Couch 117: Come On In and Set-tee A While

stopdog · Jun 29, 2016, 07:42 PM

I would have walked out at "don't question me"

unaluna · Jun 29, 2016, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Can't be - do you think unaluna wouldn't have known that?

I think things are different uh... in YurtVille, yeah that's the ticket!

atisketatasket · Jun 29, 2016, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I would have walked out at "don't question me"

Second that. Doesn't matter if he feels criticized.

I will say for No. 3 that she handled two serious ruptures brilliantly.

Jun 29, 2016, 07:56 PM

My entire family of origin is ****ing crazy. So crazy. Trying to text my older sister between court appearances because my mother has just lost it but my sister has bought into her delusion of Devils and spells causing my other sister to do horrible things. Really. Good god. I am going to end up with guardianship of all of them at some point. They are all tucking crazy. In the meantime, my mother is discussing killing her dog again. H does not want another dog, particularly an older one, but agrees we cannot just sit by while she kills yet another innocent animal. So now we will have two old dogs. Old dog A and old dog B. OD1 and OD2. Hopefully OD2 will not be too annoyed by the pup. And kittens that think all dogs are their subjects.

unaluna · Jun 29, 2016, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by incas

session went okay..i am not really sure how to feel about it.

after i told him things didnt happen the way he think they did...he at first said..please dont question me...(ouch).
when i continued to stand my ground and tell him this is exactly the way things happened between us...he said numerous times he felt accused, criticized, attacked and was getting frustrated as i wouldnt accept his answers.(they were not making sense to me)

about being late for 3 sessions..he said sessions can run long as important things are being discussed...i am making conclusions when i dont have all the info of what is happening while i sit in the waiting area...so i should give him benefit of doubt.

later he said he does some intensive kind of therapy where lots of stuff has to cramped in such a short time..so it gets long at times...i told him fine..doesnt matter..i have changed the appt time....

we just agreed to disagree...

i am not really sure how u r supposed to discuss differences when other person keeps on saying they are feeling criticized when i express my point of view and stick to it ?

he was just adamant...that he wouldnt do such a thing..when i know very well he did.

i had gone to the appt. thinking it could turn ugly . this could be my last session. it didnt turn out that way. it was okay. i made sure he heard how i felt and how i saw things. he didnt agree with me though.

You don't really say here what you said to him. But I got the impression from your earlier posts that you were kinda jealous of his other clients? So if he doesn't agree you have cause to be jealous because he keeps somebody for 5 minutes or whatever - it's not about what he is DOING and that he must stop it. It's about WHY do you feel jealous or whatever?

I get it. I used to feel jealous of my t's other clients too. Some of them hide in the bathroom when I exit, so I know I bother them too. I hated being able to hear him laugh with other clients. Then I was like, wtf, I used to do stand up comedy? Why am I not laughing with him? What's wrong with ME? why am I holding back? WHAT am I holding back?

I might have had too much coffee today...

velcro003 · Jun 29, 2016, 08:10 PM

Does anybody else get annoyed that they have people that care about them?

incas · 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

You don't really say here what you said to him. But I got the impression from your earlier posts that you were kinda jealous of his other clients? So if he doesn't agree you have cause to be jealous because he keeps somebody for 5 minutes or whatever - it's not about what he is DOING and that he must stop it. It's about WHY do you feel jealous or whatever?

I get it. I used to feel jealous of my t's other clients too. Some of them hide in the bathroom when I exit, so I know I bother them too. I hated being able to hear him laugh with other clients. Then I was like, wtf, I used to do stand up comedy? Why am I not laughing with him? What's wrong with ME? why am I holding back? WHAT am I holding back?

I might have had too much coffee today...

First part was about a rupture 6 months ago that i brought up.

I did tell him i felt insulted everytime he exited with the same client 10 mins into my appt. It made me feel i was not important . Once is ok. Twice fine. Different clients ..fine. but same client ,3x in a row. ? He said it was important things tbey were working on ...so it was justified?

unaluna · Jun 29, 2016, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

Does anybody else get annoyed that they have people that care about them?

I just wonder what they want from me. And how I am going to fail to live up to their expectations. Which they know to begin with. So it's like it's all a set up.

You mean like that?

incas · Jun 29, 2016, 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

Does anybody else get annoyed that they have people that care about them?

