Couch 114 - Take a Pew

CantExplain · May 17, 2016, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by ilikecats

I've spoken to my T about sex recently. It was a bit awkward for me, but not terrible. We mostly spoke about me feeling like a slut. But then the other day we also talked about how I'm unable to orgasm on my current meds. That was funny to hear her say the word "orgasm".

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I set a date and skip meds the day before.

healed84 · May 17, 2016, 08:08 PM

Sometimes I wish I didn't like sex so much.. Dealing with csa makes the whole me enjoying sex complicated.

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TrailRunner14 · May 17, 2016, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by DarknessForever

Been really emotional since I write some more in my writing for my t. And I emailed him about it. So he know to expect it. I haven't been this honest in a long time, even though I have written him other things. They were deep, but, for some reason, not as emotional. And I'm afraid he will think of me as ever more crazy. I wrote something I was scared to admit. Just a little bit. Wow. I'm emotional right now. I think my mom is worried.

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I've felt that way before. The feeling that my counselor will think I'm even more crazy, but after it was brought out and talked about, it took that away and I wasn't. There was so much relief and freedom to walk on through it.

healed84 · May 17, 2016, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

That's exactly what my T thought...

sigh. i am pretty sure i have, but that goes into the realm of...self-pleasure, and i am most definitely not talkign to my T about that! AHHHHHH.

That is one thing that t and I did not talk about.. Why is that more embarrassing than sex itself to talk s out.. That is interesting because I think had t brought that up, I may have turned red in the face.

Ellahmae · May 17, 2016, 08:12 PM

Talked with T today about her being my 'mom' and how I feel hurt when she takes days off because I feel like she's leaving me.

Not a fun conversation. I do not like feeling this way.

Sigh.

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DarknessForever · May 17, 2016, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by TrailRunner14

I've felt that way before. The feeling that my counselor will think I'm even more crazy, but after it was brought out and talked about, it took that away and I wasn't. There was so much relief and freedom to walk on through it.

Yeah. But it's pretty bad. Well, bad in my opinion. And pretty creppy. And really crazy sounding. He won't look fazed. He never does. But I'm scared at to what he will think.

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DarknessForever · May 17, 2016, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Ellahmae

Talked with T today about her being my 'mom' and how 8 feel hurt when she takes days off because I feel like she's leaving me.

Not a fun conversation. I do not like feeling this way.

Sigh.

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Hugs, Ellahmae.

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Ellahmae · May 17, 2016, 08:17 PM

I'm hungry.
I should eat something but my upset anxiety stomach won't have any of that.

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Ellahmae · May 17, 2016, 08:17 PM

Hey, bay. Thinking of you hope you're doing okay.

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TrailRunner14 · May 17, 2016, 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by DarknessForever

Yeah. But it's pretty bad. Well, bad in my opinion. And pretty creppy. And really crazy sounding. He won't look fazed. He never does. But I'm scared at to what he will think.

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Totally understand. I get the same way. You were brave enough to email him. I wrote it on a card and we talked about the feelings I was having about sharing this with him. I asked him to read it, silently, and then we talked about it. That may have been the chicken way out of it, but it works for me. And the relief of bringing it out of myself and sharing it, as shared knowledge with another person was very freeing from the feelings I had about it.

DarknessForever · May 17, 2016, 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Ellahmae

I'm hungry.
I should eat something but my upset anxiety stomach won't have any of that.

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When I have those awful moments, I force myself to just eat. Even if a little amount of food, it's still better than none. Hate the nausea after, but it never comes up.

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DarknessForever · May 17, 2016, 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by TrailRunner14

Totally understand. I get the same way. You were brave enough to email him. I wrote it on a card and we talked about the feelings I was having about sharing this with him. I asked him to read it, silently, and then we talked about it. That may have been the chicken way out of it, but it works for me. And the relief of bringing it out of myself and sharing it, as shared knowledge with another person was very freeing from the feelings I had about it.

Well, not quite. I told him I wrote it down and was bringing it in. Makes sure I don't chicken out. If I don't do that, I never let him read it.

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Ellahmae · May 17, 2016, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by DarknessForever

When I have those awful moments, I force myself to just eat. Even if a little amount of food, it's still better than none. Hate the nausea after, but it never comes up.

