Tissues

How interesting to have " Frozen " tissues and for you to spot them ! I might have asked about that to see if it was done for a reason. My T has tissues on a side table which I don't often use , but I'd taken in a powerful video this week to work on , felt quite emotional and stared at the tissue box , which I'm now projecting an image of the Incredible hulk onto. When I first went to therapy I wondered if my T just bought tissues and bottled water in bulk.

lol, I wondered if this was created by a fellow r/psychotherapy lurker.

My answer is I want to be offered tissues. I understand that some people feel like being offered tissues conveys disapproval and makes them feel silenced. I personally feel disapproved of and silenced when I am not handed tissues. So I guess I think therapists should just put their dilemma out there and ask each client their preference.

I definitely don't appreciate that the predominant view of therapists seems to be that offering a tissue is bad.

I am too controlled to cry, but I know I need to let go.
I think id need her to hand them to me as I wouldn't just grab them if I felt that emotional. Id like for her to sit closer and habd them to me, but I may just be kinda needy.

There's a box at each end of the couch and another by her chair. She's stocked lol

T used to have the box of kleenex on the table next to her and she would pass them to me. I do cry at the drop of a hat so I cry often in session. I noticed a while ago that the box of kleenex is now located on the table in front of my seat on the couch.

For both my t and the mc, the tissues are across the room and I have to get them myself. I don’t understand this.

I think the tissues are on a table right in front of me. Maybe also on the side table next to the couch? I literally do not notice as I know I probably will never cry in therapy.

Hi Guy`s ,

Songs and sonnets have been written about crying , for those that cry , I commend you.

For those like myself , then I feel your pain , I even told my therapist , I would love to cry , I understand the benefits of crying , the letting go of all the pain. I want to cry...

My T once asked do I remember the last time I cried , I told her yes I do , it was at the time I was going through psychical therapy for a back injury and the therapy was not going as planed and one night alone in my room , I lost it I almost drowned. My late mom heard me and asked what is wrong and I told her , and she said what all moms would say , just give it more time you will feel better soon. I did , my back healed , my late mom was right , the year was 1983. I have not cried since , I told my T I want to cry , I need the emotion so I can live.

I am the stone without moister , in Catholicism I guess you could call me the rock that does not bleed when punctured.

That is why I am getting help , not just to learn to cry , but to live.

All I really want is a happy life and not just a happy face behind a sad soul.

Be well my friends , for you are all in my thoughts.

Keyplayer. 

The first time I cried T gave me a tissue (they are right next) to the couch). I am not a crier and when she got up all the emotions stopped. Since then I have to get tissues for myself.

The program I work in does not want clients to be handed tissues for this reason, it can interrupt the natural flow of things.

I have never cried during threapy but I did sneeze and was passed one

I have never cried in therapy, though I think it would feel like a relief if I did.

My current t has tissues all. over. the. place. It's actually hysterical--she has a Leaning Tower of Kleenex boxes on a table in one corner of the room (a stack of 5-6 boxes that is perpetually falling all over the place), and a few more boxes on the table that sits next to the chair where I usually sit.

Last week I said something that made her laugh, and she got up and took one of the tissue boxes from the table next to me, saying, "you always make me crack up, and then my eyes start watering." Apparently, I am a real and present danger to her eyeliner.

I don't understand this. How could passing a tissue to a client interrupt the natural flow? Or leaving the tissue positioned to where the client has to get up to get it? Just put it next to where the client sits.

Since I haven't had a therapist who keeps the kleenex within arm's reach, I sometimes wonder if this sort of subconsciously keeps people from crying. Maybe Ts would prefer if people don't cry? I have no idea, really. I have only found myself crying and needing a tissue in my T's office once. The other times, I might tear up and suppress. I ball like a baby when dh and I are with the MC. I don't understand why.

the only time I remember grabbing the tissues is to obsessively tear them into tiny pieces and then get it over my jeans

[QUOTE=PinkyDoo;5936887]I don't understand this. How could passing a tissue to a client interrupt the natural flow? Or leaving the tissue positioned to where the client has to get up to get it? Just put it next to where the client sits.

I think everyone is different. I'm not sure because I've never had this problem but I think if I ever let myself cry there, any movement or distraction is likely to stop me, so yes passing the tissues would be likely to do that. But so would me having to get up and get them. Tissues sitting right next to the client sounds like the best way, I'm not sure why is it not set up that way. Well, that could scare me too, like it's expected of me to cry there.

[QUOTE=PinkyDoo;5936887]I don't understand this. How could passing a tissue to a client interrupt the natural flow? Or leaving the tissue positioned to where the client has to get up to get it? Just put it next to where the client

If a client is talking and showing emotions they are in a certain place and probably not focused on the people around them. If somebody hands them a tissue it brings them to the present and makes them realize they are crying so somebody who is uncomfortable with crying is likely to stop.

T hands me tissues. Precisely because otherwise I'll get up to fetch myself paper towels, and therefore stop crying.