[Petra5ed]

Let's say your session is at 5:00 pm. Has your therapist ever ended the session before yours, walked to the waiting room with that person at 5:00pm to say "see you next week" where you are sitting waiting for your appointment, and then turned and walked back in their office... You sit there waiting not sure if they just went to the bathroom, then at 5:10 they come out to get you for your apt.??

This is what keeps happening to me. I think my therapist is stressed to see me. Either this happens or he's late or he goes to the bathroom... Sigh, just not sure what to think.

Does he give you an extra 10 mins at the end? If not, I honestly think you should tell him you're not happy with it. You are entitled to the session you pay for, just like any other service.

No never seem another client as my T works privately from home and carefully arranges time slots so that never happens

[Petra5ed]

Originally Posted by Echos Myron

Does he give you an extra 10 mins at the end? If not, I honestly think you should tell him you're not happy with it. You are entitled to the session you pay for, just like any other service.

No not really. We never go over, sometimes go under. I think his paper work said sessions generally 55 mins.

[atisketatasket]

I've seen mine ask the client after me to wait a few minutes, but she made it clear she was running to the bathroom. She didn't just disappear without a word.

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[Petra5ed]

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I've seen mine ask the client after me to wait a few minutes, but she made it clear she was running to the bathroom. She didn't just disappear without a word.

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Well in this instance I was on my phone or something and heard him but by the time I looked up he was gone. It's like he saw me and slipped back into his office really quick. So I'm not 100% sure he saw me, but I am 95%. The strange thing is other times he's seen me and we both made eye contact he has gone to the bathroom, and if no client is before me and he's just in his office alone, he often comes out 10 minutes late now.

Yes this has happened to me and I asked directly as soon as the session started. It was to do with having to complete paperwork for that client by the end of the day and things discussed which she didn't want to forget. I got the extra 10 minutes. It only happened once.

[Petra5ed]

Originally Posted by Little Cat

Yes this has happened to me and I asked directly as soon as the session started. It was to do with having to complete paperwork for that client by the end of the day and things discussed which she didn't want to forget. I got the extra 10 minutes. It only happened once.

I wish I had the guts to say something because I think he doesn't like seeing me now.

[Perna]

It sounds like the 5:00 time is so you'll be there in time for 5:10-6:00 appointment? I'd be curious to see if there's someone at 6:00 eyeing your T for the next appointment wondering the same thing

[Petra5ed]

Originally Posted by Perna

It sounds like the 5:00 time is so you'll be there in time for 5:10-6:00 appointment? I'd be curious to see if there's someone at 6:00 eyeing your T for the next appointment wondering the same thing

Hm, yeah, but it hasn't always been this way. I ****ing hate therapy.

[Chummy]

Something like this happened to me last week. I sat in the waiting room and the client before me came out of her room about 3 minutes before my time. So T went over time, because I first had that time. Around the start of my time she came out of her room, went somewhere, I think to get something and then went back into her room. About 4 minutes after my session supposed to start, she came to get me.

I know 4 minutes isn't the same as 10 minutes late. But there's always at least 15 minutes between sessions and I know that during that time she does some paperwork on the client and maybe look at the notes on the next client.
Even though it's only 4 minutes, I was pissed. It makes me feel like I'm not important, like she doesn't really want to see me. My session stopped on time.
I didn't said anything.

And months ago it had also happened. Twice. The client before me walked out at the start of my time, and T walked out with her. And she also had to go to the bathroom. And I didn't got extra time. I was so angry, but I didn't say anything.
Those were the only times I've been angry with T.

My T sometimes had to go to the badroom, when she came out of her room at my time. But that I didn't mind, because it wasn't because she let a client stay longer. Which I know because I'm usually too early there.

O, and when I had the time after lunch, which I had for a couple of weeks before that asshole client got that time, she was about 2-3 minutes late. I think it was because they have 3 buildings where the offices are and lunch they do in another building where T's office isn't, so she had to walk from there to her office. I was a little bit annoyed by that.

Usually my sessions end on time. The only times I had some extra time, were when she didn't had a client after me. I don't get why she sometimes let clients before me go over time, yet my sessions she always end on time.

[Petra5ed]

Originally Posted by Chummy

Something like this happened to me last week. I sat in the waiting room and the client before me came out of her room about 3 minutes before my time. So T went over time, because I first had that time. Around the start of my time she came out of her room, went somewhere, I think to get something and then went back into her room. About 4 minutes after my session supposed to start, she came to get me.

I know 4 minutes isn't the same as 10 minutes late. But there's always at least 15 minutes between sessions and I know that during that time she does some paperwork on the client and maybe look at the notes on the next client.
Even though it's only 4 minutes, I was pissed. It makes me feel like I'm not important, like she doesn't really want to see me. My session stopped on time.
I didn't said anything.

And months ago it had also happened. Twice. The client before me walked out at the start of my time, and T walked out with her. And she also had to go to the bathroom. And I didn't got extra time. I was so angry, but I didn't say anything.
Those were the only times I've been angry with T.

My T sometimes had to go to the badroom, when she came out of her room at my time. But that I didn't mind, because it wasn't because she let a client stay longer. Which I know because I'm usually too early there.

O, and when I had the time after lunch, which I had for a couple of weeks before that asshole client got that time, she was about 2-3 minutes late. I think it was because they have 3 buildings where the offices are and lunch they do in another building where T's office isn't, so she had to walk from there to her office. I was a little bit annoyed by that.

