The Couch - Cent Dix (110): A Little Bit of Everything, A Whole Lotta Nothing

stopdog · Mar 30, 2016, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by My kids are cool

Don't forget the fact that they are little germ factories. Contamination bearing, germ ridden beasties.

Indeed they are.

stopdog · Mar 30, 2016, 05:37 PM

I was gone all day dealing with a very contrary client and now home with the year old dog who has been cooped up in his crate and now it is storming so we can't go on his walk.

At least he isn't trying to talk to me and he is not all that gooey.

atisketatasket · Mar 30, 2016, 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I was gone all day dealing with a very contrary client and now home with the year old dog who has been cooped up in his crate and now it is storming so we can't go on his walk.

At least he isn't trying to talk to me and he is not all that gooey.

Just a little slobbery?

stopdog · Mar 30, 2016, 06:08 PM

They are not a particularly slobbery breed. Mostly only right after they drink. But they can get the cat gooey if they play with him right after they have slurped from the water bowl.

Mar 30, 2016, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

I know nothing about your childhood, or relationship with your mother, but take it a positive thing that he feels so comfortable talking to you, expressing his vulnerabilities, that is REALLY hard to do! He opened up to you about what happened with his girlfriend, he told you about his problems in middle school-and I know you feel really bad you didn't notice then, but kids are good at hiding things from their parents! Does your husband feel as guilty as you? I bet not.

Also, even now at 35-I would NEVER open up and be so vulnerable to my mother. The thought makes me want to vomit. I did tell her once I wanted to try therapy, but I was 21, in the midst of a major depressive episode, and had been to a few sessions with my mom and her therapist-but it was mostly because I was at my breaking point. That is the most vulnerable I've ever been, and she has no idea I ever felt that bad. All I said to her was "maybe I will make an appointment with your T." My long ramble is to tell you that you are doing things right that your son is opening up to you.

All parents screw their kid up. It is impossible to raise a child for 18 years and do it perfectly. Like others said, I bet he will only need a T for a short time, to sort this stuff out. Also, it is SCARY when you are about to go out in the world on your own-assuming he is close to going to college (even if it's next year).

Yeah, you're probably right about it being scary when you're about to go out in the world - he graduates in May and starts his first job, an internship, and then will start college in the fall. I bet that's a lot of it. I'm just letting my global thinking and guilty conscious take over. Thanks for being a voice of reason.

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Originally Posted by StressedMess

Art, you are NOT a failure as a parent. Repeat as necessary.

You understand him, you listen to him, he trusts you enough to ask for help, you are prepared to get him the help he needs, what part of that means failure?

You didn't turn your back on him, you were clinically depressed. You have to give yourself credit, even in that state, you didn't alienate him. Now you have a terrific relationship!

Thank you for saying that. I keep trying to focus on that fact, that he trusts me enough to ask for help. I could NEVER talk to either of my parents as openly as he talks to me.

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Originally Posted by Demunie

I don't know you, but I'm kind of sure that you didn't fail him. As it seems from your posts, you do care a lot about him/you love him. That's all that matters.
If it helps: I'm in therapy too, for the third time actually, and I couldn't wish for a better mom. She's great. I love her.

I guess I'm overly sensitive about wanting to be a good mom because I had and still have such a dysfuntional relationship with my own mother. I see myself failing because I believe that she failed me. Or something. Thanks for sharing.

velcro003 · Mar 30, 2016, 07:26 PM

Well you said it already, Art...you couldn't imagine ever being so open and vulnerable with your own mom, I am assuming you mean as an adult, but especially as a teenager.

DelusionsDaily · Mar 30, 2016, 07:27 PM

Hey all,
I need some help. My T wants me to write NP explaining my loss of medicaid and my reducing of Latuda...to see if she has other options to stay on Latuda. Problem: I already have a boat ton of stress right now. Trying to stay on the med just seems more stressful. I'd just assume not write NP and go off. However, I feel it unfair to NP. Should that matter?

atisketatasket · 08:42 PM

Art - is he going to college in-state? Especially if he's going to one of the big AZ state universities, they should have extensive counseling available to students. That should help with any transition.

