[BayBrony]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Mostly I use them for show or warning. I prefer not to have to use them and don't as long as people stay back far enough.

We've been friends for a long time. However occasionally she loses it and punches or chokes me when she is really angry. And then I wonder why I let that happen. Just happened last night so feeling raw about it. She said she would go do something that we needed a 3rd person for ( without the third person no one could participate) . She agreed then got pissy about something I said and refused to go. I said she was ruining the day for everyone. I ended up getting punched.
Afterwards she is always very sorry and it only happens once or twice a year. We really set each other off emotionally sometimes but I've never hit anyone. She is going through a breakup right now .
Every time it happens I think I should end our friendship but it's not that simple especially since we know all the same people. ....However she will always say something about how she "had" to hit me or I "made" her hit me by something I said or did. It's not her that is the problem. That is a lot like my mom there..

[stopdog]

Wow that sounds stressful. I don't think I have ever hit another adult or gotten hit (other than sports or play sorts of ways) as an adult.

[BayBrony]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Wow that sounds odd. I don't think I have ever hit another adult or gotten hit (other than sports or play sorts of ways) as an adult.

She's volatile. It usually comes along with much nasty verbal abuse.

[stopdog]

Sounds stressful (I changed earlier post to the more specific word).

[BayBrony]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Sounds stressful (I changed earlier post to the more specific word).

Unfortunately while my childhood experience means I can take a beating without flinching much when I am Finally alone after I am reduced to a flash backing mess

[Gavinandnikki]

Not scheduled for a shift today, but had a very long to-do list. The most important of which was to prepare a lecture for later in the month.

What I've actually done:

Got kid off to school
Went back to bed and slept until 10
Some laundry
Bathed 3 dogs
Got a tall glass of chilled wine
Now resting on the couch at my pool catching some very nice rays
Blowing off lecture preparation
Blowing off house cleaning
Planning on making some as authentic as possible fish and chips for dinner
Will pick kid up from school after her field hockey practice

Overall, will accomplish less than 50% of what was originally planned for my day "off"

Feeling a little guilty.

But, you know, just felt tired and lazy, so F it.

Thanks for listening, if you did.

[Gavinandnikki]

Originally Posted by Ellahmae

I want to live in a tiny house. Problem, I have too much crap.

The tiny houses are so cool.

Better if a Fairy door was in it.

[StressedMess]

Happy Monday couch! The first time I've felt like I could take a breather long enough to hop on PC. Hope you're all having a good day. . .

[stopdog]

My old dog just took the puppy's chewie that pup abandoned to chase a shadow or something. The puppy is now sitting on my feet barking at big old dog. I always forget how noisy puppies are. He is only brave enough to bark at old dog when he is touching me or my younger dog.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Leah123

Did get treated to a thrilling whale-watching cruise yesterday and witnessed a significant congregation of two orca pods (perhaps 2-3 dozen) complete with babies breaching and lots of surface activity for most of an hour before continuing on to see two humpbacks poke noses and tails above water to cap the day.

Amazing.

Wish I was still crusing!

How wonderful! I'm glad you enjoyed it!

[Squirrel1983]

Hi, couch. Just posting before heading to CVS. Late shift tonight 6:30-11:30. I got to eat supper before work tonight. I made a sandwich on an onion roll. It had ham, salami, pepperonis, and cheddar cheese on it. I also put on brown mustard and dill relish. It wasn't half bad. I am still a little hungry, so maybe I will eat some chips before I have to leave for CVS. Or I can just leave a little early and stop by fast food for french fries on the way to work. Hmm.. I think I may go with that option. I haven't had french fries in a while. I have a bag of frozen ones in the freezer, but no time to cook them (I use the oven, since I don't have a fryer). Ok...that is what I am doing. Final decision. Now the question is McDonald's or Wendy's. I will pass both toward the beginning of my trip. There is a Hardee's towards the end, but then I wouldn't have time to eat them, unless I sat in the parking lot of work.

