Have you ever set a boundary with your therapist?

I think I set one today? She ran WAY over, at 25 minutes past my appointment, her and her client were laughing together and I walked right out. I am SO not an assertive person, but I was pissed. She called me a few minutes later saying when she looked at the clock, she read it as a half-hour in, instead a hour and a half in. She apologized profusely, but I still missed the appointment. She promised to set timers in the future.

Yes. With a christian woman in training. Bad idea. Pushed me to see my abusive father and he rejected me and I had a meltdown.

I didn't exactly intend to set a boundary with one of my former therapists, but it just happened. She offered me a hug once and I shied away from her. It was something that I didn't realize was an issue until that instance. And of course we talked about physical touch and why I was uncomfortable with people being that close to me. But we established that she would always ask me to make sure it was ok and wouldn't just hug me.

I also told that same therapist that I needed her to tell me about her upcoming absences at least a week or two in advance (preferably as soon as she booked her trip - she traveled a lot).

So far I have not. But I think I'm about to. My therapist has always allowed email and still does. I don't abuse that privilege. For the last two months she has not responded like she used to. She took a two week break during the holidays (well deserved), I emailed her once and she never responded. So... Right or wrong, childish or not.. my hew boundary will be that I will be more reserved during session. She can't expect me to finally trust in her after nearly three years of working together and to stop responding to my email. Perhaps this is what she is trying to provoke in me... Who knows.

I'm glad I'm not the only one. That's a huge red flag, IMO. 😮

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Mine has this particular spiritual bent that ticks me off. I told the woman to cease and desist because I don't need anymore authorities running my life.

Has she stopped speaking of it?