The Couch - Cent Dix (110): A Little Bit of Everything, A Whole Lotta Nothing

Thanks sd. I think i will let her know.

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I was going to post this same thing.

Thanks. I just emailed her about it.

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I had another dream about T. this time he had the most important key, the toilet key He wouldn't give it to me, he just kept talking and talkiing til finally he said how many corridors did you come down to get here? THis is my house I have to know. I was really desparate for the toilet.

Get thee to an opthamologist! I think you have an undiagnosed astigmatism

It was a speculation, thats all. As if...

Your translation was pretty good, actually!

I try hard to do the least amount of work possible with half a brain (I can't help feeling this comment warrants a 'boom tish!')

Well that was nice, t thanked me for asking such a thoughtful question. I'm glad i let her know & asked!

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faciam ut mei memineris I'll make you remember me from Plautus, Persa IV.3–24; used by Russian hooligans as tattoo inscription

The time has come for DD1 to put up or shut up. She's "tired of being a built-in babysitter" and feels "trapped" in our house. She will be turning 19 soon and has been stagnant for 2 years. So, I must find daycare for the little and she must find a job. It hurts but I'm proud at the same time. I know she's never going to be happy being unproductive and sheltered here. She's going to be moving out next, maybe in the future she'll be married and make me a grandmother (shudder) so it's time she learned how much it sucks being an adult.

Hi-ho couchie-o's,
Here's hoping tonight is a better night for sleep 3.5 last night was not nearly enough. Good night. I gotta crash I can hardly keep my eyes open.

Hope you sleep well!! Night.

Gosh, how does a parent know if their 17 year old is just going through normal teenage boy stuff, or if he needs therapy?! My insurance is not making it easy on us trying to set this up. They want him to see his primary care dr first. So we're going that route. I hope I'm doing the right thing.

I'd guess I trust what he is saying. If he thinks he wants it, it is pretty amazing of a 17 year old in general to recognize the need for therapy (and that may be because of you!), but also of a boy...

Art, in my personal opinion, all teenagers could use therapy even if it's just normal teenage stuff. Maybe just to learn coping skills and reassure them that what's happening to them is happening to a lot of other people. Good luck!

Thanks... yeah, I do trust him, we'll see how this plays out via the primary care md first.

You have a good point there! I did sorta-kinda have it for a short time when I was his age, I spent a lot of time talking with my high school creative writing teacher about all kinds of life-stuff. She was my lifeline back then. And still my friend now.

Thanks. It may be because he's seen the huge amount of good it's done me. And I'm handling this a whole lot better than I would have a few years ago that's for sure.

I don't think being an adult sucks - I really like it for myself.

As opposed to having everything provided for you, having responsibilities and paying bills does kinda suck. When I was first on my own, the satisfaction of being self sufficient was sorely lacking after a 12 hour shift standing on concrete floors. Sleeping was (and still is!) a luxury instead of a given, and ramen was a full meal instead of a snack. She'll adapt like we all do, but I don't want to unwrap the bubble wrap quite yet.

Yeah... I recall my righteous anger at how much was taken out of my first paycheck for taxes and stuff.

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T was saying today that my almost overwhelming desire to smash people in the face when they invade my space stems from trauma. I don't know about that. Maybe I am just an asshole, you know?

My oldest son is 19 and is so ready to be out on his own. He's looking at moving out in about 4 months and I see the confidence in his eyes.

He comes home now, and wants to know if his jeans that he needs for school are washed, looks to see if there is something to eat before he goes to school and his room looks like a bomb site unless I straighten it up, with love in my heart.

It will be a total learning experience for him too, to learn to do what was given here. All we can do is give them wings and wait to see how they fly without us. Growing up does suck... for ME mostly but for them too.

If you're an asshole, you're doing an excellent job of hiding it around here.

PS, I have the same overwhelming desire.

For me, it was freedom and knowing it was all within my control so paying the bills and having responsibilities did not weigh on me. Having everything provided comes at a cost - even if just that of self respect and lack of freedom in certain ways. I did not mind ramen and my friends all worked too and we were in to being butch - so it was not bad.

I don't have children and I would think having other humans who were incapable of being on their own demanding of or depending upon me would sort of be not up my alley.

I do have insomnia - sleep is never a given for me.

But I seriously never thought being an adult without children sucked (I, of course, have no idea if being an adult with children is suckish or not). Certainly not compared to being a non-adult.

I cannot focus on anything tonight (or sleep). I have actually been reading Hollywood gossip sites like TMZ because that is the level of concentration my brain is at right now.

The junior cat is doing his best to be comforting and lulling but he's failing miserably.