The Couch 145 : I Stubbed My Toe On the Sofa.... COUCH!

I left work 2 hours early. I didn't want to be there anymore.

Art - just because things end badly doesn't mean that a relationship wasn't good or healing. I mean, No. 2 and I ended quite badly, but she did help me at times.

It's true that you can only really judge the quality of things when they are over, but that doesn't mean how they came to be over is the only criterion.

It is so MFing HOt in Walmart even customers are complaining. It's freaking unbearable

Non-hugs and a popsicle jdna, sounds too hot for regular hugs

Popsicle written out looks really strange

Remember that this is a stagnant state of being in an ever shifting landscape. Feelings come and go, and right now it feels like it is ending badly. You are/were (it is always up to you) going through a process and in that process there will be many single states of being, that if you allow it, can be used to define the entire process. You can pick this one event and define the entire relationship, the entire ending of the relationship, the.. whatever by it. Or, (as I am trying to learn how) accept that this is a place along the continuum of life, it is not invalid, it is just not permanent and might not be everything you'll come to understand about it (yes, much much easier said than felt in ones heart).

And - ok playing devils advocate here... this is an ending for both of you ... one of a long term relationship and while she is the T here, she is a person too. And yeah, she should keep her person out of this and needs to take that up with her own support system... T's make mistakes. Call her on it, work through it with her because that is part of working through the ending or learning how to work through an ending. It's a skill most of us don't have.

I just did a big grocery shop with the zipcar. Now at least i have a stash of corn flakes and shelf-stable soy milk. And laundry soap. And rice.

It's that time again......

Couch 146

One of the reasons I'm not a fan of WalMart... it's always sweltering. The closest I get to Wally World over the past year is grocery pick up

Thanks Elio. So very wise. Brought tears to my eyes. I'm leaving work early to go meet with academic advisor about fall college class then going home to reflect more on everything she and I said yesterday. You're right... It was but a moment in time, not representative of the past going on 6 years. All a part of an ever-fluid process. I suppose we're not completely broken, if we were she'd have said get out and don't come back. But she didn't. What she said was even if I had gotten up and stormed out and slammed the door, she'd have let me back in.

Great comment.