New Therapy New Therapist !

Hi, as you all know my therapist left, he got another job offering and took it, honestly I was mad, he was so good, I thought there was a chance for a change for me. He did however recommend someone. I called her and scheduled an appointment its next Thursday. I'm scared, and almost dead inside. I feel that therapy is a trip of lies, that in which I need to stop feeling. I just hate the fact I'm in contact and giving information to a stranger who'sgetting paid. No doubt thats all exagerrated and not true, but I see all the ppl on PC giving their time, why I can't I have someone like that IN PERSON....Anyway I'm ranting because I'm frankly just tired of my attempts at help 5 therapists going on 6 in 3 years isn't good.....

I dunno how to make the sessions "worht while" I'm afraid,ashamed, for no reason but because I'm lying the whole visit, not able to find trust in a doc, i dunno why either............its so hard for me.....for anyone .......but here goes again......but a week and 1 day seems forever. =(

Moonkin, I don't have any great words of wisdom, having just started with a new therapist and contemplating a change in pdoc, myself. Just wanted to say I'm glad you decided to stay here at PC, and I hope the new therapist works out for you. Trust is an issue for me, too, so I understand where you're coming from.

Good luck with your new T, moonkin. It's hard to build trust with someone and then have to start all over. I hope you can get off to a good start with the new one.

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I feel that therapy is a trip of lies, that in which I need to stop feeling....

I dunno how to make the sessions "worht while" I'm afraid,ashamed, for no reason but because I'm lying the whole visit, not able to find trust in a doc

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I think that sounds like the key--you are having trouble trusting, so to protect yourself, you lie in session. Lying really doesn't help your therapy or to build your relationship with the T. Could you try to start with the new T and not lie? If there are things that are just too hard to share, instead of lying, how about just not sharing those? Yet. Just tell the truth about what you can, maybe it will be day to day stuff. Build trust with those little things, then work up to sharing more meaningful and difficult feelings and topics. The T does not expect you to dump your hardest stuff with him/her in the first few visits. They all know that trust takes a long time, especially from those who have been abandoned, rejected, and hurt.

Hang in there, and good luck!

keep an open mind.

they so want to hekp others, they have undertaken vigorous education and training in order to make that become a reality.

the therapist is there IN PERSON. you do have what you have been hoping for and wanting. we can want something and still be afraid about it. the fears are completely understandable, and your therapist can help you with them.

I would imagine one of your fears might be that this therapist will leave like the other did. something to talk about with this one. trust is hard and takes a lot of talking about it so give you and the T plenty of time. talk

your previous attempts at help with 5 therapist were practice and preparation for this attempt.

it is hard sometimes. someone once told me, when i asked what to talk about... that 'everything and anything' is useful to talk about. that's helped me... maybe that will help you too.

I'm so glad you have found someone! I understand the fear and worry; it's hard but I'm sure you will do just fine.

Hi Moonkin,

I commend you on keeping on trying. That takes bravery.

I often write a letter to a new Dr., whether psych or medical. I get my points across and he/she knows I am sincere in wanting help.

I wish you the very best,

Jan

Good luck with your new therapist. I am glad you are willing to try another. Hopefully this is the one.

BB