The Couch - Cent Dix (110): A Little Bit of Everything, A Whole Lotta Nothing

(((granite)))

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My h is struggling this morning. We had a lot of fun last night at the concert, but this morning he is laying in bed groaning because he is getting old, I was laying next to him just trying to be supportive but that backfired and he is worse now, bringing up every little thing and it started to drag me down too and I can't let myself get pulled in so I said I'll let you go back to sleep, I love you and got up. I wish I knew a way to help him. I know I can't though. I have to let him be responsible for him and maintain responsibility for myself or we'll both fall into an even deeper hole. I am not sure how to navigate this. The roller coaster ride continues... Thanks for listening.

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Wow!! I did the right thing! That was kind of amazing, actually. I got up, did the dishes, and started laundry, basically did my own thing, and lo and behold just as I was about to start making breakfast for myself he got up, said "Let's go to breakfast!!" took a shower and we went. I let him be responsible for himself, and he was!! I should remember this for the future.

ETA: my break from t is starting off well, after all.

Remember that! That is that autonomy thing I wrote about in that other thread. You have choices you can make that. A big one in our marriage was when we stopped feeling like we had to fix each other and be responsible for each other. It was very healthy for our self-concepts AND our relationship.

I'm happy for you, Artemis.

Its called, getting out of someones shyte, as we used to say in the olden days

also, men are complete wusses when it comes to pain/sickness.

I have a hunch I'll be sharing lots of realizations here with y'all while I'm on this t break. I feel this HUGE sense of freedom knowing I won't see her for a bit. Weird, huh. There's a feeling of self-power in a way, that I stuck to my guns and took the break I feel like I want and need. Maybe that's why I was able to do the right thing this morning and stay "out of h's shyte" (thanks unaluna for the great turn of phrase). Maybe I called it feeling responsible for his happiness, but it's the same darn thing, ain't it? Oops, drier just buzzed, later couchies.

Okay, how was your day folks?

I think I am in a sugar coma. The Easter bunny left a basket of chocolates for the boys (and everyone who walks by that basket, including me). Darned that Easter bunny!!

The day started MUCH too early since we had to be at church at 6:45 to get bells set up before choir warm-up. Two church services which were very nice.

Had a nice lunch, too much chocolate, and then the obligatory Sunday afternoon nap. So now I'm finally up and moving again. It's back to school tomorrow to start the last semester of classes -- 10 weeks -- 47 school days. Is it too early to start counting?

Had a nice day, breakfast out with h at a local hole-in-the-wall breakfast joint that's inexpensive but delish. Watched baseball on TV while doing laundry and cooked spaghetti. Relaxing day off. Back to work tomorrow... oh, and to Walgreens on the way home tomorrow for marked-down easter chocolate. My son still likes getting easter candy, but is old enough of course to appreciate buying it after which usually results in him getting more cut it's cheaper haha.

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The local hole-in-the-wall breakfast joints are the BEST!! Apparently breakfast is big around here; we have a bunch. We generally hit one of them every couple of weeks.

Yep!! We hadn't been to this one in probably several months, but our waitress remembered that I always get iced tea with lemon, h always wants a glass of water with his decaf coffee, and I always order grits instead of pancakes. She's GOOD!

im just crappy . i want a loving family .i hate looking at all the pic my friends post on FB with the time they are spending with family . im here with my husband who doesnt give a crap about anything and is sick of me and i just spent the day in my craft room hiding from the world .

I'm sorry you're feeling bad granite. Sending big safe hugs to you.

((Granite)) know the feeling...

Artemis, great that you had a good breakfast!

Really struggling tonight.. Arguing with h all weekend, had a really off session with t on Friday, work is stressful.. And then tonight my son who deals with ASD, was on a bike ride with my h and daughter.. H wasn't watching him well enough and son decided to go home by himself (got bit by a dog, didn't break the skin) and showed up at the door saying he lost my husband... And for some reason my husband never called to tell me my son was missing.

So with you!! Feeling the same way myself!! Spent the day in my safe place, my kitchen, doing laundry and coloring in my journal. He's been on a game show marathon in the living room and just the sound of the game shows make me angry!! Can't explain why. It just does.

((( hug ))) from someone who understands.

What can we do to make it better??

My picture. It's not a work of art but it did help me to color it. Sometimes it takes me away from here and sometimes it gives order the the scattered thoughts going through my head.



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Posting the "place" again.... Didn't want my picture to take its place!!

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Twas a good day

Oh my goodness!! That looks amazing!! Those are beautiful pictures.

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My pony is awfully photogenic. And today he was actually well behaved which is not always the case.

He's beautiful!!

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Good night couch. Thank you for hearing my thoughts, confusion and flip outs. It's a process and it's going to be ok. Happy Easter!! There's our true freedom. Much love.

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I love BB's pony. I miss being among horses.