The Couch - CXII : The Tao of Couchies

I've used the dictionary more since I sat on the couch than I ever did in school. Thanks for keeping my mind inquisitive! Good night Couchies. . .

And... it's snowing.

Are you a fan of the cold wet white stuff? It snows so rarely here that it's a real nuisance to me. I'd learn to like it if it appeared more than once every blue moon. Forgive me, at 4 am my thoughts aren't coherent.

Not at the end of April, I'm not! I wish we'd get it in November, which we rarely do anymore - at that time we get about seven hours of daylight, of which a couple of hours are dawn and dusk, so on a really good and sunny day maybe five hours of sun (that no longer feels warm, of course). Then I'd love to have some white stuff on the ground to brighten things up.

But now? It's downright silly! We got daffodils!

I'm in full agreement, go away snow!

Can I have some pocket riders for my session tomorrow? (13.00 local time, or in 22 hours 23 minutes) It's a family session (present: me, my parents, my T, family T) and I'm going to tell my parents something difficult, about something that happened to me when I was 8. I've made a bunch of agreements to make it easier for me but it's still really frightening. I can barely talk to my T about this let alone my parents let alone 2 T's and 2 parents at the same time!

I'll go.

Thanks, Ellahmae.

I'm in! I'll be quietly fragrant and soothing. And poisonous to anybody who frightens you.

Yeah! Pocket rider at your service!

Breadfish, count me in.

I just love the couch!

Thanks. It really means a lot to me.

Husband got a promotion and will now be able to work from home instead of having to be out of state at the office all the time... After several years of marriage I guess I get to learn how to be a spouse. This should be *fun*.

I know of successful marriages/partnerships where the couple chooses not to live together whether in the same city or not. I don't live with mine all the time, the second therapist I see has a separate abode from her spouse, several colleagues at the university choose it (even when they have jobs at the same univ.) Some have found, after having lived apart for jobs, that space is important.

He'll still be gone at least half (maybe more) of the year but when he doesn't have an active project he'll be home. Praying for a lot of work

My spouse and I work together. All day. Every day.
Overall I wouldn't have it any other way but sometimes.as a little space would be nice. She had eye surgery in the fall and I worked alone for 2 weeks and kind of enjoyed it for the first week.
After that i misses her though

It sounds tough, Ellahmae. I hope it will turn out easier than you fear.

I've lived alone for so long, that i don't think i could handle another human in my space all the time.

I sometimes wish i had a separate bedroom from my h. Just to have my own private space. I did create my own space in one corner of our bedroom where i keep my drum and a few other shamanic-related items. I do from time to time think about camping out in my backyard too. And alternately wish i could camp out in t's office.

My mouth hurts. Meh. It's not as bad as yesterday so i guess that's good. They said the 3rd day is when the swelling would be the worst so i hope they are right. I did not need a vicodin this morning, the ibuprofen is enough and I'm due to take that again right now.

Just ate a hummus sandwich for lunch. So yummy.

I am feeling very quiet and wanna hide in a cave today. T was right i was very open on Sat. And i think she picked up on a lot i wasn't saying. It feels so vulnerable even though i trust her. Today i feel closed off so I'm experimenting sharing anyway despite it.

Happy monday, couchies.

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Separate bedrooms prolonged both my marriages longer than they would otherwise have lasted. Perhaps not for the best.

I hope it turns out this way and we can get used to living together.


Thanks, Crocus. Me, too.
This is what I'm afraid will happen... Sharing a bed, a house, a kitchen, a bathroom. Gah.

Lunch is over. Back to work at least i have only a lil more than 3 hrs to go.

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Two more hours for me at work and then it's session 1 of 4 for the week with T. Sigh. I wrote out a dream I had that she was in that I had over the weekend. It's like I feel like I want her to react a certain way but I don't know why and it's making me nervous.

Just got done extroverting for an hour, coaching a fellow advocate. 1.5 hours til i go home.

The other day t made a comment about how i never tell her day to day stuff. I wanted to say that's cuz its not important. I do tell her day to day stuff that i want to talk about and theres always a enough of that so why would i waste time telling her other stuff? But maybe she is trying to figure out what i think is normal or something. I would feel like its just chatting and i don't pay her for chatting. I pay her to help me figure stuff out. Like one time i mentioned something from a trip and she goes why didn't you tell me you went there? Cuz i didn't have a reason to til now. Made me want to ask for an instruction book on how i should do therapy. I thought i was in charge of this process. Silly me. Sorry couch i guess i am in A Mood.

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The first one I see still expresses surprise at some things - I will say something about having done something and the woman will be all "I did not know you did x" me - of course you didn't, you don't know all sorts of things about me.
Then she will get all snotty and spent the rest of the time saying "xxx, but of course, I don't know you" and I will say -"Exactly so stop talking"

Good times.