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Old Feb 08, 2016, 06:25 PM
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I told my T about it in an email. When it's too hard for me to tell something in person, I tell it her in an email. And then we can talk about it in the next session. My T knows this.
Mine too. She recently said to me "You are a talented writer, and it is clear you process through writing, and i am completely fine with that." Thanks T!
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 06:27 PM
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i mean, maybe you can ask for a session next week, and go from there? could waiting a week be better? If you truly feel the need to tell T about this now, as long as you say "I will stay safe," i don't see how it would be a problem. The first time I cut myself, I e-mailed it to my T. She just said "Thank you for telling me." It all depends on your e-mail relationship with her. My T is fine with me writing her emails during the week, and while I try not to write too many (or any at all if i can), or too long, so far there has been no misconstruing of my words.
My T and I have been emailing back and forth since maybe 3 months into our sessions because I was having such a difficult time expressing myself and I kept things to myself. I've probably told T the most difficult and hidden things through email so it's helped a lot. I just dont want my T to overreact I'm so scared.
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 06:28 PM
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Mine too. She recently said to me "You are a talented writer, and it is clear you process through writing, and i am completely fine with that." Thanks T!
Mine says the same thing. She says "You are such an articulate writer and you write so well and with thoughts and feelings"
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 06:35 PM
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I have 0 intent to do it. When my anxiety is at a high, the thought of "I just wish I can end it so I dont have to be afraid of this anymore" is the thought that comes to mind. Not sure what that means but I figure its a suicidal thought. I'm just scared to admit it to my T.


I truly dont believe you have anything to worry about in telling your T about your thoughts. Based on above they are very general and I dont think it will raise any serious red flags. If those kinds of thoughts got you hospitalized we would need many more psych hospitals. I dont even tell my T about those kinds of thoughts.

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Old Feb 08, 2016, 06:37 PM
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I truly dont believe you have anything to worry about in telling your T about your thoughts. Based on above they are very general and I dont think it will raise any serious red flags. If those kinds of thoughts got you hospitalized we would need many more psych hospitals. I dont even tell my T about those kinds of thoughts.

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Do you think emailing would be beneficial? To get it off my chest and everything and maybe my T will want to schedule a session next week.
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 06:45 PM
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AnxiousGirl: I would just say that you wanted to let her know you are having generic suicidal thoughts and give her the example you gave here. Tell her whether you are concerned about wanting to do it and then let her take it from there. I really dont think she'll be all too concerned unless you are concerned.

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Old Feb 08, 2016, 06:48 PM
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AnxiousGirl: I would just say that you wanted to let her know you are having generic suicidal thoughts and give her the example you gave here. Tell her whether you are concerned about wanting to do it and then let her take it from there. I really dont think she'll be all too concerned unless you are concerned.

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Thank you. You're a big help! I think what I'll do is email my T saying that the health anxiety is really bad and is causing thoughts like this and see what she thinks. I can maybe ask to see if I can go in next week, but I think I will send the email 100% tonight or tomorrow.
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 06:53 PM
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Does anyone know how to form an email of this sort? Any ideas or tips would be appreciated
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 07:23 PM
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You could say you are having some extreme anxiety, that it makes you feel xyz, that you tell her this not because any action needs to be taken but because you want her to know how awful it can get so that you may both work on it. Also you would appreciate any grounding/breathing exercises/websites/books she finds helpful to calm anxiety (whatever would help you)
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 07:25 PM
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My T and I have been emailing back and forth since maybe 3 months into our sessions because I was having such a difficult time expressing myself and I kept things to myself. I've probably told T the most difficult and hidden things through email so it's helped a lot. I just dont want my T to overreact I'm so scared.
I really don't think she will.
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Do you think emailing would be beneficial? To get it off my chest and everything and maybe my T will want to schedule a session next week.
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Does anyone know how to form an email of this sort? Any ideas or tips would be appreciated
I think you could say "I am having a really hard time with my health anxiety (if she knows about it), and after our session, I had a panic attack and was in the shower, and I felt at that moment very hopeless. Could we meet next week?"

That way you keep it general, but shows the seriousness of it. If you want, you can say "I felt so hopeless like I wanted to die, but have no intent. I am just scared."
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 07:29 PM
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I really don't think she will.

Yes!

