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My T.... hmmmm,early 40s,.very tall, in good shape, long blonde hair, grey eyes, wears heals most of the time. ..sometimes dresses a little risqué. .which is distracting at times. ..I guess I could say she looks a little like Helen Hunt....very attractive woman
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I also find it interesting that so many people on the forum seem to prefer the natural look. My T is natural, and she prefers that in othwrs as well. I, on the other hand, wear make-up, do my hair, paint my nails, etc-- and that is what i am attracted to in others as well (I'm a lesbian). To each their own ![]() |
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I can't think of anyone famous that my T looks like. She is thin and about 5' 7 I would guess. She has beautiful dark brown wavy hair, shoulder length or a little longer. Her eyes are greyish. She usually doesn't wear much make-up but occasionally she does. She has a beautiful smile that lights up her face. She's in her early 50's but looks younger. I think she's very pretty.
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do the loving feelings that can come up make our Ts more attractive? I only ask bc when i scroll through online listings for therapists most, particularly the women, are bland boring mousy haired unstylish 30ish social worker types with mom cuts and frumpy clothes. the men are mostly balding, paunchy and really OLD.
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Like a cross between this photo of Amy from Everybody Loves Raymond and this photo of Dr. Pixie from Embarrassing Bodies.
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I love it and am sooo jealous of it.
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Bea Arthur as there actress on golden girls yes not sure about her in real life. T on the other hand is not. She is very motherly
.I don't see as my mother figure. More like the aunt who is very important to me and provides me with deal of support and guidance
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Probably Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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I asked because I showed pics of T to by bff and while she agreed w/ my selection of celebrity doppelgänger she didn't think it translated to much and said my T was "dad hot" at best but not as remarkable as I made him out to be.
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Artemis, my goal in therapy is to thoroughly work on my Transference issues so that T seems "normal" to me, like yours has become. Though my inner child still holds on, my adult self knows that life will be better when we have a more mature relationship with T and all other important people to come into life. Your experience is an inspiration, and I hope continues to work out well for you.
Meanwhile, my T looks so much like Joan Collins that all I have to do is watch old Dynasty shows to feel like I'm with her. That's in spite of the evil role Collins plays...I even think that's cute...and maybe means I'm even more messed up than ever. |
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Oh wow... My friend said my T was hot. But idk she is kinda weird like me. I doubt the average teen girl my age would find a mother age woman "hot". Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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This has got to be the best topic ever on PsychCentral, IMO
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Rodgers and Hammerstein Cinderella
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I personally don't think my level of attachment affected my perception of how my Ts look.
I asked 4 family members about my ex-T. They all agreed she was beautiful and could be a model. And I asked my fiance and my mom about new T and they agree she looks like a petite Melissa Joan Hart and is cute. I don't percieve all my past Ts as gorgeous or hot. They're all beautiful in their own way, but not necessarily to society. One ex-T who I had no attachment to looked like Martha Stewart. A good ex-T I saw for 4 years (and had matetnal transference with) was tiny, skin and bones, and had to keep her hair short otherwise it would be a huge fro (spelling?). My Pdoc who I'm slightly attached ti is beautiful but in an average way. So maybe for some, the attachment/transference changes the perception, but it doesn't for me. Addition: my last ex-T (Olivia Wilde) is an ex-T because she abandoned me. It's a long story... It's been 13.5 weeks, so I'm still dealing with the grief.
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Yeah I get what you saying, I definitely think it's important to really like your T in order to really open up. For me if I love them though, that can be a distraction. But at the same time that kind of closeness and intimacy a lot of times brings up love and so I think maybe if a person can even work through those feelings, it can be that additional benefits in terms of future relationships. Because this would be (should be) a safe place to express love without fear of abuse or careless rejection or anything else. |
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I'm sorry she abandoned you ![]() Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Most of the previous T's I've had weren't attractive looking. Only like 3 young women who were all around 30 years old, were good looking.
When I was in a facilty (not sure how you call it, but you stayed there with other patients for 5 days a week, therapy every day and in the weekend you went home), but there worked some unique figures. One socio-therapist, she often didn't wear bras, while she really need it. One woman was very butch, dressed and walked like a man. |
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I have commented on my T, but I also want to tell how my pdoc looks like. Because he's so good looking. He's in his early 30's. Very tall, I come to his chin, I think. He's thin, but not too skinny. He would be if he would lose any weight. He has dark brown hair. Sometimes he wears glasses, it looks sexy on him. Maybe his noise is a little bit too big/long for my liking, but it could be much worse. He's clean shaven. He has such a sweet smile. I don't know his eye-color. I'm so nervous around him and I barely look him in the eyes. And when I do, I'm too nervous to remember to look what his eye-color is. I want to know. He doesn't always wear the best clothing. It isn't too bad, I just don't always like his pants. He has such a good body, so many clothing would look good on him.
Unfortunately I can't think of any celeb he might look like, so no photo. |
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okay! I just ran across a picture I can say makes me think about my t. Replace her hair color for silver, of course.
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I get the sense that CBT T couldn't realistically keep up the attentiveness for long. He has hinted at spousal fighting being normal and he , not long ago, told me that he has his own worries and that he isn't "living the life of Riley." He was probably picking up on how much I cast him in an idealized light and he was setting me straight.
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Whoa... No bra ![]() ![]() ![]() Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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My T always dresses good... Like there is never a day she isn't dressed perfectly. And while it seems like a lot of work to always wear high heels, make up, and wear perfect clothing, and always have perfect hair despite any weather, it looks like she doesn't have to work at it. She's like, God or something. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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It toke me 2 years to know what her eye color was because I couldn't remember or look directly at her.. And it never came up.. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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