Yes...i am like silently screaming....dont...i m not who u think i m...i will screew up i ll let u down. Plz dont b so nice to me.

velcro003 · Jun 29, 2016, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I just wonder what they want from me. And how I am going to fail to live up to their expectations. Which they know to begin with. So it's like it's all a set up.

You mean like that?

no...my family has long ago given up expectations on me. Moving far away and limiting contact worked.

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Originally Posted by incas

Yes...i am like silently screaming....dont...i m not who u think i m...i will screew up i ll let u down. Plz dont b so nice to me.

Its more like, i wish i could die, but know i won't kill myself because then my family and friends would be really upset, and i don't want to do that to them, which blows. hence, wishing they wouldn't care, or at least having me believe no one would care.

awkwardlyyours · Jun 29, 2016, 08:28 PM

Considering starting a thread on how Ts handle ruptures (my current and constant sore point) -- responses would be too complex for a poll though.

I'm guessing it's been done before but perhaps not recently, unless I'm mistaken?

ETA: I do recall a thread on it recently.

granite1 · Jun 29, 2016, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

no...my family has long ago given up expectations on me. Moving far away and limiting contact worked.

Its more like, i wish i could die, but know i won't kill myself because then my family and friends would be really upset, and i don't want to do that to them, which blows. hence, wishing they wouldn't care, or at least having me believe no one would care.

yes velcro sometimes i do wish i did not have my son and husband for that very reason . its hard
are you ok? whats going on

atisketatasket · Jun 29, 2016, 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

Considering starting a thread on how Ts handle ruptures (my current and constant sore point) -- responses would be too complex for a poll though.

I'm guessing it's been done before but perhaps not recently, unless I'm mistaken?

ETA: I do recall a thread on it recently.

What if the options were "well," "badly," "pretend it didn't happen," etc.?

I just like polls.

atisketatasket · Jun 29, 2016, 09:12 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I might have had too much coffee today...

Or possibly your ketones are too high?

Jun 29, 2016, 09:22 PM

Boy that headache the other day really did a number on me. My head still feels full of fog 2 days later and I am sooooooo tired. Went to bed early last night, and am about to do the same tonight. I cannot focus. Son was telling me about a something earlier it's something that looks like a drill bit but he called it something else, and it was something his grandpa gave him, he said "grandpa used this wrong it has wood stuck inside it and it was not meant to be used on wood it's for metal." And I asked him a question about it calling it a drill bit because that's what it looks like and he goes "It's like I'm talking to a five year old. I just said 3 times that it is a mill end." I was like I told you I was foggy and couldn't focus. I am too tired to even respond to him that he should not be talking to me that way.

awkwardlyyours · Jun 29, 2016, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

What if the options were "well," "badly," "pretend it didn't happen," etc.?

I just like polls.

And...done!

ruh roh · Jun 29, 2016, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

What if the options were "well," "badly," "pretend it didn't happen," etc.?

I just like polls.

Those are good poll options. Mine would be pretend it's not a rupture until the client gives up.

stopdog · Jun 29, 2016, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by artemis-within

Boy that headache the other day really did a number on me. My head still feels full of fog 2 days later and I am sooooooo tired. Went to bed early last night, and am about to do the same tonight. I cannot focus. Son was telling me about a something earlier it's something that looks like a drill bit but he called it something else, and it was something his grandpa gave him, he said "grandpa used this wrong it has wood stuck inside it and it was not meant to be used on wood it's for metal." And I asked him a question about it calling it a drill bit because that's what it looks like and he goes "It's like I'm talking to a five year old. I just said 3 times that it is a mill end." I was like I told you I was foggy and couldn't focus. I am too tired to even respond to him that he should not be talking to me that way.

If you can't follow stuff as well or are still tired after a couple of days- you may want to get it looked into.

unaluna · Jun 29, 2016, 11:54 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Or possibly your ketones are too high?

Dont think so. I ate actual bread today! Well millet sourdough. Kinda bread!

Jun 30, 2016, 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Dont think so. I ate actual bread today! Well millet sourdough. Kinda bread!

What are you? A canary.

Jun 30, 2016, 01:59 AM

I am feeling not wanted. My T hasn't got back to me with the invoice even though he said he'd do it in a couple of days. It is school holidays and who wouldn't want to spend time with their kids instead off sorting out an invoice. This is ridiculous but there it is.