University psychologist

So i have been having a lot of trouble with school pretty much i cant seem to do anything as i am finding everything too stressful anyway there are psychologists at my university and i spoke to one a little bit many weeks ago but i only really told them i have depression and anxiety issues. I dont even know if i should tell them about any of the others stuff but i think i would be too scared anyway it took me over 4 years to tell my current psychologist about any of this and he still doesnt know everything. Ugh i want to scream i dont even know i guess i am scared of what may happen if i told them anything idk anymore i dont know what to do i am tired.

If you're concerned about privacy, what y'all discuss in therapy is confidential ...

Unless you're a threat to yourself or someone else.

You should tell them everything as honestly as you can. It seems to me that you must want to, otherwise you wouldn't keep considering it. So do it. Telling the truth is usually a good thing.

Also, there's a saying in this whole addiction, mental health and recovery thing that says we're only as sick as our secrets ... Until we openly talk about what's really going on then we can't get the help we need and no wonder it wears us out, makes us tired and kicks our butt ... Hoping you find the courage needed to put it on out there!

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

Since you have a regular psychologist and psychiatrist I don't know that you need to go into everything with the university psychologist, unless you find that person easier to talk to than your regular psychologist.

What was it that you wanted to talk to the university psychologist specifically? The stresses you are having at school? I understand that your family is not likely to like it, but have you considered taking a medical leave? You could probably talk to your regular psychologist about that, too. I'm concerned, as you probably know, that the support and help you get from you family isn't enough for what you need with all the things you are struggling with. Mine wasn't either, I love them anyway, so I'm not judging anybody. Glad we can be here, limited and anonymous as we are. :-) Wishing you the best. . .

I agree with previous poster. You have a list of MI diagnoses which should be enough for taking semester off or even s year. No need to drop out completely. Talk to your pdoc how to go about it.

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Well mostly I just wanted to talk about the trouble I am having with school I only want to talk to her about school related stuff but I am not sure if she would understand unless she knew about the other stuff going on. Like I don't want to go and have her tell me something when I have already tried it or I know I can't do that and waste the time because she doesn't know enough ugh I don't even know anymore. I can't just take time off it is too far into the semester and I have ruined everything.

I don't know about Australia, but in the US most universities allow a medical withdrawal any time during the semester and even retroactively within a few months of the semester ending.

Do you have an academic adviser or someone who might know the rules and what your options are? It would be a shame to have what you're going through now set you back academically too.

You can get extension or withdrawal for medical reasons. I would ask your advisor or that psychologist. You don't even need to share everything. Just your diagnosis might be enough

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I have already asked for extensions and stuff but extra time is not even going to help because I can't do it right now

Ask for a semester off

Divine is suggesting that you bypass your professors and go straight to the university itself. The uni can grant a medical withdrawal, and that's better than trying to deal with each individual professor. Here in the states you would go to the Dean of Students' office for something like that. I think that is a good suggestion.

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Yes, I took a medical leave from college due to depression. It was a good decision at the time and enabled me to get some rest and get in a better place so I was able to return and finish my course work.

my parents would kill me themselves if i quit uni there is no way i just have to wait it out for like 2 more weeks then i should be no ones problem anymore

It isn't quitting. It is a leave of absence. In my case, I was able to withdraw for the rest of the semester, and when I returned I just re-enrolled in the course I was taking when I left. I didn't even have to pay tuition again or anything. Your school probably can offer something similar. All it took in my case was for the school therapist I was seeing to get the ball rolling. He spoke to the Dean of my school and very generally told him that I was needing to take a leave of absence and that I would return the next semester. He took care of the paperwork and that was all it took. I took off the rest of the spring semester and the summer, then returned in the fall to finish up.

You don't need to quit. As I said before you can take medical leave and then come back. I looked up Australian universities ( 5 different ones) and all said you can take entire year off for medical reasons, all you need is a letter from your doctor ( pdoc or psychologist etc those that you are seeing now). The way you describe your current condition you will have no problem to get a letter from them. When you are better then you comeback

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Better to take leave than to fail everything.

It seems like you always have a lot of reasons why you can't take any of the advice that's offered you. Often they're hypothetical and depend on your predictions of what people might do. Maybe you should give other people a chance. They're not villains. They might help if they can.

I am affiliated with the University Counseling Center where I work. (I will clarify that I am NOT a counselor). The therapists and counselors in our center are trained and certified just like any other counselor you would see in a private practice. In fact, many of our have practices where they see clients in the evenings. What I'm saying is that university counselors are not "less than" and they can handle anything you share with them. Anything you share with them is confidential (except the things that would have to be reported anyway (hurting yourself or others, abuse to a minor, etc.) and your counseling records are held separate from your school records. No one can access your counseling records without your written consent. Please reach out to the counselors at your university. Allow them to help you. You deserve that.

Is 2 weeks your time line then? For what you talked about before? Please try talking to someone first, a university psychologist, your T, or your p-doc. I know you're scared, but please try.

You have two weeks left? Until what?

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In the UK we have something called "mitigating circumstances" that you can apply for, and which you will definitely be granted if you submit sufficient medical evidence. I have done this so many times now it isn't even funny; first you submit a claim so you can try to finish your assignments over the summer, and if you can't there is the option to mitigate again and spend another year on it, in which case you can attend lectures again and all that (if you have missed out on a lot of them due to illness, as has been the case for me). With mitigation you don't have to pay tuition fees again, so for the past three years I have not paid anything, so that does not add to the stress (though in my case fighting with the Norwegian Educational Loans Fund has been less than hilarious).

I'm going to have to apply for mitigating circumstances again this summer, but hopefully I will be able to finish by August. I don't think I can handle another year, and will most likely just quit if I end up being faced with that. The very idea of that is soul-destroying, but it's not the end of the road YET.

The same applies to you. You are still young - quite a lot younger than me, as well! I'm 27, and still don't have a BA, but you know, I'm still trying, and so can you. Spending an additional semester (or even a year) on your degree is a MUCH better solution to your current problems than what you are suggesting. I understand that you are scared, and I feel for you, I really do, but please talk to your counsellor at university. Or your other psychologist. Or BOTH. Tell them everything you are experiencing.

And I know this is easier said than done, but don't worry about what anyone else will think if you ask for some time off (which really might be the best thing for you to do at this point, even if there is a "mitigating circumstances" alternative available to you). Your life is WAY more important than your parents' opinions and their potential criticism, which is the worst case scenario. Your parents, hard as it may be to believe right now, most likely want you alive, and would prefer that over you driving yourself to an early grave. And if they don't, well sod them! Like I have said in the other thread, it's YOUR life, and you deserve to live it, and live it well.

Yes 2 weeks is the timeline my friends party is in 2 weeks than after that.

Just to be sure I'm understanding, that's when you plan Or are you talking about something else?

Please talk to someone about this...

It appears that's when friends party is. Maybe I am reading it wrong

She said something earlier about how no one will have to deal with her anymore after 2 weeks, so maybe I misunderstood (there was also something in another thread that made me think that's what she meant). Eden, if I misunderstood, I'm sorry.