Well, I better head out to get my fries and get to CVS. Will probably need to get to bed when I get home, so no checking in here then. Later, couchers.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

I asked her if her mother had ever chased her around the house with a knife. No? Asked if her mother ever put a gun to her head. No? Asked if her dad had ever had to tackle her mother to stop her from hitting and kicking her because he was afraid the mom was going to kill her?

This is awful! I had no idea.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by stopdog

People do seem to run the gamut between a gaping hole when a parent dies and ding dong the witch is dead.

That does seem to be the case.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I like some of the remodeled school buses that people live in year round.

They have very poor insulation. No fun in the heat or cold.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by hankster

Well, maybe define "thinking your parents were going to kill you (x times)." I would say theres a difference between (1. You spilled nail polish all over the new couch 2. You broke curfew 3. You wrecked the car) kind of thinking they were gonna kill you, and (repeated incompetence on their part) kind of thinking they were gonna kill you.

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Wrecking the car should not be a capital offense, in my humble opinion.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

They have very poor insulation. No fun in the heat or cold.

I think one point of them is to drive them to moderate climates.
But some are well equipped with a/c and heaters.

[Ellahmae]

I feel okay today! I mean not so fantastic I want to dance around or do air splits but okay enough to get some things accomplished and not fight tears all day.

[RTS?]

Originally Posted by RTS?

I know it's horrible but When I read about something bad happening in the live of another PCer I felt bad for them and then the next thought was wow I'm so jealous...I wouldn't think of this event as being so horrible if it happened in my life.

MKAC...it wasn't the death of a mother that I Was referring to but like
I said I'm just being a horrible person. Ironically, I am indifferent in regards to my mother. When I am with my mother and father, I pretend they are the old couple that used to sit in front of me at church. When I have time to help them out I do...but I do not feel obligated.

ah poo. my laptop is crapping out. it shuts itself off randomly for no reason and then it won't turn back on without removing and replacing the battery multiple times. it's not even 3 years old yet. Maybe they're not even built to last 3 years. I don't know.

[UnderRugSwept]

Originally Posted by artemis-within

ah poo. my laptop is crapping out. it shuts itself off randomly for no reason and then it won't turn back on without removing and replacing the battery multiple times. it's not even 3 years old yet. Maybe they're not even built to last 3 years. I don't know.

I hate computer issues. Is it plugged in when this happens?

[Ike McCaslin]

No one asked, but this is my favorite Steve Goodman tune.

Peace out.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by RTS?

MKAC...it wasn't the death of a mother that I Was referring to but like
I said I'm just being a horrible person. Ironically, I am indifferent in regards to my mother. When I am with my mother and father, I pretend they are the old couple that used to sit in front of me at church. When I have time to help them out I do...but I do not feel obligated.

I don't think it horrible to have such thoughts. I think having thoughts of a nature that one would never act on is not unusual. I use the therapist to tell thoughts of the sort that make me sound even more cold and cruel and detached than I do in real life. I have no idea why people get all worked up over some things (non-violent csa for example - I understand they do and I can act sympathetically - but I truly do not understand a lot of the emotional hooha over it as a theory. If someone says they were harmed by it - then I do not disbelieve them but as a theory - I did not find my own horrible and therefore don't automatically go to complete horror when addressing it in general) - If I give my true response to such things (like articles in a newspaper) - people respond to me like I am satan. So I don't tell them what I really think. I am sometimes very grateful for my default lack of overtly emotional response - it seems so unneccesarily painful for a lot of people.

I think that trauma just like anything else is individual to each person. "in the eye of the beholder" so to speak. Everyone is different. Blessings to all.

[Ike McCaslin]

I like this one too.

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Some old actor - I think it was Spencer Tracy? - used to say if he couldn't pack up his life into two suitcases, he had too much stuff.

I kind of agree, except I would say "one suitcase and a purse." Have I mentioned that I would be very happy living in a cell in a nunnery? (Except for the vows of chastity bit.)

What about one of those storage container apartments?

Shipping container houses are very popular in my country as not a lot of people have enough capital to buy a house out right so they build and live in them in instalments.