[shakespeare47]

Has anyone let their therapist see their posts on this website? I'm considering it.

[mindwrench]

I would not let a T know what web site, or my screen name but I would share copies of things I have said here with the right T, if I really trusted them. I recently shared a copy of a long post I made here with a new T, and they did not take advantage of it, they read about a third of it and handed it back to me, dismissing much of the content. I feel like I can write things better than I could articulate them verbally, especially if it is something with very strong emotions connected to it. I plan to give my next T a typed letter, with some content based on my posts here among other things.

I like having this place to share things that I may never tell anyone else, and if I thought somebody knew my name here that I know in real life, I would not like it.

I haven't (voluntarily) but lots of other users have. Maybe they will tell.

[jeremiahgirl]

No I haven't but I did mention to him about the app, and it's topics.

I suppose if I wrote something here that I felt like sharing, I might copy it and have him read a copy of it, but I never chose to discuss my therapy here on PC. I did show him things I journalled, etc. It was helpful.

[Out There]

He knows I use a forum and I talk about what I say , I would not bother if he looked here and knew who was me. If I were to show him something I posted I would just bring up the screen , but I sometimes just read posts to him from the screen without showing him.

I've printed threads that were helpful and shared them with my therapist. However she doesn't know I post here and the threads I've shared I haven't posted in.

[LonesomeTonight]

I've copied and pasted from a post I made here and e-mailed it to my marriage counselor. Because I feel like I said it perfectly on here. And both T and MC know I use this forum (I've specifically said it's Psych Central). But I haven't shared my user name with either of them or showed them a post with that visible. If either of them wanted to find me, though, I'm sure it would be pretty easy. Since not many people on here talk both about a T and a marriage counselor (plus the timing of posts would line up with my appointments, etc.). But I doubt either of them have (or at least they're good at not revealing what they've read).

[Waterbear]

I have printed things off and read them to her or she has read them, yes. I find it very helpful, for both of us, because I also express myself far better in writing than speaking. She does not know that I post in a forum and I do not show threads but only my particular posts, mainly from the Dear T thread.

[ruh roh]

I've shared links to certain threads that my therapist said she clicked through to read (and, based on conversations, she did read them). I don't know if she's read anything beyond those threads, or if she knows my screen name. It would not be too hard to figure out it's me, but it doesn't really worry me because I don't share anything here that I haven't said to her.

[kecanoe]

I don't. But that has more to do with what I want to do in my sessions than wanting to hide stuff. I really don't think that my ts would care to spend time on this forum. They are probably on forums for ts wondering wtf is up with us

Originally Posted by kecanoe

I don't. But that has more to do with what I want to do in my sessions than wanting to hide stuff. I really don't think that my ts would care to spend time on this forum. They are probably on forums for ts wondering wtf is up with us

Here too. I just don't discuss PC in therapy; it isn't relevant to what I actually do discuss in therapy. They are two completely separate things for me.

[shakespeare47]

Originally Posted by mindwrench

I would not let a T know what web site, or my screen name but I would share copies of things I have said here with the right T, if I really trusted them. I recently shared a copy of a long post I made here with a new T, and they did not take advantage of it, they read about a third of it and handed it back to me, dismissing much of the content. I feel like I can write things better than I could articulate them verbally, especially if it is something with very strong emotions connected to it. I plan to give my next T a typed letter, with some content based on my posts here among other things.

I like having this place to share things that I may never tell anyone else, and if I thought somebody knew my name here that I know in real life, I would not like it.

A typed letter or cut and paste to email sound like a good options. I also find I can articulate what it is I want to say on paper better than in a conversation.

[junkDNA]

My T wouldn't read here during his time off. I tell him 99% of what I post here anyway

No way! I have never told her I post here because she would identify me straight away.
I told t that I had read on an Internet forum that if you develop feelings (erotic) that you must tell your t about them. T thought that was hilarious and laughed the whole way through our session, she said she wasn't laughing at me but that I listened to people on the Internet. It was pretty funny at the time

[ScarletPimpernel]

She knows I'm on a forum because I have mentioned it a few times, but she doesn't know which one. I'd have no problem telling her which or allowing her to look at my posts. I have nothing to hide. But she wouldn't care. She never asks about it and she wouldn't have the time anyways.