Mar 30, 2016, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

Well you said it already, Art...you couldn't imagine ever being so open and vulnerable with your own mom, I am assuming you mean as an adult, but especially as a teenager.

Yes most especially as a teenager...

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Art - is he going to college in-state? Especially if he's going to one if the big AZ state universities, they should have extensive counseling available to students. That should help with any transition.

Actually he's got a 2 year scholarship to the local community college that goes along with his 2 year paid internship.When I sit my butt down and think about all of this logically, college and working part time is going to be pretty demanding of him I would imagine. He's been taking dual-enrollment college classes already in high school, but that's not the same thing as all college classes plus working part time.

youse guys are all so wise. i appreciate it. i wish i had more words of wisdom for y'all in return.

atisketatasket · Mar 30, 2016, 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by DelusionsDaily

Hey all,
I need some help. My T wants me to write NP explaining my loss of medicaid and my reducing of Latuda...to see if she has other options to stay on Latuda. Problem: I already have a boat ton of stress right now. Trying to stay on the med just seems more stressful. I'd just assume not write NP and go off. However, I feel it unfair to NP. Should that matter?

I wouldn't be worried about unfairness - I don't see where that comes into play here. But the question is does the medication help you? If so, I'd probably try to see if there was a way to stay on it.

stopdog · Mar 30, 2016, 08:59 PM

I agree - I don't see it as a fairness issue - but there may be a way to keep you on it if you tell them - they might know of resources.

Mar 30, 2016, 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by DelusionsDaily

Hey all,
I need some help. My T wants me to write NP explaining my loss of medicaid and my reducing of Latuda...to see if she has other options to stay on Latuda. Problem: I already have a boat ton of stress right now. Trying to stay on the med just seems more stressful. I'd just assume not write NP and go off. However, I feel it unfair to NP. Should that matter?

I don't think it's a fairness thing at all. I think it's about what's best for you.

if you want them.

velcro003 · Mar 30, 2016, 09:41 PM

You get too much bourbon in me, and I go off spouting in threads

Edit for SD: My "EEK" emoticon means just that. "What am I doing!? Eek!"

stopdog · 10:09 PM

The problem for me is that I did not know that picture meant eek.
I would have guessed surprise.

atisketatasket · Mar 30, 2016, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

The problem for is that I did not know that picture meant eek.
I would have guessed surprise.

This is surprised -

(not that I would know that by looking at it)

There is also shocked -

(better)

Also,

can do double duty as surprise. I have used it as such.

velcro003 · Mar 30, 2016, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

The problem for is that I did not know that picture meant eek.
I would have guessed surprise.

Yes, I could see that as surprised. I only know it as "eek," is because I have clicked on it often.

Mar 30, 2016, 09:56 PM

or there's always

"yikes"

stopdog · Mar 30, 2016, 09:58 PM

To me, that first surprised looks just happy.
Shocked looks sad.
And the yikes gives me nightmares.

Mar 30, 2016, 10:58 PM

My youngest wanted me to watch The Labyrinth with her. It always makes me feel not right and a few years ago I read an erotic story based on it. So I did not know which way to look with David Bowie in those tights....

StressedMess · Mar 31, 2016, 12:09 AM

Trying to sleep but brain won't turn off. 6 hours until wake up o'clock. This sucks. That is all.

Mar 31, 2016, 01:19 AM

I feel like a limp bag full of internal restlessness.

JustShakey · Mar 31, 2016, 01:35 AM

looks like 'horrified' to me... Is there a :horrified:?

Eta: emoticons look entirely different in the browser verses tapatalk... Tapatalk version of of eek is much more dramatic than the browser version...

JustShakey · Mar 31, 2016, 01:42 AM

T in the morning. It occurs to me that I'm looking forward to the day when T isn't the high point of my week. It'll be nice when nights with friends or coffee dates or weekends away are more important to me than T... Whenever that'll be...

Mar 31, 2016, 02:18 AM

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Originally Posted by JustShakey

looks like 'horrified' to me... Is there a :horrified:?

Eta: emoticons look entirely different in the browser verses tapatalk... Tapatalk version of of eek is much more dramatic than the browser version...

How do you even see emoticons in forum posts in tapatalk? I just see text like " : yikes : "