Couch 140: Knocking pans

Polibeth · May 13, 2017, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I got a package from Amazon a couple days ago. I order lots of stuff from Amazon, so I just went ahead and opened it. There were two fabric bags inside that looked like they held jewelry. There was an envelope that said if I wanted to be surprised, don't look inside. The tag on one item said "Happy Mother's Day!" I was like "Wow, H surprised me. This is so sweet." Looked at the "from" part on the tag, and...it was a name I didn't recognize. So I looked at the front of the package. Turned out it was delivered to my porch by mistake and belonged to a neighbor a few doors up. I taped up the package and walked out in the rain to put it on her porch, feeling kinda sad... H never does anything special for Mother's Day (or V-day or other occasions), and for a moment, I thought he'd come through this time. But nope.

I feel like such a stereotypical wife being like "Why doesn't he ever bring me flowers?" or something. But I guess I feel taken for granted quite a bit...and then I also feel like, because of some mistakes I've made, I don't deserve to have him do special stuff for me. Talked about this with T the other day, and she seemed really sad that I felt that way. Suggested I let him know that I'd occasionally like him to do something special because he's thinking of me, but then, do I want him to do that because I asked him to? I do little things for him on occasion (like bought him a shirt that I thought would look good on him), but probably not nearly enough.

I suppose there's another marriage counseling topic that I can toss onto the pile...it just seems so minor compared to other things that I feel petty bringing it up.

I had almost the exact same situation last Mother's Day. A delivery driver rang the bell and had this gorgeous bouquet of flowers. I almost fainted I was so happy - until he asked me to sign for it and I noticed it was the wrong address (off by 10). I hope the lady in the next building had a nice Mother's Day.

unaluna · May 13, 2017, 10:53 PM

Its saturday night. I took a shower. Starting the week off right. Also washed the kitchen floor earlier, and started cleaning the bathroom.

11:06 PM

Happy Mother's Day, couch!

I just got back from my schools formal. I ended up working the voting booth for Prince and Princess. Had a surprising amount of fun, considering.

atisketatasket · May 14, 2017, 12:22 AM

Looks like CW is padding her healthgrades.com ratings. Used to be about a month ago she had two ratings and 1/5 stars, now she has 8 and 4/5 stars, with two reviews - both written at the same time, and neither the negative review that used to be there about her talking on her cellphone during session.

88Butterfly88 · May 14, 2017, 06:54 AM

Happy Mother's Day to all mothers!

May 14, 2017, 10:17 AM

Happy Mother's Day to all the Mom's and Mom's at heart and Mom's of fur-kids etc!

anais_anais · May 14, 2017, 10:45 AM

Happy mother's day to all..... hugs and happy day-to-avoid-social-media to those of us who are having more complicated emotions, too.

May 14, 2017, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by anais_anais

Happy mother's day to all..... hugs and happy day-to-avoid-social-media to those of us who are having more complicated emotions, too.

I was just thinking about this. Thank you, anais. It's the first year I'm not going to reach out to bio mom, and it's been hard looking at everyone talking about their wonderful mother.

anais_anais · May 14, 2017, 10:58 AM

I still might give mine a call. Debating.

May 14, 2017, 11:33 AM

So what you feel is best. We'll be here to support you either way

junkDNA · May 14, 2017, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

oh dear...that can't be good to throw up from exercising! eek! I did once...but that was because I was extremely hungover and thought sprinting would be an okay activity to try. WRONG.

Also..that is quite a fine for going through a red light. I clearly went through one time and saw the flash. I enjoyed getting a picture of my car going through the red light

I just got a regular traffic ticket...and certainly not $500!! OMG.

Has anyone ever been water logged?? I would play sports (soccer and basketball) and would get really thirsty. I'd drink too much water because i loved the way it felt. Like in couldn't get enough haha. You just throw up straight water

May 14, 2017, 11:41 AM

Yes, I've been water logged before. Summer softball league when I was a teenager. Ugh.

junkDNA · May 14, 2017, 11:42 AM

I freaked out on the manager at my job last night. I yelled at him and cried. It was bad. I've never done that there before

Demunie · May 14, 2017, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by junkDNA

I freaked out on the manager at my job last night. I yelled at him and cried. It was bad. I've never done that there before

Hugs. What happened?

lucozader · May 14, 2017, 12:30 PM

HELLO couch. (((Couchies)))

I started my new job on Wednesday and I have been exhausted ever since, and haven't been able to find the mental energy to keep up with stuff here. I miss you guys!

I have a cyst on my eye (not actually quite as bad as it sounds) and a hospital appointment tomorrow that I've been waiting for for three months but is definitely going to be a disappointment.

Also I got permission from T to email him tomorrow since we'll be missing our session and I was hating the thought of no contact for two weeks, but now that tomorrow is approaching I'm just thinking what the hell am I going to say to him in an email?!

