The Couch 120: The Missing Element

Nothing here seems to satisfy the mechanic, not even if I pay 50% now and 50% next week just so I can have my car and independence.

No no - its just - its like, if they are girls, then what am i? I have seen jeff daniels fairly close up, and i can see he is at times very well groomed - like when hes not growing a beard. Same for my t. My mother was two different people - maybe 3! Work mom wore red lipstick. Im more of a lump.

Hey Couch, why do I ALWAYS feel like I'm forgetting something? The feeling is HORRID.

Screen calls? Caller ID? Filter emails? Block texts? All ways in which I am keeping future ex at bay, because I have a similar guilt problem.

And wait to listen to any voicemails or open any snailmails until i get to ts office.

Welcome to my world. When you find out let me know OK?

Yes, will do.

im worried she will send me a letter .i would not even want to read it . i am hoping ill have maybe a week before she does . i wont be able to deal with what she will say . how hurt she is and will never ask anything of me .and how she was trying to help me by telling my son to get out of the house etc...

I am just as scared to date as I am scared to be alone.

For the record, sweet tea is just wrong. Blech. Yuck!

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I'm not scared to date, per se. I'm sure I'll never find someone who can live up to my standards. In my past I worried I wouldn't live up to someone else's standards. Now that's an unexpected change.

Good luck to you!

Thank you, I appreciate it. You as well.

It took forever to realise that having sex and going on a date weren't the same thing.

I liked my mothers letters. They made it clear how self-serving her attitude was. Me me me me me. I didnt even exist in her world. It was nice to see it in black and white.

Mine would not have said, she was trying to help me. She would have said, she thought the right thing to do was tough love, but oh poor stupid her, she got it wrong, she messed up. NOT she hurt anybody elses feelings.

Eta - We talk about the non-apology on here all the time. Betting you dont even get that - "im sorry you feel that way!"

I'm sorry to hear about the reaction to treatment. I'm very glad your person has a strong SD on her side. Could I get in on the clobbering? Sounds cathartic.

I love sweet tea, strong sweet tea nothing like it.

Don't open it. Burn it. Tear it into tiny pieces. Shred it. Use it for toilet paper and flush it. You deserve peace from her.

I feel the same way when I review Skype chats with future ex.

A very nice guy I met in a bookstore last week and ended up having coffee with in their cafe asked me to dinner. I wanted to say yes, but I made up an excuse because I just didn't want to learn what was wrong with him - more like husband 1? more like future ex? or with his own particular brand of stuff?

That is why I love caller id. I can choose to just not answer. For all she knows, I am in the shower.

And then we can all go YAY!!! She is never going to ask anything of you again. In all seriousness, you could just wait to read the letter until you are with your T, or just burn it without reading it.

I could point out that there are plenty of ts out there for whoever needs them and that your t probably isn't full up. Or say that you should spend your money however you want to. Or mention that your kids are being kept safe. But instead I will just say that for me, guilt does not always tell the truth.

Oh PUHLEASE. Your mother. I am sure that is what she'll say, because how dare someone challenge her narcisstic beliefs!! Be strong Granite. YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT. She just is trying to gain control again by turning it all around on you...its just an abusive ploy.
Yes.

I burned a letter from my mother once. It was a horrible hate letter when I was in college, after my brother 'outed' me to them because I was dating a woman at the time. In said letter she said lovely things like "I am glad your grandparents are dead because this would have killed them" (her parents, mind you, and that grandmother was the one that was more a mother to me than she was and I loved her like crazy) and "Lots of luck, you're really going to need it" and "They won't let you work at Girl Scout camp anymore if they find out, you better hope I don't tell them." I think I really have let go of my old story. I was able to type that without crying. Anytime in the past when I've mentioned that letter, it would always make me cry! The memory is still there but it no longer has any power over me.

It was made to be sweetened Unsweetened is an abomination!

The spouse is out for a walk with the non-ill fur child. I'm really enjoying these few minutes without him home. (caps) He's always, always here! (/caps). I just need him to get out of the house and leave me to do stuff without him around. We are playing a new online game together and he wants to help me in battles and he tells me what to do every three seconds. I know he just wants to help, but I just want to play it on my own without intervention or discussion. I want to be part of the world and if I miss something? I don't care. If I don't do something exactly to how he would play? I don't care. So I'm enjoying this hour of alone in the house me time.