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

No way! I have never told her I post here because she would identify me straight away.
I told t that I had read on an Internet forum that if you develop feelings (erotic) that you must tell your t about them. T thought that was hilarious and laughed the whole way through our session, she said she wasn't laughing at me but that I listened to people on the Internet. It was pretty funny at the time

Mona, your T is so hurtful.

[therapyishelping777]

I haven't told him I'm on here, but.. I think I would be easy to figure out if he were on here looking. if he read many of my posts.. I am really fine with him knowing anything, because he is awesome and I trust him.. thats usually hard to say. but he has earned that.

[precaryous]

I have never shown T the message board but I have told her I post on one. The message board rarely comes up in discussion.

I copy/paste any post of mine that I want to share with her and put it in a folder on my iPad. Then I read it to her during therapy, usually. We discuss it.

Right now I wouldn't care if she read my posts on PC. She seems too busy teaching, seeing her private practice clients and in her private life to bother reading message boards.

I've both sent links and copied and pasted. I only sent links further into the relationship when I trusted him more and was happy to share anything I might write on here. I also know him well enough to know he won't read reams and reams. If I felt like he would be on here every day reading the Dear T thread I probably wouldn't send a link.

[fullsassahead]

I have neither shared that I post to a message board or shared the content of what I've written here. I find that I use this forum to process therapy and the thoughts and emotions that come up for me. But, while I may occasionally post about deeper issues, I find what I share here to be different from what I would share in therapy itself.

I don't think I would want any member of my treatment team to know where I post or what my user name is. It's not that I am hiding anything, but rather because I want this to be a safe place for me to share thoughts and feelings as they come up. While I would likely have no issue sharing my writings with them, I would want it to be more controlled - me sharing on my own terms. All that being said, I don't feel as though my T or other members of my treatment team would spend time on a forum. They're all super busy and have said that they try to steer clear of technology when they're home as they would prefer spending time with their family and friends.

[ruh roh]

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

No way! I have never told her I post here because she would identify me straight away.
I told t that I had read on an Internet forum that if you develop feelings (erotic) that you must tell your t about them. T thought that was hilarious and laughed the whole way through our session, she said she wasn't laughing at me but that I listened to people on the Internet. It was pretty funny at the time

Ouch.

I shared a couple threads with my therapist for a specific reason that was important. I'm really glad she did not make fun of anyone, or make fun of the idea of people on the internet. After all, I am one of them.

Originally Posted by ruh roh

Ouch.

I shared a couple threads with my therapist for a specific reason that was important. I'm really glad she did not make fun of anyone, or make fun of the idea of people on the internet. After all, I am one of them.

I am one of them too and proud to be. I think she was questioning my judgement and said something like "if they told you to jump off a bridge too, remould you do that? " I said of course not but she didn't seem to understand as usual that this place is comforting or could provide comfort for all of the other hours she is not available.

[ruh roh]

She wouldn't understand that you find comfort here if you are laughing with her, which it sounded like from your post. Sorry if I got that wrong.

I am remembering someone here from a while back who had told her therapist about comments by posters, and reported back that her therapist called posters ***holes or something like that. It just struck me as more about the therapist to judge people with mh concerns on an internet forum. In my case, it hadn't occurred to me that I risked hearing judgement from my therapist about internet people and, by inference, myself. And how it would have felt to learn she was the type to laugh at other people.

Sorry..this seems to have struck a chord with me. I react badly to therapists who laugh at people.

Originally Posted by ruh roh

She wouldn't understand that you find comfort here if you are laughing with her, which it sounded like from your post. Sorry if I got that wrong.

I am remembering someone here from a while back who had told her therapist about comments by posters, and reported back that her therapist called posters ***holes or something like that. It just struck me as more about the therapist to judge people with mh concerns on an internet forum. In my case, it hadn't occurred to me that I risked hearing judgement from my therapist about internet people and, by inference, myself. And how it would have felt to learn she was the type to laugh at other people.

Sorry..this seems to have struck a chord with me. I react badly to therapists who laugh at people.

I always laugh when other people laugh, it's something I can't really control. I am sorry it struck a chord with you. It's a sensitive subject and a lot of our ruptures have been over t laughing inappropriately, I wonder if it's a nervous habit like mine sometimes.
I think she was laughing more at me than at the forum because I told my ex t I loved her after reading it on an Internet forum and she just thought it was hilarious. I see now how if I wasn't in a good place that could have been very damaging. T does laugh inappropriately at times and I am sorry if it hurts you to hear that.