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I'm surrounded by too much rich food lately. Today I tried to notice if I was really hungry or not. I don't make a habit of fasting but I wanted to do so this afternoon through tonight but I didn't last.

I think of real hunger as coming from the belly, and craving hunger as coming from the mouth - it wants something to do, it wants a certain taste. If that helps.

Awesome extremely spiritual Samhain bonfire!!

I turn out the lights and keep the dogs, cat and me in the back of the house.

I am so happy you got to experience that!! I've missed you 'round here.

(I was going to go to one last night with my drumming group but didn't because of transportation issues. In retrospect I should have begged someone for a ride on the meetup site!)

This was just an 'on my own: sort of thing . Im still not ready for any remotely spiritual group activity. Still getting over my church kicking me out nearly 20 years ago.

I have contracted the school rampant malaise that has been felling my students right and left.
I had to cancel the appointment with the woman today. I think it has been 8 or nine weeks since the last appointment.

I hope you feel better!! Hug, if that's ok.

Want some homemade vegetable soup? [_]p
Feel better.

Too anxious to sleep. I also have whatever illness is making the rounds here. Hurts real bad when I cough, and lying down makes it worse. Considering whether to eat or take meds. Probably should just take meds and knock myself out. I don't have anything tomorrow until 2:30 so sleeping most of the day sounds like a good plan. I hate being anxious.

Hope you feel better soon stopdog. Those snot nosed kids and their germs! (Even if they are older kids)

She probably thinks you miss her. Be sure to disabuse her of that notion right quick.

Who dares enter a strange apartment?

I wouldn't dare.

hope you feel better quick stopdog and kecanoe! i got my flu shot last weekend and have also started upping my daily vitamin c like i do every year at this time in the hopes to stay healthy.

eta: i purposely say "in the hopes" because half of the people sitting around me at work are coughing/sneezing and it feels like just a matter of time.... so i'm hoping realistically, to avoid the worst of it!

ok. part 4 of my therapy homework is done - writing my emotional response to doing parts 1-3. I'm off work today and tomorrow, not going anywhere or anything, planned a couple random days off in a row just because. maybe i'll spend a little of it cleaning my house, it's not bad, but the floors need mopped and there are a bunch of random papers all over the kitchen table, so taking care of those won't take too long and will make the house look really good.

There is an essential oil blend called Thieves Oil. The blend I use is Orange, Clove, Cinnamon, Eucalyptus and Rosemary essential oils. It's antiviral and antibacterial and some other "anti" things. Anyway.....

I rub it on the bottom of my feet when there is a "bug" going around and I don't get it. I work with children and last year the flu started making its rounds. I kept the thieves Oil on my feet and stayed well.

If you Google Thieves Oil you can see that back in history, when the Black Plague took so many people, thieves were going into people's homes and robbing their things after they were gone. The thieves would put this oil on their feet so they would not get the plague. Sad story, but that's where the name of the blend came from.

Just thought I'd share that with y'all. I don't do flu shots. Mainly, because I don't to the shot "thing" and the two times I was brave and did get one, I got the flu.

Hey all, T was wonderful. She didn't have client after me so we went over 25 minutes talking about grandma/grief etc and another 20 minutes about the medicaid and recent developments on her end. Anyway, still feel really strange about everything but I think ultimately I really will be okay though it doesn't always really feel like it. Thank you for supporting me when I spewed about all this.

DD I'm so glad t was helpful.

I know I haven't been on the couch much, but there's something I'm wondering about, and I'm hoping you guys can give me some feedback. Not sure if I have to trigger warning this statement, but just in case. H and I had a fight on Sunday, and he . And this was shortly after breaking a glass that he slammed down in anger. This really upset me. I know it's partly because my parents rarely demonstrated any sort of anger, let alone something like that. But naturally, as I'd predicted, our marriage counselor today was like, "Oh, I've had to repair a few walls in my house, too" (implying he'd done the same) like it was just this normal, everyday occurrence.

So...how common is this? Or taking out anger in other ways on inanimate objects (I don't just mean, like, smacking your keyboard when your computer freezes up or banging your steering wheel when someone cuts you off in traffic). I'm someone who turns anger inward, so it's not something I could ever see myself doing. But I know that's also not healthy. So what's the norm? Have you done this? Would you be scared/upset by it if an SO/family member did it? Thanks.

thanks for that info, Trail. I've recently started using essential oils for headaches, instead of taking tylenol or something. it's been helpful. plus it smells good and that makes me happy too. i keep a bottle at work for that reason.

LT -- that would bother me. But, I guess a lot would depend on the person's response -- regardless of your MC's response, does H see it as problematic? Is apologetic and is working to make sure it remains a one-off occurrence? And, is aware of the impact on you?

Those sound like ideal scenarios but for me, the response post an angry outburst (not just a mere Sorry and pleading but actual internal work to figure it out) says a lot more than the outburst itself (about the relationship).

LT I don't think it's normal, everyday stuff. But at the same time I would imagine it is healthiER if you are able to choose but that's just me, i don't really know.

Thanks for your thoughts. He apologized the next morning. Said he realized it was a mistake. Though his attitude about it in marriage counseling today seemed almost like, "Yep, I did this, yeah, was a mistake." Like kind of nonchalant. Not like, 'Wow, I really screwed up, I'm sorry." Didn't help that MC seemed similarly relaxed in his response, like, "Yep, been there!" They reacted a little differently when I said how much it scared and upset me. (In response to my fears, MC did also say it's a huge leap between that and H taking anger out on me.) And H did say it was something he had to work on. But I expected more of a serious discussion about it maybe?

I don't know, I mean, we ended up talking about lots of other marital issues/concerns today, too. Much of which was focused on H, like his feelings and concerns (when it's often a bit more about me). It's possible my transference was playing a role in my reaction to MC's reaction, like, "Not you, too..." (Plus MC and I had a phone conversation Friday about some of my transference stuff, so there was all of that floating around in my head, too. And maybe I was looking for some sort of reassurance from him. But that's a whole other topic for a different thread, I suppose...)

Thanks, Art. Oh, I definitely think it's healthier to make that choice. I think part of the problem for me though, is if he was that angry that he'd do something like that...I mean I think it's just hard because I can't personally ever imagine doing that. But I also have trouble with the emotion of anger.