Couch 122 - Doin' what we do!

Art -- you keep giving me ideas to try out in therapy. I already have it on my list to try stomping my feet as you said you do -- unfortunately, T's couch sinks waaaaaaay down and the floor is carpeted and the distance between her chair and the couch is a trifle too close. So, the full effect of me stomping my large feet + long-ish legs will be muffled.

But, the point is to try.

Now, I shall also consider throwing down the cash -- again, sigh....there's no convenient table. The furniture situation is most non-conducive to me attempting a tantrum. Gahhh. Very annoying.

Cash tossing is not a tantrum - a tantrum would be throwing it onto the ground. Tossing cash on the table is dismissive.

I did throw it on the ground as we were sitting on the floor....

SD -- just to be clear, I would never mention you and tantrum in the same sentence.

But I meant it to be dismissive because I was done with the conversation....

We were having such a good talk too, before she got all pushy. Dammit.

Im starting to regain my energy. Im folding laundry today, and i noticed a certain lilt in my voice earlier this week when i called my aunt to invite myself over and to tell her we were closing on my mothers old apartment. I heard myself and i was like, is that... joy?! T and i were talking about whether i would make up with the relatives and what that would take. I was like, i would want them to understand about me and her. Like that i should have run away much earlier - like as soon as i learned to walk!

Oh for the love. She just sent me an email. I refuse to read it. Go away, t. I don't want you right now. I need to finish my tantrum first.

(((Unaluna)))

Remember to throw it backhand.

I Frisbee'd the card.

I'll write more when I get home from work cuz I am interested in other's thoughts on what t was pushing me about. Still kinda mad but getting over it.

Good lord.(not about anything here)

I have taken 1 call in the past 30 minutes. Getting paid overtime to read and chat with you guys.

I dunno...I think pushing it down into her cleavage or tucking it into her waistband would be dismssive. Throwing it on the table just doesn't compare.

Art, I feel you. Doing Skype sessions with No. 3 weeks No. 2 isn't available has made me furious about our old "rupture." Which I thought had advanced to the I'll forget about this someday stage. On the other hand, she screwed up pretty badly.

I don't plan on her getting close enough to me for that. Plus she would think I was bonding to her.

That bonding statement just made me laugh out loud at my desk.... no disrespect meant...

It's a good thing I didn't have coffee to spew out of my nose at that comment.

Right?

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Ah, never mind. I'm just being a big baby.

But my question remains. Does the t have a right to push about money stuff? Like, pushing me and insisting that I need to make more money?
And that I need to tell my spouse that he needs to make more money? I pay her full rate out of pocket and she knows this. It's not like I don't pay
her or something. I always pay in full. I wish I had stood up to her more today.

Hugs to all who desire them

Art, if you are having no problems paying her, and you didn't yourself say something like, "I wish I made more money" or "I wish my husband worked more to lessen my stress about being the main provider," she should keep her mouth shut.

Thanks. I think upon further reflection that there's just a big disconnect here in what I'm trying to ask for and what she hears me asking for. (And I'm just not used to her not "getting" me at all so....) Anyway I think she hears me saying I want to come more often. But what I'm actually saying is that I want to talk about feeling that way. Now how come I couldn't just put it that way this morning? Hmph.

That is well outside her usual remit.

It is, however, OK for a T to point out that you are selling yourself short or letting your boss exploit you.