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I just don't connect with him. Can this be solved?
I cannot get another psychotherapist, I am not paying him, it is through the public health system.
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Crazy, inside and aside Meds: bye bye meds CPTSD and some sort of depression and weird perceptions "Outwardly: dumbly, I shamble about, a thing that could never have been known as human, a
thing whose shape is so alien a travesty that humanity becomes more obscene for the vague resemblance." I have no mouth and I must scream -Harlan Ellison- |
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Can you talk to him about it. Maybe that would help. It is possible to develop a connection with time. Since it's free, I would keep trying.
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Bipolar I, Depression, GAD Meds: Zoloft, Zyprexa, Ritalin "Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most." -Buddha ![]() |
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Hi Oliver,
I'm sorry you're facing this. I remember being monumentally disappointed when I started going to therapy at the lack of connection. I'd read on here about how connected people felt to their T's, I'd read articles about how 'Finding a good T is like finding a soul mate,' and I'd wonder what was wrong with me that I just didn't feel anything intensely about my T. I mean, I liked him well enough. He seemed like a nice guy, I guessed. Mostly he was a stranger and our sessions seemed awkward. But I kept going, because it didn't seem like I had any other option. I started feeling more connected when I took a leap of faith and shared more personal things. Mostly, though, I decided we could work together and have a good-enough working relationship even without intense connection. Can you still work with your T? What does not having a connection look like for you? Do you actively dislike him? Can he still help you with your goals?
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"Fantasy, abandoned by reason, produces impossible monsters; united with it, she is the mother of the arts and the origin of their marvels." - Francisco de Goya |
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I have been seeing him since a year... and talked to him about this a lot of time.
He is not helpful other than giving me meds (he is also a psychiatrist...)... but he wants to talk, and I don't feel any kind of emotional connection to be able to do that. I just don't have anything to tell him, I don't dislike him, It is just I am not comfortable... He doesn't help at all with goals....
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Crazy, inside and aside Meds: bye bye meds CPTSD and some sort of depression and weird perceptions "Outwardly: dumbly, I shamble about, a thing that could never have been known as human, a
thing whose shape is so alien a travesty that humanity becomes more obscene for the vague resemblance." I have no mouth and I must scream -Harlan Ellison- |
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Hi Oliver,
I'm sorry you're in this situation. That does sound tough. What did he say when you told him there just wasn't a connection?
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"Fantasy, abandoned by reason, produces impossible monsters; united with it, she is the mother of the arts and the origin of their marvels." - Francisco de Goya |
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Can you connect with other people? If so, then I'd say that after a year with this therapist, that this is a far as it gets. I don't really connect to people at all, so I have had a hard time knowing when it's my issue or just not a good match with a therapist, until I landed with the one I see now. I guess I'm saying that it's hard to know what's going in in your case, but I think a year is a long enough time to know if there's anything there to build on.
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I would think about what some of your aims are for therapy and maybe chat with T about it. It's your time and you're paying money for it.
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