I think you could say "I am having a really hard time with my health anxiety (if she knows about it), and after our session, I had a panic attack and was in the shower, and I felt at that moment very hopeless. Could we meet next week?"

That way you keep it general, but shows the seriousness of it. If you want, you can say "I felt so hopeless like I wanted to die, but have no intent. I am just scared."
I think this is a good idea. Honest and asks for what you want.
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 07:31 PM
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I have mentioned passive SUI thoughts to my former campus T before. And also the mental health nurse practioner I saw. They asked if I had plans, I said no and I looked them in the eye as I said this so they knew I was being truthful. I think it's unlikely she would commit you if you word it right...passive, fleeting, all good buzz words to get your message across.
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 08:07 PM
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I really don't think she will.

Yes!

I think you could say "I am having a really hard time with my health anxiety (if she knows about it), and after our session, I had a panic attack and was in the shower, and I felt at that moment very hopeless. Could we meet next week?"

That way you keep it general, but shows the seriousness of it. If you want, you can say "I felt so hopeless like I wanted to die, but have no intent. I am just scared."
I really like this. Thank you so much. I'll form it based on this and add in a few things I think would help out. Thanks again !
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 09:17 PM
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I'm writing the email now and will probably send it tonight. I will keep you all updated Thanks again for the responses.
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 09:30 PM
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I'm writing the email now and will probably send it tonight. I will keep you all updated Thanks again for the responses.

Glad I could be of help. Hope everything goes well. Sorry your anxiety gets so bad. It is really good that you are being so honest with your T.

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Old Feb 08, 2016, 09:43 PM
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I really like this. Thank you so much. I'll form it based on this and add in a few things I think would help out. Thanks again !
Good, I am glad!
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 09:44 PM
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I have mentioned passive SUI thoughts to my former campus T before. And also the mental health nurse practioner I saw. They asked if I had plans, I said no and I looked them in the eye as I said this so they knew I was being truthful. I think it's unlikely she would commit you if you word it right...passive, fleeting, all good buzz words to get your message across.
I do the same when T or p-doc (or MC) asks if I want to end things, where I look them right in the eyes when I say no. P-doc asks anytime she sees me (every few weeks), and T and MC only if I bring something up suggesting that or about
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 09:45 PM
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i don't make eye contact (hardly ever), but my T has always believed me when I said I had no intent or plan.
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 10:20 PM
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I wrote the email and it's pretty detailed but I did mention the thoughts and how I would never act on them. Now it's just building up the courage to send it.
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 10:48 PM
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Old Feb 08, 2016, 11:20 PM
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And when you just casually asked your T did she seem concerned at all or ask you if you've had those thoughts?
Yes she was concerned and asked if I had those thoughts. I had just started seeing her (this was years ago) and I was scared so I didn't tell her the depth of my thoughts. Now that I have been seeing her for years she just asks me how intense the thoughts are and sees the risk and we develop a safety plan.

Therapy is the best and safest place to talk about suicidal thoughts. I can't talk about them to anyone else.
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[QUOTE=AnxiousGirl;4909715]Do you think emailing would be beneficial? To get it off my chest and everything and maybe my T will want to schedule a session next week.[/QUOT

What if she doesn't ask you to come in next week, after emailing her? I think it has more to do with wanting her to "Come get me." I could be way off base. This is my opinion only.
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Old Feb 09, 2016, 05:32 AM
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i don't make eye contact (hardly ever), but my T has always believed me when I said I had no intent or plan.
Same. Though I've been making more eye contact with T since I began seeing her. And I also look a little bit more at Pdoc then I did at the start. But if they ask about a difficult topic, my first reaction is to look away. When I have to think about something, I also look away. I remember last time my Pdoc asked if I still have suicidal thought, I looked away from his face and answered him.
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Old Feb 09, 2016, 05:33 AM
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I wrote the email and it's pretty detailed but I did mention the thoughts and how I would never act on them. Now it's just building up the courage to send it.
You can do this. I also have to find courage everytime when sending T an email. Sometimes it takes a whole day before I finally press send. But this will help you to get forward. Good luck!
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Old Feb 09, 2016, 09:09 AM
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You can do this. I also have to find courage everytime when sending T an email. Sometimes it takes a whole day before I finally press send. But this will help you to get forward. Good luck!
I want my T to know but I am terrified about how she might react. I think in the email should actually say that I was afraid to tell her because of her potential reaction.
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