Communication Overseas

I need help! I'm not doing well at all. I'm trying to use my coping skills, but they aren't helping. I'm crying throughout the day and night. I desperately need my T, but she is causing all of this! I just want her back!

Scarlet, your T is on vacation overseas and probably hasn't gotten on a computer. She's vacationing without a phone with international access. She isn't doing this to you. This is your reaction to feeling disconnected and abandoned right now. But you haven't been abandoned. She's simply on vacation and will be returning. Keep your thinking as rational and wise-minded as possible. Use your healthy coping skills. You can do this.

She told me she'd email me though...

And now on the news there was a terrorist attack in Barcelona. My T was in Spain for part of her vacation! I hope she's not in Spain anymore!

I agree with lolagrace but I understand how you feel. Your T told you she would email and now she's disappointing you. I would be worried too! But chances are she would email you if she could. She's been an excellent, caring T so there's no reason to think otherwise now. She probably hasn't been near a computer. She's not abandoning you but I can see how you can think that. It's old stuff; your T IS there for you. I hope you hear from her soon. Hugs. Hang in there!

I know you (rainbow) and lolagrace are right. This has more to do with my "stuff" than with T. But it's hard.

My T will be back from vacation next Wednesday, but she said she's taking Wednesday off to try to rest from the jet lag. So if I hear from her, it probably won't be till next Thursday. It's so far away!

Last night I had to take my Ativan it was so bad. I don't know how I'm going to make it another 7 days.

ONE DAY AT A TIME!

Can you do anything special during this week, just for you?

She emailed me! I feel so much better now! I'm still mad and hurt, but at least she's still there and is okay.

I've done a lot of things to try to cope with this: baths, desserts, shopping, etc. I have also tried to maintain my daily activities: crocheting, chores, cooking, hygiene, tv, etc.

It's hard though. Pretty much all my "bad" coping skills have been taken away: SI and over eating. And soon another will be gone: smoking. So when I'm without my T too, I struggle.

But I think everything is going to be okay now. We have some trust to rebuild, but we should be okay.

I am glad to hear that she finally emailed. Good for you for coping during the silence. I can only imagine how hard that was.

The trust is still there. You just got a little shaken, that's all. You expected your therapist to realize how you were feeling because "she knows how you are." I'm sure this is true. And, she came through for you, just not on your time frame, even after giving you fair warning. So, you have more proof of who she is; a person of her word and a person that does her best to keep her word. Take that in SP. You did good and I'm really happy for the both of you.