What would your T do if...

What would your T do if you messaged asking for an earlier appointment (T doesn't reply bc out of service area) then you miss your next scheduled appointment and don't reply to any calls or e-mails from T (if they were sent, but probably wouldn't be.)

What would your T's response be? Do nothing? Call you? E-mail you? Send the police to check on you?

I only have two sessions left before we are done, and I kind of just want to not go anymore, never communicate with her again at all in any way.

I think I'll send her a text canceling my session and if she replies then I'll ignore it.

Depends on the circumstances of the request

Go to your session.

She would call me in response to the request for an earlier appointment and if I missed a scheduled appointment she would definitely call, probably 10 or 15 minutes into the appointment because she would be concerned. I am never late and never miss appointments without notice. If she couldn't get in touch, she would reach out to my emergency contact. Why do you ask, IRL?

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My T would call me - this happened recently by accident and T said they were really concerned about me - that made me feel guilty

Bill you and/or your insurer for the missed session.

unfortunately for her, my insurance doesn't play those kinds of games.

No face to face contact? No billing. And not allowed to bill me privately, either.

Why not just leave a message canceling your appointments?

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My insurance doesn't allow billing without face to face contact either; however, when I started with my therapist, I signed a paper saying that if I missed a session, I would be responsible for the entire cost of the missed session if I no showed.

That said, if I didn't show up on a normal day, my therapist would call. If I had been in crisis the last time we met, he would call the police to check up on me.

she can't. i have medicare. shes already in murky territory charging me so much for e-mails. shes not allowed to take cash from me for anything, so if i no show then i no show. if she bills me its considered fraud from my insurance POV.

besides, shes spent so many of my sessions sitting in silence, she should really be giving a lot of thought to giving them back their money for those very many sessions, not charging more for no shows.

Ditto this. I don't see any reason to play games and hope she gets the message. Why not just tell her you're not coming back and be done with it?

I don't know - I call or email to cancel If I am not going to the appointment.
Why don't you call or write and just leave a message that you are finished with her?

The question in my mind is, do you really want to be done with her or is this a last attempt to elicit an emotional/caring response from her?

I guess T would call me sometime into my missed session as I've never no showed before. If she couldn't get a hold of me I guess she would now call her husband and ask if I showed up to work and how I looked last time he saw me.

My T or her receptionist would probably call since it would be out of character for me. If I ignored her communication then she'd leave it alone. Definitely wouldnt call the police and most wouldn't unless there's a crisis situation. If you really don't want to go, it's best to call and cancel as a courtesy. I would also be charged the full price of the session if I didn't show (they can't bill insurance so they bill the patient instead).

I would just text or call and cancel it.

I don't really understand why the need to not be straight forward? I live in the same country as you and I would love to get Medicare coverage for t appts. I don't. Others are probably on wait lists, as I'm sure you know, and could use the spots if you have decided to be done.

I wouldn't intentionally miss a session, but if I did my T would text me and ask where I was, and if I didn't reply to that I'm sure he'd call... If I ignored that I imagine he would email and say he wasn't sure what was wrong but bye.

I feel like that is playing a game with your therapist. I think it would be better to be responsible and cancel, so she knows ahead of time.

My T would call (several times probably), then email and then call the police. I've never not shown up...not even been late once.

But like others have asked...why the game? Why not just cancel?

I think no ones going to miss one appointment...

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Can you please explain this?

I mean it's not the end of the world and no ones gonna die bc I no show one appointment

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I think it would be easiest to just call and cancel and be done with it.

IRL...I hate to see you feeling so down like this. But you're right...no one is going to die and the world will not end if you "no show" an appointment. But honestly, why are you refusing to just cancel the appointment? Why is it so important to you just to "no show"?

Twice that I've been late, I got a text message after about 20 minutes.