Couch 141: The Inversional Hexachordal Combinatorial Couch

atisketatasket · May 28, 2017, 06:22 PM

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I don't have one, but does this help? https://support.roku.com/article/208...r-roku-account

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Originally Posted by ruh roh

Or, more specifically, this: https://absoblogginlutely.net/2012/0...other-devices/

Thanks - it already seems to be unlinked from the Amazon account, but I deleted the Roku account too to be safe.

ruh roh = wizard at Googling tech stuff.

May 28, 2017, 06:32 PM

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I wonder how Chris's mother is doing.

Thanks for thinking about me. In fact, I am sitting here working on booking a flight down to see her for her 83rd birthday. Her sister, my aunt, is flying down from New York and offered to pay my fare to get there also. I think Dad is getting ready to move her into a nursing home perhaps even before then. She's become dead weight to lift, and Dad is going to end up hurting himself if he continues to try to help her up and down. It's time. A hard pill to swallow, but Dad cannot afford to get hurt trying to care for her at home.

I've been really sick for the last two weeks and am finally on the mend I think. Just finished up my last two concerts for the season. Thursday is the last day of school, and next Saturday our youngest graduates from high school. Rather busy around here.

stopdog · May 28, 2017, 07:04 PM

I am glad you are getting to go down for her birthday. You have had quite a month.

anais_anais · May 28, 2017, 07:25 PM

Reading party's done. But we all drank too much to play anything properly.

anais_anais · May 28, 2017, 07:35 PM

Those of you for whom treatment brought out dissociated stuff, repressed memories, periods of blackouts- how long did it take for you to feel better? How bad was the period of feeling worse?

Like, I went in for what looked like psychologically manifested physical pain. Out came all this garbage I had no idea I'd hidden and now I have no physical pain but I am instead a barely-functioning, fragmented shadow of a half-person, which is not an improvement, because while I could work through the physical pain, I can't work when... I can't even keep track of when I work. (Related: socially acceptable: "I'm sorry I can't come in this afternoon, I can't shake this migraine," not acceptable: "i'm sorry I didn't come in yesterday afternoon, I thought it was ten years ago")

When does that stop?

stopdog · May 28, 2017, 07:36 PM

Beats head against wall again.

atisketatasket · May 28, 2017, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by anais_anais

Reading party's done. But we all drank too much to play anything properly.

Non in vino cantus?

(No music in wine?)

anais_anais · May 28, 2017, 07:37 PM

Sorry if it's me

anais_anais · May 28, 2017, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Non in vino cantus?

(No music in wine?)

Oh we were welllllllll past that point

The only genre of music where being drunk is helpful (for me) would be klezmer

Sober klezmer= what's the point

atisketatasket · May 28, 2017, 07:40 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Beats head against wall again.

You know, there's an emoji for that.

stopdog · May 28, 2017, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

You know, there's an emoji for that.

I did not. And now that I do -it still does not matter.

stopdog · May 28, 2017, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by anais_anais

Sorry if it's me

Just general head beating at the bogglingness of humans. Not at you

Squirrel1983 · May 28, 2017, 07:57 PM

Evening couch. I am home and caught up on the couch.

Was able to return all the crap I bought, just have to redeposit the money into my bank account. I can do that at the ATM tomorrow. I then went to work. Pretty steady day there. I decided I was too lazy to cook, so I stopped at a sports bar for wings and fries. No, I did not drink. I avoid alcohol at all costs. I went crazy with it in college when I first turned 21 and drank way too much and always alone...I do not want to go back to those days...my dad was an alcoholic growing up and I don't want to follow in his footsteps.
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After I ate, I came home...added my contribution to my group assignment for my masters course. I still have to do discussion posts and my individual assignment, but I am procrastinating on those. Bad squirrel.

healed84 · May 28, 2017, 08:03 PM

So, I was struck by something today. It started with just a comment made in a tv show- the character said "I am happy with my life, and my kids, and there is nothing I would change."

Then I wondered: are there people out there who are truly, genuinely happy with their lives?

May 28, 2017, 08:14 PM

I'm drinking margaritas with my friend while our h's are watching the Sandlot and I've been talking about therapy how boring am i

skeksi · May 28, 2017, 08:21 PM

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Originally Posted by anais_anais

Those of you for whom treatment brought out dissociated stuff, repressed memories, periods of blackouts- how long did it take for you to feel better? How bad was the period of feeling worse?

It did get better, though I am not sure how long it took. A while. Definitely months and honestly maybe more than a year but there were ebbs and flows where it was worse and better. T tried to help me slow down but at a certain point the crap just kept coming up. It was like trying to stop someone with the stomach flu from vomiting. What did help was that T and I also did a lot of work to try to help me find small pockets of safety, internal and external.

atisketatasket · May 28, 2017, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by healed84

So, I was struck by something today. It started with just a comment made in a tv show- the character said "I am happy with my life, and my kids, and there is nothing I would change."

Then I wondered: are there people out there who are truly, genuinely happy with their lives?

Therapists?

I think statements like that are hooey. No one goes through life perfectly satisfied. Even people who promote a life-is-perfect image.

Everyone would change something - be a little thinner, be a little taller, wish my kids were better at math, wish I weren't so tired.

anais_anais · May 28, 2017, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by skeksi

It was like trying to stop someone with the stomach flu from vomiting.

This is exactly what it's like. Thank you.

lucozader · May 28, 2017, 08:25 PM

Yeah, I think people who say that everything is just perfect are secretly the most miserable people of all.

Although maybe I just think that to make myself feel better...?

healed84 · May 28, 2017, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Therapists?

I think statements like that are hooey. No one goes through perfectly satisfied. Even people who promote a life-is-perfect image.

Everyone would change something - be a little thinner, be a little taller, wish my kids were better at math, wish I weren't so tired.

Pretty sure my t would say he is pretty happy with his life.. then qualify it with something like he has problems like any normal person though.

But here is a follow up: are there people who accept stuff like I'd like to be thinner, have more money, etc and still be happy with their life??

Or maybe I should ask: anybody here pretty happy/satisfied/contend with their life? Even taking into considerations lives ups and downs?

May 28, 2017, 08:31 PM

I think that a decent amount of people would say that even though their lives aren't perfect, they're generally content.

I am not one of those people.

anais_anais · May 28, 2017, 08:31 PM

I suppose that'd be the satisfaction with what one has while still accepting that there is possibility and room for meaningful positive change

Nah, sounds too healthy to me

anais_anais · May 28, 2017, 08:32 PM

Daisydid

for the sames but differents

May 28, 2017, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by healed84

Or maybe I should ask: anybody here pretty happy/satisfied/contend with their life? Even taking into considerations lives ups and downs?

I am. I don't have a perfect life BY FAR. I have seriously chronically ill husband. The usual kid issues. Money is tight. My allergies suck. My mother is about to put in a nursing home. My sister died too young.

But I'm pretty content with my life. Despite everything, I'm a pretty fortunate person and I don't take that for granted.

Life has always and will always have its ups and downs, some of them terrible. But I've finally reached a place where I can accept that that is part and parcel of life.

I choose to acknowledge my blessings of which there are many, and face the inevitable struggles with as much dignity and strength as I can muster (and sometimes I am able to muster more than others -- and that's okay).