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Old Mar 23, 2017, 06:23 PM
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More good news for my son today. He was awarded a $5000 music scholarship. His first year is just about taken care of -- no loan required. Woohoo!
Congratulations to your son on the scholarship. That is great.
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 06:23 PM
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 06:25 PM
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(((Healed))) this sounds almost like the story of the good samaritan. I would say you guys are upholding the spirit of the law, even if you arent upholding the letter of the law. The rule is not more important than the people.
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 06:39 PM
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Is it usual to feel disorientated more than 12 hours after a session? It was a gruelling one, even though I still feel like I'm skirting around the things that need to be out in the open for me to actually heal.
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 06:40 PM
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Is it usual to feel disorientated more than 12 hours after a session? It was a gruelling one, even though I still feel like I'm skirting around the things that need to be out in the open for me to actually heal.


Sounds like you need a way to help you get grounded. Do you have some go to methods to help with that?
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 06:41 PM
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(((Healed))) this sounds almost like the story of the good samaritan. I would say you guys are upholding the spirit of the law, even if you arent upholding the letter of the law. The rule is not more important than the people.


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Old Mar 23, 2017, 06:44 PM
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wanted to get some opinions: how long is too long to reconnect with someone on FB? Just curious what you all think.
I don't think there is any time limit.
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 06:49 PM
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I suppose it works until it doesn't work, and there is always time for it to go wrong. But- I think it won't. So, when I see people talk about dual relationships I so want to offer my opinion, but I am afraid people will judge my T and tell me that he is absolutely wrong and I am just blinded that I can't see it or something.
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 06:52 PM
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Is it usual to feel disorientated more than 12 hours after a session? It was a gruelling one, even though I still feel like I'm skirting around the things that need to be out in the open for me to actually heal.
There were times when I was disorientated for longer than that.
It could be a sign of rapid progress. :crossfingers:
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 07:34 PM
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Last night I asked the question about ever not sharing something about your T in fear of reaction here. I feel like I want to share mine, only b/c its talked about here a lot. Dual relationships. It seems like there is always a hard yes that is fine, or a staunch no there should be no dual relationships with it comes to T and client.

Most of you know, that my kids and T's kids go to the same school. I used to be a teacher there and had regular interaction with the kids and T's wife. At the beginning of the school year T's wife texted me asking me for some ideas as she was looking for people to drive her kids home afterschool. After giving some names, and going back and forth.. I offered my services, they literally only live like 5mins away from school and I have brought many kids to and from school before so its not like something I would never offer to people.

So, I said I would be willing to do it. And she hopped on it. T and I talked about it next session and he said he is ok with it as long as I didn't feel pressured to do so because he was my T. And I said no way- I like your wife, and kids its really no a big deal to me. We just agreeded that I would only have contact with his wife when concerning his kids are rides. Except, of course if there was an emergency. Just to help keep the clear line of T and client.

It has gone really well, I enjoy his kids. It is helpful to drive to his house and see he lives like a normal human being. His garage is a little messy, see they ordered pizza a lot more than they like to admit lol. T checks in everyonce and awhile and makes sure I am still ok with everything. The one time that I thought twice about things is when like for Christmas his wife got me a card with a giftcard for a good amount to Target, as well as gift card to Starbucks at V-day just as a thank you.

I suppose it works until it doesn't work, and there is always time for it to go wrong. But- I think it won't. So, when I see people talk about dual relationships I so want to offer my opinion, but I am afraid people will judge my T and tell me that he is absolutely wrong and I am just blinded that I can't see it or something.
I see no problem with it, truly. Does his wife know you are a client?
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 07:49 PM
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I see no problem with it, truly. Does his wife know you are a client?


Yes! Only because when we started talking more often (she has had me over for tea before while t was not there). I gave t permission to tell her b/c I feel like even if we do become closer friends there are probably things she wouldn't want to share knowing that I am a client.
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 08:08 PM
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that makes sense. your T seems like a good one, and is checking in with you periodically. i wouldn't worry about it.
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i just read this article about how anti-depressants are basically placebos and no one really knows what they do to help, if they help at all. i am CONSTANTLY wavering back and forth on being on them. i have been going through a rough patch the past few months, so my pdoc increased my effexor. i have no side effects with them, so thats not the problem--but if there is all this research that they don't really work or how they work, why do psychiatrists (and this is a resident facility, so these are brand new doctors!) always jump to prescribe them?
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 08:16 PM
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I am wondering if this forum is bad for me. Not the people here, but the focus. Is it helping me..or enabling me to continue my life patterns?

I really want to change but I am so scared. I've been this child pretending to be an adult for so long now

I want to grow up... whatever that means. I guess that's what I need to start thinking about
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 08:19 PM
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i just read this article about how anti-depressants are basically placebos and no one really knows what they do to help, if they help at all. i am CONSTANTLY wavering back and forth on being on them. i have been going through a rough patch the past few months, so my pdoc increased my effexor. i have no side effects with them, so thats not the problem--but if there is all this research that they don't really work or how they work, why do psychiatrists (and this is a resident facility, so these are brand new doctors!) always jump to prescribe them?
Psychiatrists prescribe medications. That's what they do.
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 08:22 PM
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I am wondering if this forum is bad for me. Not the people here, but the focus. Is it helping me..or enabling me to continue my life patterns?

I really want to change but I am so scared. I've been this child pretending to be an adult for so long now

I want to grow up... whatever that means. I guess that's what I need to start thinking about
You've just had a major success. The forum might be helping.
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 08:32 PM
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H was being really sh**ty to me tonight. To the point that I was crying and was like, "Do you want me to leave?" He said no. Daughter want sitting on my lap and saying "Aw, Mommy's sad," and I was trying to reassure her. Texted T saying how I was upset because of H but would be OK, then a few minutes later was like, "Never mind, just having a moment, I'm fine" because I didn't want her to be worried about me.

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I'll be OK though.
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 08:35 PM
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 08:37 PM
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More good news for my son today. He was awarded a $5000 music scholarship. His first year is just about taken care of -- no loan required. Woohoo!
That's wonderful, lola! Congrats to your son!
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 08:45 PM
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 08:48 PM
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They are predicting a cyclone crossing near me on maybe Monday but certainly early next week. MY T session is on 9am Monday its midday Friday here i don't know whether to wait and see if T reschedules or contact him. He might be like the rest of us and in the middle of cyclone preparations.

I think i will just wait. maybe
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 08:49 PM
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Lola you seem to have a luck at the moment. Mind sharing it around?
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 09:04 PM
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I took a vacation day tomorrow, and am planning an entire ME day!! Plan to go hike a little in the early morning, just to be out in the desert and let myself think about nothing but just being out in the desert (and I promise not to get lost again!) then go to Starbucks for a chai tea latte on the way to t, then t for an hour and then after that I think I'll go shopping and try to find a new pair of jeans as my only current pair has a hole now worn in the seat lol. I have the crazy thought to maybe go get a manicure - I have never done that before - except my nails are short and I don't know if there's any hope for them. We'll see.

I'm really looking forward to seeing t tomorrow. It feels like it's been 3 months instead of barely over 3 weeks. Hmm.
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Old Mar 23, 2017, 09:11 PM
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(((Artie))) shaping (filing) and polishing your nails are just two of like at least ten steps in a manicure. So the length of the nail really is not a consideration.

My brother called me this afternoon for me to make a command appearance tomorrow morning. T is gonna be ticked that i dont demand more advance notice, that i just complain about it. I can see his point. I had a pretty restful and constructive week so far, so i think i will actually be able to continue it tomorrow.
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