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![]() rainbow8, WrkNPrgress
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Question - when you said he would not engage and reinforce it. Did he just not reply to them or was his replies minimalistic acknowledgements of receiving the email?
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We would often address some of my emails in session when I wanted or sometimes he brought up what he found particularly interesting. He always knew in detail what were in the emails so he definitely read them and probably gave them quite a bit of thought on his own. He also mentioned a few times that he liked reading my emails and often felt tempted to engage more but did not, for the reason I described earlier. |
![]() Elio, LonesomeTonight, rainbow8
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#179
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I'm glad your T's emailing boundary has helped you. I think my T realized that when I email once after my session and she emails back, it stops my urge to email more. Not allowing email makes me want it more. You're probably right about my having to accept that T won't tell me her bf's name or show me a photo. I am going to do EMDR about my feelings because they are quite strong. Not wanting to be left out, I mean. She will answer questions about herself and her kids, so it's harder to accept why she won't about him. I have to drop it like she says. No, I don't feel criticized. I accept I have a problem. |
![]() Elio, LonesomeTonight
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#180
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I did do some researching on t when I decided to do the long haul and get into the guts of my transgender self. She had already let me know that she was not familiar with the LGBTQ community. I primarily was hoping to find out anything that would let me feel more comfortable about bringing up these topics. I found that she has a fairly strong religious conviction so it became imperative to talk about it before we went further. She's been great on these topics btw. |
![]() rainbow8
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#181
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But the bolded part is where all the healing is. That is where you will create change. You can be for that inner child more far than T or anyone else in the world could ever be. You and her together, looking out for and after one another, will give you an inner peace and sense of love that is 100% secure, dependable and there. Have you ever considered the fact that YOU shut out the child sense of you, too? Last edited by Luce; Jan 06, 2017 at 07:59 PM. |
![]() BayBrony, Elio
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Personally, I think it matters to know where it came from too. I agree this may not always be possible but not exploring why I am the way I am would feel like a denial of the past and sort of papering over the cracks without allowing myself to fully process my past. But that's just me. ![]() I took it that what Luce means is maybe you shut out the needs of your child part, perhaps to deny yourself the pain? I don't know, maybe I'm wrong. Perhaps the way forward is to explore what that part of you wanted/needed and how not getting that made you feel, and how it makes you feel now. |
![]() Elio, LonesomeTonight, rainbow8
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