd be there if I needed her.

[ruiner]

I'm so sorry. Ugh I know that feeling and in a few months I'll be feeling it again, but for like 5 - 6 months ( I think)... T's pregnant. (Not trying to hijack the thread or trying to say mine is any "worse" than yours, just that I know how you feel and I'm not looking forward to it)

It's such an awful feeling and I wish I had words to say to make it feel a little bit better.

[growlithing]

Originally Posted by ruiner

I'm so sorry. Ugh I know that feeling and in a few months I'll be feeling it again, but for like 5 - 6 months ( I think)... T's pregnant. (Not trying to hijack the thread or trying to say mine is any "worse" than yours, just that I know how you feel and I'm not looking forward to it)

It's such an awful feeling and I wish I had words to say to make it feel a little bit better.

I believe I got drunk once and told her to never have more kids. She laughed hard and said she wasn't planning on it.

I just want her to come home.

[Myrto]

I'm sorry, it is unbelievably hard.
My T takes all the holidays that possibly exist and during those times, it's agony because I miss her so much.

I'm really sorry. I know it's awful. try to distract yourself.

[A Red Panda]

Why not try to distract yourself by doing something that would make her proud of you? Like going to have a shower. Picking up some garbage. Etc. etc. You might cry right through it but at least you'll be showing her and yourself that you aren't putting your entire life on hold while she goes to enjoy her vacation.

[growlithing]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

Why not try to distract yourself by doing something that would make her proud of you? Like going to have a shower. Picking up some garbage. Etc. etc. You might cry right through it but at least you'll be showing her and yourself that you aren't putting your entire life on hold while she goes to enjoy her vacation.

I actually am trying to do this! I'm trying to do at least one thing every day that would make her proud of me even though it hurts.
Yesterday, I forced myself to shower. Today, I'm going to dinner with an old friend that's that's taking grad school auditions. I know it isn't a lot, but it's something.

[BlessedRhiannon]

Originally Posted by growlithing

I actually am trying to do this! I'm trying to do at least one thing every day that would make her proud of me even though it hurts.
Yesterday, I forced myself to shower. Today, I'm going to dinner with an old friend that's that's taking grad school auditions. I know it isn't a lot, but it's something.

Please don't minimize your progress. These are big things for you to do, especially as you struggle with her being gone. Take pride in the fact that you are managing to accomplish things inspite of how you're feeling!

[clairelisbeth]

Originally Posted by growlithing

I actually am trying to do this! I'm trying to do at least one thing every day that would make her proud of me even though it hurts.
Yesterday, I forced myself to shower. Today, I'm going to dinner with an old friend that's that's taking grad school auditions. I know it isn't a lot, but it's something.

This is REALLY awesome and I'm so glad to hear it. It's so hard when a member of your support system is away and you aren't able to have contact-I get it. My pdoc often goes out of the country for 2 to as many as 6 weeks over the summer, and it sucks and I miss her a lot.

Keep reminding yourself of the reality of the situation: LC HASN'T died, she IS coming back, and you STILL have your connection-just as strong and special as before. It hasn't changed one bit.

[divine1966]

She will be back. Mine goes away a lot and always happens to be always gone when I have crisis, dang it. I don't miss her but I worry how I am going to manage when she is gone ....hang in there. Baby steps....

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[Jordy]

Missing a T can be really hard on you, but if you keep doing one small thing everyday she will be so proud of you. Try imagining her when you tell her all you have acomplished while she was away...

this often works for me to get through difficult times.

[growlithing]

Originally Posted by Jordy

Missing a T can be really hard on you, but if you keep doing one small thing everyday she will be so proud of you. Try imagining her when you tell her all you have acomplished while she was away...

this often works for me to get through difficult times.

Yeah. She's gonna be happy with some of it at least. I've managed to distract myself for a while too.

[Polibeth]

Good for you for finding some distractions. She WILL be back!

[A Red Panda]

Originally Posted by growlithing

I actually am trying to do this! I'm trying to do at least one thing every day that would make her proud of me even though it hurts.
Yesterday, I forced myself to shower. Today, I'm going to dinner with an old friend that's that's taking grad school auditions. I know it isn't a lot, but it's something.

