HORRIBLE SESSION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have preteneded this therapist was right for me. I went in with her being my 4th therapist, confident, hopeful. I went today with a note which I previously posted a thread about. The note told her secrets I was afraid to say face to face. I cried the whole session so bad my noes started bleeding when i walked out. I also bit my lip and made it bleed...........she told me she didnt know what to saay,..the session was quite most of the time with just me crying,..and every little bit she's ask me what i was thinking about. Last night I had a dram she read the note and smiled and said I was doing good,...then she got a notepad and told me to write her a poem descibring how I felt...OMG pc..I'm crying...I drove home and my mom was with me I cried as I drove....Imy mom didnt say anything....just gave me a tissue...my Therapist..didnt open a door for me either,...she had to inetruptions from her kids kcalling.. Il ike my T but why...I dunno what to do...%#@&#! IT! I need someone in my life NOW WHO CARES LIEK Y OU ALL DO....mI CRIED MY TEARS OUT! and she didnt hug me...i need hug so i will hug myself...i wont make it...i wonna die.......i want to end my pain...........

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I am so sorry your session turned out like that. I know how you feel about not getting the response you wanted from your T when you put things on paper because it is to painful to say. Please don't act on any emotions you are having about hurting yourself, post here and we can help ou with this..........if I could give you that hug you need I would.........

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big squishy hugs dear friend



Dee

Hi Dustin:
I'm so sorry about the cold response you received from your T today. I think maybe you caught her off guard Dustin.
Sometimes when you express your innermost thoughts about them, they get embarrassed. They may not tell you this, or say anything right away. She may need some time
to look back on this and redo her reaction. But bear in mind Dustin, they do not jump up and grab you and put you in a bear hug lock.....that doesn't happen. They have to have that air of professionalism around to protect you. It's not their job to always " hug" you and stuff. That come with time or maybe she's not a HUGGER. I told one of my T's one time that I was attracted to her, and she said she knew it......but that nothing would happen in her office. I was thrown for a bit, and I said, " no, not that kind of attraction" just that I find you appealing. I LIED!!!! But that happens to us girls too. I've never had that for a male therapist. I do not usually choose men. I want comfort from something warm
and tender.........and PRETTY....because life's too short to spend " bumping" uglies!!!! lol..................hahahahaha little therapy joke there. Got ya laffing I bet?????.......................
Anyway, think about it over the next week Dustin. Give her a chance to talk to you about the next time. She will. Or bring it up again when you feel stronger. Don't cry over it now. You didn't get the response you wanted and I know that hurts. But, did you really want that from her???? You may have set yourself up for that too. It's too soon in the relationship for that Dustin. I like my therapist now too. But
it's very new and she hugs me when I let her. It's not all touchy feelie Dustin, there's a fine gray line legally too. She has to be sure she isn't sending out vibes to you that aren't
there. Don't worry about it. It will all come out in the wash!!

Take care, son. You can have all the LOVE you want here.
It's there for the asking.

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I have preteneded this therapist was right for me. I went in with her being my 4th therapist, confident, hopeful.

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I am so sorry you had a horrible session. But please.... please don't think that this isn't the therapist for you just because of one bad session. If you have been reading my posts lately you will see that I had three or four very bad session in a row... but this didn't change the fact that my T is the right one for me. Bad sessions happen. I have been with my T for 2 years and bad sessions creep in all the time. I know it feels awful... it can take over, make it seem like the relationship is ruined. You might be having trouble tolerating more than one feeling for her at a time-- meaning when she's good, she's all good... but when she's bad... she's all bad... And right now you may only be able to see one side of that. And that's alright for now... But I just wouldn't want you to let it ruin your working relationship. It sounds like you have something going here. Please try and build off of your session. That's what I do when I have a bad session. When things are better with T, we process why the session went bad. It turns out making the relationship stronger in the end.

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I went today with a note which I previously posted a thread about. The note told her secrets I was afraid to say face to face. I cried the whole session so bad my noes started bleeding when i walked out. I also bit my lip and made it bleed...........she told me she didnt know what to saay,..the session was quite most of the time with just me crying,..and every little bit she's ask me what i was thinking about.

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I think that the fact that she said "I don't know what to say" is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes Ts really don't know what to say... so instead, they are honest and then they just sit with you and experience the emotion along with you. Next time you see her, bring this up. Maybe try and find out what she was feeling during this experience. Let her know how you perceive her reaction.