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I think there are different communication types. I don't get most emotional communication at all unless almost bludgeoned with it. When I do get it, I almost never understand the responses others give around it. My partner and I almost have to respond in a completely opposite way to each other than we would naturally do if one or the other is upset.

Yes, there are different communication types, and most people communicate in different ways with different people. (Like how you don't play with your T, but you might play with your friends.) There are dozens of different factors that govern how we communicate and gender is not one of the most important ones. It does factor, in some contexts, but always in combination with other, more significant variables. Gender on its own makes no discernible difference.

I get worked up about other things. People making generalities about men and women and communication is not the thing that bothers me much.
I have had criminal defense clients tell me I talk like a man (usually ones who are used to manipulating women and cannot figure out how to charm me because I am not responding appropriately in their mind).

I'm imagining this wily man running into "no" in response to every trick listed on the flowchart. Smile convincingly, did that work? No. Arrow points to step 2 lean towards the listener, did that work? No. Etc. etc. until he runs into the large blinking sign at the end: TELL HER THE TRUTH!!!! Said in Robin Williams booming Genie voice from Aladdin.

Afternoon couch. Showered. Bag of potato chips for lunch. Tried to be "social" and watch TV with housemate. Waiting for mail to come to see if house dog's bark box comes. Supposed to be here on Monday at the latest, so it could get here today.

Just waiting for it to come time to leave for work now. Hour and a half to go.

Good for you. It does bother me, but that is my problem, not anybody else's. Does it bother you at all when people make assertive but misleading statements about legal matters?

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Not usually on legal matters - I will chime in about being aware different jurisdictions work in their own ways- because what works in one state may not in another.
I, for example, get worked up more about what I perceive as people telling other people what they have to do or what they should do or that they are wrong in their choices for their own lives or when people are advised that a bad therapist or a therapist who is not working out well is their fault.
It doesn't bother everyone -but it does me.

I need a holiday to recover from the stress of planning one.

Yes, obviously man/woman is a gross oversimplification. But I like gross oversimplifications. It gives an illusion of knowledge with no real intellectual effort.

I find vacations stressful too.

It has been so long since i had a holidy i wouldnt know what to do. Relax? Whats that?

Hankster inspired me to make kimchi fried rice with tofu - delicious.

How to cook tofu. Step one, throw in garbage. Step two, grill some meat.

Glad it turned out well and yummy for your taste buds 😊.

I guess I sorta like the gross oversimplification myself, because then I don't have to feel so guilty about my own misunderstanding. "it's not me, it's because he's a man."

My favorite kind!!

I need some advice or opinions or something. I have an issue I want to discuss regarding myDs with my ex. Its something I can decide for myself but would like his perspective. We had a appt to discuss this but i wasnt feeling well and cancelled but now he is not answering my calls of textts I have called twice and texted once. I feel I should leave him to respond as if he is ignoring me it is his problem right?

Just got back home a little bit ago from the Reiki class, what a beautiful experience. I don't think I have ever felt such a sense of deep calm as I felt there learning and practicing with my fellow students. It was this feeling of "I am absolutely supposed to be here, doing this, right now."

Ha! You should try having a conversation with some of the people my job has brought me into contact with (he alternative health industry attracts some, ah, interesting people...)
I have talked with people who apparently used to be CEOs, scientists, doctors, cured cancer, you name it. Somehow they never managed to harvest the fruits of these achievements... They like to blame the government and Big Pharma. I'm not so sure myself

Ball's in his court BPA. You're right- it's his problem.

Thanks just needed some reassurance I wasn't being petty and cruel. Well maybe just a bit

Also should the onus always be on me and the girls to contact him? he seems to think it is. The girls both have phones and he can always ring them anytime.Or is it some sort of power game he is playing, trying to make out he is the victim? I dont know why this is preying on my mind so much. I need SD to remind me that he is not a friend again.

Evening couch. Just had a fattening salad. It was by far not a helathy salad. Lol.

On my way home from work, I stopped at Walmart and bought a premade chef salad (lettuce, tomoatoes, cheddar cheese, ham, turkey). It comes with ranch dressing, but I don't like ranch, so I bought some Italian to put on it. While I was doign so, I deicded I needed croutons too. Then that turned into wanting to add bacon pieces, pepperonis, more cheese (I bought a 5 Italian shredded cheese blend), olives, and sunflower kernals. So I had a heaping salad for a late supper. With everything I added, it was far from a healthy salad. Oh well, it tasted good and that's what matters to me. :-P

Dang it...

I am still hungry. Maybe I'll add a can of soup. Now to decided on vegetable or chicken noodle.

I wonder how healed and RTS are?