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Old Jan 11, 2018, 11:02 PM
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Is it wrong that I feel some kind of love for this person? It's not erotic. I just feel love.
No, it seems to be a very common experience based on what I read here and have experienced myself.

I am glad that he apologized.
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Old Jan 11, 2018, 11:27 PM
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Is it wrong that I feel some kind of love for this person? It's not erotic. I just feel love.
I have my transference love - maternal. I also love T for T. The type of T she chooses to be, the energy she has, and many other things.

No, it is not wrong. It is a feeling.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 12:18 AM
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Is it wrong that I feel some kind of love for this person? It's not erotic. I just feel love.
No, not at all wrong.

Hugs. I'm glad he apologized, and that he was able to see that the ways he was trying to help weren't helpful.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 12:30 AM
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I had a session with my therapist today.

I guess I won't take up piano after all, which will save me lots of time, because I don't have to practice therapy for an hour every day.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 02:32 AM
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I have this embarrassing habit of blurting out 'i love you' to people, usually its female and someone i feel has something i need. This week i said it to a male acquaintance who i am not at all attracted to and to my step daughter who i am not that close to. I am really embarrassed and am keeping out of these peoples way so they for get.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 03:21 AM
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Hugs to each of you who's having a hard time.

Regarding my thread, I feel SO guilty about once a fortnight therapy during my working hours. I've had this arrangement with my ex boss and I'm glad my new boss agreed to let me continue it...yet I feel so guilty.

I returned to work yesterday after my vacation (loved spending almost a month with my partner!) and the coworker I'm covering is STILL in hospital. Getting worried yeah, and there's so much work to be done which I don't know how to do.

I'm glad I have therapy next week because self harm urges flooded me the DAY I returned to work.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 03:23 AM
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Is it wrong that I feel some kind of love for this person? It's not erotic. I just feel love.
It's not wrong and quite common
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 03:24 AM
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I have this embarrassing habit of blurting out 'i love you' to people, usually its female and someone i feel has something i need. This week i said it to a male acquaintance who i am not at all attracted to and to my step daughter who i am not that close to. I am really embarrassed and am keeping out of these peoples way so they for get.
Once I blurted that to a former boss whom I hated. I hear you on the embarrassment.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 03:34 AM
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Once I blurted that to a former boss whom I hated. I hear you on the embarrassment.
Omg what happened? Did the boss forget it? Never mentioned it again?
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 03:36 AM
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 03:42 AM
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Omg what happened? Did the boss forget it? Never mentioned it again?
I got a weird look and his fiancee (who was also one of my bosses) gave me a death glare. They'd been talking in baby talk to each other as I passed them!

It was several years ago, but I remember that incident really clearly.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 05:35 AM
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I passed!!!!!!!!

And I just wanted to say thank you for all the support.

I think I'm going to take today off. Maybe head to my favorite American burger bar and book a massage too!

Lol now to prep for exam number 2 on the 26th.

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Old Jan 12, 2018, 05:37 AM
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Is it wrong that I feel some kind of love for this person? It's not erotic. I just feel love.
Even if it was erotic Np it's not wrong at all.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 05:43 AM
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That's the best news ever, Cake! (Or at least until R is back...)

Enjoy your time off.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 06:23 AM
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I passed!!!!!!!!

And I just wanted to say thank you for all the support.

I think I'm going to take today off. Maybe head to my favorite American burger bar and book a massage too!

Lol now to prep for exam number 2 on the 26th.

Glad you passed!!! Rest up for a bit, and good luck with the next paper
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 07:01 AM
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My head's a mess. I still can't tell whether I want to clear the decks on Monday, or fill the day up and push through. I am very concerned that the current set of circumstances increases the risk of flashbacks during daylight hours...which is not something that I want.

My family member has offered to take me out if her back is better by that point....but what I need at the moment is somebody to ask me what is going on for me, and actually listen to the answer.

That would be a dream...
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 07:20 AM
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hugs/headnods to all as needed/wanted/appropriate (yawn) I'm tired. I'm getting too old for January at work haha. off tomorrow though yay!

i dreamed last night that i took my rings off for some reason i don't remember why because the sound of them hitting the floor when i also took them off for reals woke me up. i guess i tried to set them on my nightstand and they slid off my notebook onto the floor? haha. i had to get up and get a flashlight so i could find them.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 08:04 AM
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 08:09 AM
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That's the best news ever, Cake! (Or at least until R is back...)

Enjoy your time off.
I replied to your PM just now!
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 08:27 AM
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 09:02 AM
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i dreamed last night that i took my rings off for some reason i don't remember why because the sound of them hitting the floor when i also took them off for reals woke me up. i guess i tried to set them on my nightstand and they slid off my notebook onto the floor? haha. i had to get up and get a flashlight so i could find them.
I dreamed I was either involved in or investigating or maybe both (don’t recall clearly, if it was even certain in the dream, which I’m not at all sure it was) the murder of Laura Ingalls Wilder.

Anyone want to interpret that, feel free.

No therapists were involved, or it would have been even more of a nightmare.
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 09:09 AM
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I passed!!!!!!!!

And I just wanted to say thank you for all the support.

I think I'm going to take today off. Maybe head to my favorite American burger bar and book a massage too!

Lol now to prep for exam number 2 on the 26th.

Congratulation I hope you're proud of yourself! Well done!
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 09:10 AM
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My head's a mess. I still can't tell whether I want to clear the decks on Monday, or fill the day up and push through. I am very concerned that the current set of circumstances increases the risk of flashbacks during daylight hours...which is not something that I want.

My family member has offered to take me out if her back is better by that point....but what I need at the moment is somebody to ask me what is going on for me, and actually listen to the answer.

That would be a dream...
I'm sorry you're struggling so much lost. Feel free to write here (or PM) what's exatly going on for you atm... Though I know it's not the same as actually having someone to talk to irl.

What would make the flashbacks easier for you? Could anyone just stay at home with you on Monday?
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 09:12 AM
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Oh that face!

I have to agree with you:
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Old Jan 12, 2018, 09:22 AM
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If things are improved enough for us to be able to go out on Monday, you can bet that my mother will want to get out. Due to her back issues, she has been housebound/back garden bound since last Wednesday.

Full description of my experience follows, behind a TW - medical matters, deception, cybercrime (?)

Possible trigger:


The flashbacks usually happen at night, just as I am going to sleep, but with it being a significant date, I am concerned that I will have more to deal with during daylight hours.
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