That's great growli!! And hey, it's like 100% more than you might have done even a year ago.

Progress is progress. Don't knock it! Hell, I still also have days where I'm like "w00t! I got in the shower!" .... normally I do love showers once I get in there, but I go through stages of depression where it's just so damn hard to care.

Success is success Keep it up!

[growlithing]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

That's great growli!! And hey, it's like 100% more than you might have done even a year ago.

Progress is progress. Don't knock it! Hell, I still also have days where I'm like "w00t! I got in the shower!" .... normally I do love showers once I get in there, but I go through stages of depression where it's just so damn hard to care.

Success is success Keep it up!

Well my distraction made me sad and it is still painful without her. I hope her flight was good and that she's safe and happy.

[growlithing]

Holy **** holy **** I really wish LCM was home. I got this guy's number. And I'm really nervous

[growlithing]

Originally Posted by growlithing

Holy **** holy **** I really wish LCM was home. I got this guy's number. And I'm really nervous

Yeah I don't think I can do this without her. I'm petrified.

[~Christina]

Growli, Breathe.

Your going to be okay, Toss out the guys phone number and draw a picture to give your LC when she gets back. You got this. Do you work tomorrow?

[growlithing]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Growli, Breathe.

Your going to be okay, Toss out the guys phone number and draw a picture to give your LC when she gets back. You got this. Do you work tomorrow?

No I have rehearsal. I have to miss work.

I'm in so far over my head with this. I want LCM to hold me and tell me everything will be okay. Wait I have that recording of her talking to me. I don't know if I want to bawl my eyes out though.

[~Christina]

Well you have stuff to do tomorrow , that's the main point! Good.

Your not in over your head. Your LC is going to come back and she is going to love to hear how you self soothed while you were apart for what really is a small amount of time. You have coping skills, right now you feel rattled, but you have them keep using them until they stick!

Just breathe.

[growlithing]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Well you have stuff to do tomorrow , that's the main point! Good.

Your not in over your head. Your LC is going to come back and she is going to love to hear how you self soothed while you were apart for what really is a small amount of time. You have coping skills, right now you feel rattled, but you have them keep using them until they stick!

Just breathe.

I listened to the recording. I cried. My heart isn't pounding anymore.

I meant that me talking to guys at all even without trying to meet up with any is way over my head right now. I can't do that without her being in town.

She will be proud of me ish. I've still gotten drunk every day since she's left.

[~Christina]

Drinking is what is causing you to wallow and fret about her being gone, Put down the booze, pour it down the drain, get engaged in your life, Your LC would tell you to not have another drink and you know this. So honor her wishes.

Be happy knowing that your LC is on a much deserved vacation and that your able to keep your shyt together to be full of tales of you using skills to help yourself when shes back. That is a huge gift you can give her.

Im going to go curl up with my Kindle and get lost in a book. Maybe you could try the same thing.

[growlithing]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Drinking is what is causing you to wallow and fret about her being gone, Put down the booze, pour it down the drain, get engaged in your life, Your LC would tell you to not have another drink and you know this. So honor her wishes.

Be happy knowing that your LC is on a much deserved vacation and that your able to keep your shyt together to be full of tales of you using skills to help yourself when shes back. That is a huge gift you can give her.

Im going to go curl up with my Kindle and get lost in a book. Maybe you could try the same thing.

Well I actually wallow and fret about her being gone while I'm sober too. And I cry about it. I feel abandoned even though I know I wasn't abandoned.

I'm happy she gets a break. I'm sad because I miss her and worry about her.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by growlithing

Holy **** holy **** I really wish LCM was home. I got this guy's number. And I'm really nervous

What guy?

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[divine1966]

What guy?
Is this a dating site you meeting them on? Or a hook up? I don't think you are in a good mental state to meet someone for a date (drinking not showering etc) you will one day not not now, but if it is just sex then it is plain dangerous. Just scary what could happen, number of dangerous things! Throw away the number

Ok daily drinking leads to addiction and there is no way back, very few recover from alcoholism. I am yet to meet anyone who feels better when or after they drink. It is just an illusion. Please stop drinking anything is better than that!

Do you ever go on chats on this forum. When I was very depressed I did and it helped to get through few tough nights. Please try it



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