[Blarghh]

Hi, I have never seen a therapist before but I have been for the last 4 months for depression. My therapist cancelled our session a couple of weeks ago at the last minute and said she would email me back to reschedule but never did. She cancelled our next week regular time session also, and stated that she would email me to reschedule but once again did not. Is it safe to infer this is her way of hinting that she wants to drop me as a client? Thanks!

[Inner_Firefly]

Yikes, I wonder if she realizes she did not reschedule after cancelling last minute, plus also cancelling your next regular session?! No wonder you get the idea that this is a hint to drop you. Has she been a good therapist otherwise? Can you call her to reschedule? When a T cancels last minute, he/she should probably make an effort to apologize and reschedule ASAP. Hopefully this is all a misunderstanding, a computer glitch or something.

[Argonautomobile]

It might be safe to infer that she's an incompetent dingbat. Try not to take it personally--if she wanted to drop you as a client, she'd say as much directly and give you a referral. She probably just forgot how to adult because it's the holiday season.

If you like her and have a good relationship, follow-up to ensure you have an appointment and tell her that her scheduling snafu makes you feel unwanted. If you aren't particularly attached I'd consider finding a different T.

[JaneTennison1]

Don't take it personally, some people are just flaky. My Ex T was terrible at scheduling, it hurt me and made me crazy. New T is excellent and never forgets, I feel so much more at ease.

[Permacultural]

It sure better not be her way of dropping you! My therapist pulled this stuff last year during the holidays. I suppose they get busy. Nonetheless I made sure to email and leave a voicemail listing times and days I could meet, "please get back to me and let me know if any of these work for you".

[spring2014]

Originally Posted by JaneTennison1

Don't take it personally, some people are just flaky. My Ex T was terrible at scheduling, it hurt me and made me crazy. New T is excellent and never forgets, I feel so much more at ease.

hi jane ,
oh jeez she sounds like my old therapist who didn't have a care in the world for my treatment . he never bothered with me as far as coping skills that is concerned . he was never interested in my mental health and well-being not alone not interested in me as his client .he wasn't even trained to be a counselor not even licensed too by the state . he didn't want want to schedule me for more sessions with him cuz he wasn't serious enough about my treatment he was a fly by night counselor w no license to practice counseling .I left him due to his lack of experience with my illness .I looked him up and lo and behold he was fired from being a counselor cuz of him not having a license to practice counseling in the state .and also the clinic that he worked at shut down cuz of the lack of clients going there cuz of the lack of licensed counselors available to people w mental illness .now I have a qualified counselor who has a license to practice counseling and has a master's degree in community agency in counseling . I been seeing my counselor for a year now . if your counselor doesn't rescheduled you for the sessions that your missing its time to get a new therapist .sounds like it to me that she is incompetent and not care for you as her client.







Diagnosis: Anxiety and depression
meds : Cymbalta 60 mgs at night
Vistrail 2 25 mgs daily at night for insomnia with an additional 25 mgs= 75 mgs at night for insomnia when up past 1:00 in the morning

[Blarghh]

Thanks for the responses you all. I think I'll follow my gut and look for a new therapist. Thanks again!

[spring2014]

Originally Posted by Blarghh

Hi, I have never seen a therapist before but I have been for the last 4 months for depression. My therapist cancelled our session a couple of weeks ago at the last minute and said she would email me back to reschedule but never did. She cancelled our next week regular time session also, and stated that she would email me to reschedule but once again did not. Is it safe to infer this is her way of hinting that she wants to drop me as a client? Thanks!

hi blarghh,
I know the feeling. my old therapist was so incompetent that the state that I live in fired his incompetent *** after they found out that he didn't have a license to practice counseling in the state of Ohio and no master's degree in community agency in counseling and his lack of experience with clients . he never scheduled me for follow up appointments with him or he never checks on his clients when they are in a crisis situation . he never gives his clients coping skills to work with in between sessions or gives them numbers to call when in a crisis situation. he never looked at his clients when they are in the room with him . he never gives his clients encouragement to help to get well . he just make me felt lost and he made my wheels spin around and around like a hamster on a wheel with no where to go .so I fired him and the two psychiatrists I had at the clinic that was very incompetent for treating their clients like dirt. I have a very good therapist who is licensed by the state of Ohio and has a master's degree in community agency in counseling . I would get another counselor of she doesn't respond to your emails .my therapist gets busy too . she has more clients than she had last year and she is the only counselor in the counseling agency that im seeing her for my counseling.







Diagnosis: Anxiety and depression
meds: Cymbalta 60 mgs at night
Vistrail 2 25 mgs at night for insomnia with an additional 25 mgs=75 mgs when up past 1:00 in the morning

[LonesomeTonight]

Earlier this year, my marriage counselor went through a period where he canceled a couple times and wasn't good about calling to reschedule. (Had to have my T leave him a note the one time--they're in the same office.) Turned out that he had some personal stuff going on with serious health issues in his immediate family. So it could be something like that, rather than anything about you. Could you try calling or e-mailing?

[Blarghh]

Well, I did all the emailing the last time around after giving her time to email me like she said she would, so this time if I don't hear anything from her, that's it. Therapy is hard enough for me (emotionally and financially) without this added indignity. I just feel disrespected, not to mention I feel that this is the way I've been treated by others most of my life, and I have been patient waiting for the emails.

[JaneTennison1]

I think it's good to look around. My T kept asking for me to give the benefit of the doubt (ie if she was late or didn't call or reschedule) I did. A lot. Finally she missed an appointment altogether. We exchanged emails and I was mad. She then decided I needed to stop emailing and disappeared altogether. In hindsight I should have taken prior incidents as warning signs but I was so attached I couldn't get myself out.

How she behaved hurt me deeply. So yes give the benefit of the doubt but don't ignore warnings.

[Blarghh]

She tends to be late by just a few minutes for our sessions also. I have been giving her the benefit of the doubt but now I am done.

[Salmon77]

I wouldn't assume anything about the reasons for her lack of communication—she could be flaky or evil or maybe her mother's dying, who knows. I really doubt that it's meant as a rejection of you. But it's a lack nonetheless and if you feel like looking for a new therapist, you should.

Originally Posted by Blarghh

Hi, I have never seen a therapist before but I have been for the last 4 months for depression. My therapist cancelled our session a couple of weeks ago at the last minute and said she would email me back to reschedule but never did. She cancelled our next week regular time session also, and stated that she would email me to reschedule but once again did not. Is it safe to infer this is her way of hinting that she wants to drop me as a client? Thanks!

Did you ever get in touch with your T?

[Blarghh]

Originally Posted by twistedangel00

Did you ever get in touch with your T?

Yes, and I decided to quit going.