[nottrustin]

For those who have outside contact with your T have you ever had a time where you have contacted T when in crisis and have them just kind of blow it off because in their opinion it was no big deal? T has always been there for me. However this recently happened with T and I don't even know how to handle it.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

I am sorry that has happened to you. My T has always gotten back to me the same day if I am having a crisis. Did your therapist know that it was a bad crisis? Did she say it was no big deal?

[Leah123]

My T hasn't blown me off *after* I have emphasized how awful I'm feeling, but more than once she's been more nonchalant initially because I think I was sending mixed signals or she just didn't understand where I was emotionally at the moment. So for me, persistence paid off.

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T has minimized things that upset me. When she changed my schedule, she didn't realize it was a big deal for me. Ex-T was worse. The first time I cried in front of her, she thought I was faking it. But once they saw how serious I was, they became more supportive. And if I call my T, she knows that it's something serious because I normally don't call. That doesn't mean she'll get back to me that day, but she will asap.

[AllHeart]

My T does the opposite. She has a tendency to make matters more critical than they really are. Anyway, perhaps your T wasn't fully understanding, or misread the situation? I would let her know.

[Chummy]

Yes. I then didn't answer her email respons to me. The next session she told me that she got the feeling I was a little bit angry by her (lack of) respons. I can't exactly remember what we talked about. But as a result I don't contact her in ''crisises'' anymore. I don't contact anyone.

With previous T's it has happen also a few times. But I didn't trusted those T's and after such a thing happened, I saw no reason why I would even tell them anything.

It's probably better to talk to your T about this. Even though I often know what's the best thing to do, I usually choose to just stay quiet.

[wheeler]

There have been a few times when T didn't reply to my texts in which I had really hoped she would. I never considered it 'blowing off' although I was upset by it. Sometimes we've talked about it, other times I have just chosen to simmer for quite some time. I hate to admit it but usually from her perspective she had a good reason why she didn't respond.

[Petra5ed]

Yeah I've had him blow me off, but I'm not sure if it was because he didn't think it was a big deal or if he was just too busy or what. There have been times I've been in crisis, and suddenly he stops responding to my texts. I don't usually text often, but maybe a couple a week, usually light stuff. A couple times though I've been in crisis and boom, he suddenly goes silent on me. For example, at my grandmothers funeral, I texted, and not getting a response, texted again and then later again, and then finally sent a defeated text saying "I'm not sure why you aren't responding to me but I'll assume it's part of the therapy." I'm not sure why to this day.

[nottrustin]

in my original email I told her I was at the end of my rope and I couldn't deal with things anymore and what had happened. Her response was that she understood why I reacted the way I did as it was normal. While it was stressful she knew I would be fine...that was it. Then when I found out what happened with my other child not feeling safe at college T responded that what happened at campus is very common and that she would be fine. After that I stopped contacting her.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

in my original email I told her I was at the end of my rope and I couldn't deal with things anymore and what had happened. Her response was that she understood why I reacted the way I did as it was normal. While it was stressful she knew I would be fine...that was it. Then when I found out what happened with my other child not feeling safe at college T responded that what happened at campus is very common and that she would be fine. After that I stopped contacting her.

I think its a generic therapist response. When I have emailed my T and said I am "done with everything" she has said something along the same lines. It sucks to hear when you are in so much pain.

Originally Posted by nottrustin

For those who have outside contact with your T have you ever had a time where you have contacted T when in crisis and have them just kind of blow it off because in their opinion it was no big deal? T has always been there for me. However this recently happened with T and I don't even know how to handle it.

I'm not sure she blew it off, though I may have experienced it as such, as a crisis likes to suck in negativity to keep itself alive. But she's try to limit the experience I was going through the best she could, with such a distance. To keep me safe. Her adding to the crisis wouldn't be responsible.

[Argonautomobile]

Originally Posted by _Mouse

I'm not sure she blew it off, though I may have experienced it as such, as a crisis likes to suck in negativity to keep itself alive. But she's try to limit the experience I was going through the best she could, with such a distance. To keep me safe. Her adding to the crisis wouldn't be responsible.

Well observed. That might indeed be the case. You won't know unless you bring it up. I think my T may have done something similar the one and only time I called during a crisis situation. I won't say he blew it off, exactly, but there was something disarming/ grounding about the brief response he did give. I immediately felt sort of silly for calling.

Which, in a way, is better than having the person on the other end of the line agree that the world was going to end, right?

Anyway, I'd encourage you to talk about it. You might be surprised by what your T has to say. Good luck!

[nottrustin]

I finally had an appointment with T today. I definitely felt different. I didn't feel I connect in the way we always had. I explained the incidents to t in detail. She said she could see why I was really upset and such. I told her I was eventually able to connect with a friend of mine and work through the crisis. She was proud of me for reaching out for help as I don't usually... I HAD reached out to her when I was have thoughts of overdosing on meds but be the vagueness of her emails I didn't feel right explaining that. So today I did tell her about those thoughts but she didn't even comment on it...maybe it is time to stop therapy.