Hope everyone is okay.

junkDNA · May 14, 2017, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Demunie

Hugs. What happened?

i felt overwhelmed and under extreme stress

junkDNA · May 14, 2017, 12:41 PM

i didn't see my T today. i cancelled via text. he actually responded and said hes sorry i dont feel well and that he hopes i feel better and he knows i will

im going to see him on wednesday then im going to go visit a friend in virginia beach right after my T appointment. for a week. im pretty excited about that so its kinda keeping me going right now. it REALLY really helps me to have something to look forward to when times are rough.

i jacked up my tapering plan and ended up doing all of it. i knew at the time it was bad.. a bad idea, but its like the addicted part of ur mind is making the decisions at that point. addiction really is a beast, a monkey on your back. now i am just sick and riding it out

May 14, 2017, 12:57 PM

So I told t last week (and I meant it) that I'm tired of holding onto the crap from the past all the way around. Especially when it comes to my mother. I told t that I am trying something new and that is to wear a different pair of glasses so to speak and see her only as she is now - and through my adult eyes too, not as the wounded little girl inside. I take care of that little girl now. And I am done with the 'old', I am done with talking about it, I am done with limiting myself because of those past wrongs done me by other people, just plain done and I am moving forward now, thankyouverymuch. That was pretty darn empowering. And I had an enjoyable conversation on the phone with my mother just now, even. How about that?

I think I am finally starting to grow up, y'all. It's been a very long time in coming.

awkwardlyyours · May 14, 2017, 01:38 PM

Just pulled a royal tantrum with current T:
Cancelled this week's sessions (after cancelling a bunch of sessions the week before last, followed by telling her I'm taking an indefinite break, in turn followed by asking to come back [she agreed], only to cancel yet again yesterday).

Then asked today if I could come in tonight per usual. She'd scheduled someone else in that slot and so, asked if I wanted to do a slot later -- told me she'd asked the other person to reschedule after getting my email, so that I could get my slot back but hadn't heard back from her.

I agreed, she then added that if the other person can shift, I can have my usual slot back and so, she'd let me know. I agreed to that.

Only of course to change my mind and asked for the later slot anyhow if the other person didn't mind (am procrastinating big time on a work thing). She promptly texted back and said it's totally fine for me to come in later.

(And yes, if you've read this far and it's making your head spin, my sympathies.)

I really feel like my emotional make-up at this point is at my chronological age....not.

Of course all of the above in a context where I've continued to accuse her of how much she sucks and how ill-equipped and inadequate she's been in dealing with my anger, general issues etc.

I am a true joy to be around, I know.

atisketatasket · May 14, 2017, 01:52 PM

I dunno, I like you.

Can I just ask is there any limit to how far this woman will bend over backward for you? Either she's the biggest appeaser since Neville Chamberlain or she's really, really trying to win you over.

LonesomeTonight · May 14, 2017, 01:53 PM

I finally went to a yoga class today (just Hatha I) and made it through the whole hour and 15 minutes! (without having a panic attack or anything, which I'd feared). The instructor only had to correct my form once, and that was because I totally misunderstood where I was supposed to be holding a block. Feel both sore and relaxed.

Does anyone else who does yoga feel like corpse pose lasts forever? I just wanted to be like "OK, can I just go back to normal breathing and thinking about what I feel like thinking about now?" Which is probably a sign that I do need yoga and meditation in my life...

Plus, to tie this into another recent topic on here, this one guy in the class was breathing SO loudly the entire time (and not like he was congested or something). I guess maybe it was a yogic breath technique but I just wanted to be like "Could you please breathe a little quieter?"

atisketatasket · May 14, 2017, 01:56 PM

I felt that way about corpse pose at first, now I try to become One with the mat to entertain myself, if I don't doze off instead. (Something I've realized lately is that even the most passive-seeming poses are meant to be active.)

awkwardlyyours · May 14, 2017, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I dunno, I like you.

Can I just ask is there any limit to how far this woman will bend over backward for you? Either she's the biggest appeaser since Neville Chamberlain or she's really, really trying to win you over.

Aww....thanks ATAT. I like you too (not to make Una jealous or anything)

Trust you to come up with the Chamberlain comparison

I guess I've been mistakenly seeing her as the tiny blonde version of Churchill instead?

I don't think she's going totally out of character just to win me over but I will say that she has gone well beyond what I'd put up with (even from someone who's paying me $$$ -- I draw the line at far far less even with my bosses). So, who knows?

awkwardlyyours · May 14, 2017, 02:09 PM

LT & ATAT -- the last time I did yoga (ages 6 and 10), I happily assumed that shavasana (corpse pose) meant nap time? No one told me otherwise (now I'm thinking maybe coz I had awesome flexibility [except for the pesky head-stand which invariably had me toppling over -- I blame my current issues partly on it] but then my competition was mostly very tired middle-aged women).

LT -- you're a better person than I to only get bothered by loud breathing. My problems start with people's very presence.

May 14, 2017, 02:17 PM

Went to breakfast this morning with h and son, went to IHOP, we got there early to beat the crowds and we actually did! got seated right away. when we left though... they were lined up outside and around one corner of the building! holy cow. Son gave me a lovely card for mother's day, that he even wrote some sentiments in, he normally doesn't write in cards so what a blessing. I love that boy so much.

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