[nicoleb2]

My therapist resigned from the place I was seeing her.
I've seen her for 10 years.
She's been there through my entire mental health journey; the loss of my mom and grandma, three suicide attempts, many hospitalizations, separating from and getting back together with my husband, the birth of my 3 year old.
So many things.
I'm supposed to start with a new therapist next week. I don't know how I'm going to talk to her. I don't know if I want to talk to her.

How do I get past this so I can keep working on me?

[Mouse007]

I have been through several psychologist....a few evaluations, and at least three therapist... I am not the best at communicating via text message...yet I guess it's safe to say that here in the states I have been getting therapy for 8 years.. I never had a chance to get close to a therapist but they never let me down or hurt me in any way..so it's safe to say that therapist still care about you and they do their job well...even if you don't see the same one the whole eight years... just be sure that they are having a clear picture of what is going on with you...either by looking at past therapy notes etc... I hope that you can get a good one and feel better

[Keyplayer]

Hi nicoleb2 ,

Somehow you will , just look at how far you have come , and all you have been through.

And after all of that you are here today writing this post , fantastic , you have more courage and will go on to do more than you can comprehend.

I know it will be a hard journey , but I also know it is one you will easily take.

Although it may not seem so now , but what if your new therapist has some fresh ideas to help you on your path to a better life.

I can`t offer any real advice , but here is what I would do , I would say :

Hi , I am ... , and I need your help , and it`s a pleasure to meet you.

Gain the high ground , straight off , meet your new therapist on your terms.

Please let us know how you made out , ok ? thanks

"Fear not the journey of darkness we must make , but have the trust that come tomorrow a new light will shine a path for your way , a better way , one that has been set aside just for you." / ref: G.S.I.

Take care

KP

[Pennster]

That sounds hard- I'm sorry. Is there any chance your therapist is still going to be working somewhere else? My therapist once mentioned that agencies often try to demand that clients not go with the therapist to new workplaces, but they can't stop a client from following a therapist.

[Shazerac]

I was with my old pdoc for 7 years and then she retired. I was devestated. I also dreaded having to go back to square one with a new doc.

I felt a HUGE sense of abandonment even though I logically understood that she had very right to retire and live her life. I had to give permission to grieve this loss. And it is a loss when you loose someone who you've spent years developing trust and sharing your dark and painful inner thoughts.

I went to another doc in the same practice. The first day with when she plopped down my file that was inches thick i almost screamed and ran out of the room like my hair was on fire. Our first session was a pretty clinical get to know you type thing, going over my meds, etc.

I don't like her, I don't trust her. She's not MY doc dammit! But I know I have to hang in there and get though it. Give her a chance to earn my trust. And she has to learn to trust me too. That I'm not going to go off the rails and suddenly quit my meds or worse take too many.

My heart goes out to you. It's a difficult journey. It's been 6 months for me and I'm still not sure if I like her. I wish I could remember how long it took me to get comfortable with the old doc, but I can't.

[chihirochild]

(((nicole)))

When I was about to move away, my former T asked if I could look at our termination as an opportunity to process grief/loss... maybe if I could be intentional and careful about processing the grief over losing her, it would help me going forward... and could help me look back at former losses I've had.

Another thing that my former pdoc said to me when I was about to meet with a new t for the first time was to tell the new t how I felt scared and ambivalent about meeting with the new t, how I had a really good relationship with former-pdoc and former-t and I was really going to miss them and stuff. That helped too because then I didn't feel like it this unsayable thing getting in the way of trying to attach to new-t.

But, all suggestions aside... I am so so sorry. That sounds so sad and hard.