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I wish it were that easy.
I have issues with food and eating in general.

ilikecats · May 17, 2016, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Are you sure it's the medications? Were you already on the meds when you started? Because for young women without a lot of experience it can sometimes take a while to orgasm regularly, naturally. It sorts itself out eventually.

Yeah I was on the meds before I started having sex. I've never been able to orgasm though even before I started the meds, like when I was with myself. Maybe it is just an experience thing though. What do you mean by naturally? Is there a way to do it in an unnatural way, like with a certain medicine or something? Because if there is, I might want to look into that too.

DarknessForever · May 17, 2016, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Ellahmae

I wish it were that easy.
I have issues with food and eating in general.

Sorry, Ellahmae. I hope it gets better for you. Before I started to force myself to eat with my upset stomache, I refused to eat because I knew it would hurt. Hugs, Ellahmae.

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ilikecats · May 17, 2016, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by healed84

That is one thing that t and I did not talk about.. Why is that more embarrassing than sex itself to talk s out.. That is interesting because I think had t brought that up, I may have turned red in the face.

I agree, that is much more embarrassing for me to talk about than sex is. While sex is a bit embarrassing, that is wayyy more.

May 17, 2016, 08:27 PM

I was going to have a glass of wine tonight, but think I'd better not. My stomach is really upset and I'm not sure why. It feels like nervous-upset. The refinance is on schedule and the appraiser is coming Thursday, the house looks fine, work went good today even if I'm tired from doing my Olympian thing all morning, h and I still doing good talking to each other, maybe I'm waiting for the proverbial other shoe or something I don't know. But I can't stay out of the bathroom. Maybe it's just a 24 hr bug or something. Oops, gotta run again.

DarknessForever · May 17, 2016, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by artemis-within

I was going to have a glass of wine tonight, but think I'd better not. My stomach is really upset and I'm not sure why. It feels like nervous-upset. The refinance is on schedule and the appraiser is coming Thursday, the house looks fine, work went good today even if I'm tired from doing my Olympian thing all morning, h and I still doing good talking to each other, maybe I'm waiting for the proverbial other shoe or something I don't know. But I can't stay out of the bathroom. Maybe it's just a 24 hr bug or something. Oops, gotta run again.

I hope you feel better soon, Art.

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DarknessForever · May 17, 2016, 08:32 PM

I'm starting to feel anxious myself. I always do this right before bed.

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TrailRunner14 · May 17, 2016, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by DarknessForever

Well, not quite. I told him I wrote it down and was bringing it in. Makes sure I don't chicken out. If I don't do that, I never let him read it.

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Understand. I felt that freedom it gives the first time and now there is a great desire in my heart to feel that with all the scary things that come up. I pray courage for you. Hug!

DarknessForever · May 17, 2016, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by TrailRunner14

Understand. I felt that freedom it gives the first time and now there is a great desire in my heart to feel that with all the scary things that come up. I pray courage for you. Hug!

Thank you, TrailRunner. That means a lot to me.

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atisketatasket · May 17, 2016, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by ilikecats

Yeah I was on the meds before I started having sex. I've never been able to orgasm though even before I started the meds, like when I was with myself. Maybe it is just an experience thing though. What do you mean by naturally? Is there a way to do it in an unnatural way, like with a certain medicine or something? Because if there is, I might want to look into that too.

By naturally I meant it will come in time. For myself and most women I know well enough to discuss such things with, sex gets enormously better and more pleasurable for women as time goes by. With more frequent and more regular and more intense and more enjoyable orgasms. It probably has something to do with greater personal experience, one's partner's greater experience, and just relaxing more.

There probably are natural aphrodisiacs that would increase the pleasure - Google around.

TrailRunner14 · May 17, 2016, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by artemis-within

I was going to have a glass of wine tonight, but think I'd better not. My stomach is really upset and I'm not sure why. It feels like nervous-upset. The refinance is on schedule and the appraiser is coming Thursday, the house looks fine, work went good today even if I'm tired from doing my Olympian thing all morning, h and I still doing good talking to each other, maybe I'm waiting for the proverbial other shoe or something I don't know. But I can't stay out of the bathroom. Maybe it's just a 24 hr bug or something. Oops, gotta run again.

So sorry your tummy is distressed!! I hope it feels better soon. Totally understand the "waiting for the other shoe to drop" feeling. I'm there much of the time too.

Glad all is going well your refi. That can be very taxing.

If you have some peppermint it might help settle your tummy.