Usually my sessions end on time. The only times I had some extra time, were when she didn't had a client after me. I don't get why she sometimes let clients before me go over time, yet my sessions she always end on time.

Yeah I feel you. My t is late more often than not, and now it seems like even when he's not late he's not ready to see me.

[Chummy]

Originally Posted by Petra5ed

Yeah I feel you. My t is late more often than not, and now it seems like even when he's not late he's not ready to see me.

That shouldn't happen. It's really unproffesional of your T to be late so many times. If you agree on a time, both the client and T should be there on time. If it happens so often and it keeps happening, you really should say something about it to him. That might be scary. I would think that's scary. That's why I have never said anything about it to T.

My T always runs his appointments from about 10 after the hour until the hour. He uses the time in between to run to the restroom and to take notes about the client he just saw. So long as your appointment still runs the 45-50 minutes it is supposed to, I don't really see that as a problem. He may just have changed the way he runs his session times just a bit.

[junkDNA]

my T is bad with time and im a pretty time oriented person, im never late to anything. i have told my T before that i think it is disrespectful. he has gotten better about it

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

I expect he had some paperwork to do - all the same it would not have hurt to say, 'see you' in five or such.

[musinglizzy]

My sessions are regularly at 2. She usually has someone before me, never has someone after me. Her sessions are typically 50 minutes and start on the hour, although I've noticed some sessions before me go right till 2, instead of 1:50. I never said anything, but one day she mentioned to me that she has some clients she sees only once a month, and they get a full hour. Ok. I did notice, but never said anything. I have been seeing her twice a week for over a year, and she ALWAYS started exactly on time. I never had to worry about waiting around. But this summer, maybe starting a bit before summer, our sessions have started 5-10 minutes late about half the time. I've been very understanding about it, because I know if she's just been sitting with someone for an hour, she hasn't had time to use the rest room, and she drinks tea during sessions. She does have to walk through the waiting room to go to the rest room, she apologizes, tells me she has to go, and usually has me follow her back into the office. But sometimes too, she'll keep the client before me an extra 5 minutes, and then go use the rest room. I wouldn't notice these things, except that it's only been fairly recently that it started, she was always very punctual before. I haven't said anything yet.... and my T usually does make up the time at the end. Although one day, she had a phone call from her daughter's doctor, and was on the phone for 10 minutes during my session. She did not make that up, as she had to leave on time to pick up her daughter. She says that quite often.

[lunatic soul]

I had one or maybe two times when I came into his office at my session time but there were previous client and T asked me to wait a little bit like 5 minutes... He never goes out of the office to say hello to client, he waits there so if its my time I come in except if he goes somewhere else and sees me he says hi and ask me to wait a lil bit
I think if client goes away at 5.00 and your session is at 5.00 then it would be difficult for a T to start conversation to other client after few seconds but I think he simply went to bathroom.

[eeyorestail]

My T starts my appointments 10-15 minutes late on a regular basis. This bothers me as I am a punctual person and it is inconvenient for my schedule. He does, however, always give me a full session.

I can feel the next client's eyes on me as I leave and always have the desire to tell them "it's not my fault!"

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[mira belle]

My T was 15 mins late once..i was very pissed..but kept it cool...after few sessions he was 10 mins. late..i let it slide again...then after few sessions he was 9 mins late...when he came to get me..i let him know i was about to leave.
i get it ..his time is important ...so is mine!
i am already there...anxious..looking at the clock...second by second..waiting for him...and imagine 5 whole mins. pass..it lets me down...and i stop caring..like whatever...
but i have made it a rule.i will only wait 10 mins MAX. and leave if he doesnt come.

hasnt happened yet. and hopefully he wont charge the insurance for a no show.

[Chummy]

I think T's should start the sessions on time. If they want to do paperwork or whatever after one client leaves, then the T should plan in time for that. So no back to back session, but 15 minutes between each session. And they should make the session end on time, so the client that comes after doesn't have to wait.
My T has 15 minutes between sessions, but she's still a bit late sometimes.

[lunatic soul]

Originally Posted by Chummy

I think T's should start the sessions on time. If they want to do paperwork or whatever after one client leaves, then the T should plan in time for that. So no back to back session, but 15 minutes between each session. And they should make the session end on time, so the client that comes after doesn't have to wait.
My T has 15 minutes between sessions, but she's still a bit late sometimes.

I agree but clients always get high when T runs over the time but..others lose their time or there comes a cycle when everyone has to wait.

I remembered my pdoc, I was mad of waiting two hours, it was the last time I saw him.
Next pdoc came to work an hour later and there were 10 patients waiting for him. Now Im afraid to see any pdoc again, they all were crazy or maybe they just had no boundaries (not only about being late)

[nottrustin]

It has happened a couple of times over the years where she has been late finishing the appt before me. She acknowledged me and told me to go into the office but said she needed to go to the restroom..which she did. However, my appointment always went over so that I still had the right amount of time...or more.

[CopperStar]

One of the reasons I quit seeing my last T was because she scheduled appointments back-to-back, which is unrealistic. When was she ever supposed to make notes, pee or mentally shift herself from Client A to Client B. Half the time I could tell how scattered her mind was, because she would openly forget things I had told her previously, and not insignificant details (which I wouldn't fault any T for forgetting).

[Petra5ed]

Thanks everyone. I'm over it at the moment. Not sure why I dwell on this **** sometimes.