What does your T look like?

Mine is quite tall - at least 6'. She's kind of on the plump side, but not in a roundish way. She has dark, shoulder-length hair, and a kind, maternal face. She's now in her late 50's. What's always been interesting to me is that she dresses really feminine, which is a contrast with her body type & size. But she doesn't dress in young clothes - they match her age. She is pleasant-looking. Not creepy, ugly, or extremely beautiful.

I don't have a picture of anyone who looks like her.

Ha. Not really - neither woman is lovably clueless. The first one is more of a machiavellian Wile E. coyote in Nancy Walker's body.

I can't ever work out how to post an image on here


Hmmm. Help?

And wow to some of your T's! No wonder there's so many erotic transference threads on here....

Does this work?

http://www.unitedagents.co.uk/sites/...ture%20(1).png

Eta. Yes she is totally hot. I thank you.
When I write eta, my ipad auto corrects to 'tea', funny that....

I got the photo. And wow your T must be really hot if she looks like this.

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New T is almost identical to Melissa Joan Hart, just more petite.

Ex-T looks similar to Olivia Wilde.

I've tried searching under every permutation of 'Asian Man' I can think of, and I can't find a single photo that matches even close to what my Psychiatrist looks like - Um, let's see, he's 5'7, small frame, slight build but still muscular, wears glasses, has a pretty basic spikey business crew cut type hair style, really nice features, yeah he's pretty adorable to me in a non transferential kinda way.

Scarlet, both your T's are hot!

I have a huge crush on Olivia Wilde

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except T has a lot more black hair than white and wears glasses.

Bea Arthur is one of the least disturbing ones posted so far.

Hah, Melissa, Olivia, and you mentioning Ellen Pompeo earlier, do we got some nice looking Ts or what? I mean it's easier if Ts looked like Carrot Top or something and nobody had a crush on them (lol, I bet he got a lot of crushes no less) but I got to say, as a hetero guy I find it very difficult when I'm with nice looking female Ts and supposed to have intimacy and closeness and not have a crush or get distracted....

My ex-T that looks like Olivia Wilde also has the most beautiful bright blue eyes I've ever seen irl. Like Nicole Kidman's eyes. It was so easy to have eye contact with her. And she had a toned athletic body. About 5'6".

Good thing I'm not attracted to women because, yeah, she's gorgeous.

Interestingly, my ex-T didn't realize how beautiful she is. I complimented her once and it was hard for her to accept. And she hates taking pictures.

Psychodynamic T looks like a much slimmer version of rob reiner. PsychD T is in his early 70's. He's easy
https://img.washingtonpost.com/rw/20...1403444410.jpg

CBT is tougher. No single image captures him. It has to be a composite of parts.
He is either in his late 50's or early 60's. Curly dark brownish blackish hair with 5% silver throughout. Light Blue eyes. A goatee that looks something like the one Robert Downy Jr once had


His teeth are kinda too perfect and big though not quite as much as motivational guru Tony Robbins


He's about 5'7 or 5'8 and his body proportions are a lot like Hobbes from Calvin and Hobbes. He's all upper torso and slim hips (um not looking at his pelvis or anything.)



ps add a dash of Kit Harington but that might be my imagination out of control

Why is she now an ex-T???

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I would find Bea to be a rather intimidating therapist!

I know! A lot of T's are attractive... Then you got the ones that just look like a big pile of dog crap... I don't get it. It's like, nothing in between.

But I don't think therapy would work for me if I didn't have intense transference to my T. I don't open up or even socialize/communicate with anyone unless I find them attractive and REALLY like them... And they have to be female. I don't open up to males. (I'm female). I have like this one type, with little flexibility, that I am attracted to.

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I have never been attracted to a therapist I hired (I did date one for awhile - I never had seen the one I dated as therapist) but I do think attraction is not universal.
For example I find Bea Arthur a lot more attractive than the Olivia person (I don't know who she is) who I don't think is attractive at all. Nicole Kidman is not on my list of attractive people either. I think a good number are non-descript rather than dog crap (which sounds a bit harsh to me)

Intimidating and attractive are not mutually exclusive!

My thinking is too black and white... I didn't mean to sound harsh. You're lucky to never have been attracted to a therapist! It's actually really exhausting because, at least for me, I feel guilty as hell about it. Olivia Wilde is an actress btw. How did you date a therapist??? My attraction seems really mainstream except the fact I'm a girl. I don't find any of the mainstream, 6 pack, hung guys attractive (actually, I don't find any guys attractive).

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I'm usually the less attractive part of the equation :/

I have no idea if I am attractive or not... One day I'll think I'm beautiful. The next I'll be crying because I feel like a busted can of cinnamon rolls. I can't believe what anyone says about me. I think they are flat out lying to me, or I think their view on what's attractive, isn't attractive. I'll come up with something to make sure, I can't take a compliment.

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Lmao. Love it! He sounds pretty good looking. Yeah I'm worried that my T isn't actually what I think she looks like because of transference. My mom told me my T is too thin and looks anorexic.. I think she just jealous though.

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Oh I'm sure transference is coloring my view of him. I think if I met him on the street I probably wouldn't think twice. He would probably seem "nondescript" to me if I had never met him. Halfway decent looks plus a whole lot of attentiveness = love?

revision needed here: With enough kindness and attentiveness, I don't even think looks would matter to me.

Now that I am no longer ignorant to the fact that transference is the reason I like my therapist so much, is depressing to me.

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