Just wondered how many people have hugged their T?

Can someone move this thread. It is not suppose to be in the romantic section.

[OldTaylor]

Originally Posted by estellanomore

Just wondered how many people have hugged their T?

Counting group hugs? I've seen quite a few of those . . . .

[junkDNA]

We hug sometimes

[DP_2017]

Every session since June, and its a opposite gender thing. Not just a side hug

[OldTaylor]

Originally Posted by DP_2017

Every session since June, and its a opposite gender thing. Not just a side hug

The best of T's have T's to help them reach their optimum personage. Mommy nor daddy was huggish. I give myself the hug/squeeze someone else might look to a T for. So much is said of needy people and me not knowing the meaning of it all, I prefer not to do hug T's. The little boy at my core is phallic and not oedipal . . . ?

[fille_folle]

I said yes and same sex, although I have not touched my current T so far (I've only been seeing her about 1.5 months). I have hugged longtime T several times, but it wasn't a regular occurrence.

[Lemoncake]

We're opposite gender. The child parts of me crave hugs from him- not sure if it will ever happen as I've acknowledged feelings of erotic transference for him, though it's died down a bit now.

I have never and would never hug any therapist of mine. Just the thought of it makes my anxiety sky rocket.

[Pennster]

I'm intrigued by the number of huggers! I have never hugged any therapist, and I really don't want to. I like to hug other people just fine, but the idea of hugging my therapist is like way too much for my brain to cope with.

[RaineD]

I've only hugged mine once. I had to ask for it, and the asking is too difficult for me to do it frequently. I also don't want to feel like I'm violating his boundaries. But I do want to hug him all the time.

[stopdog]

No. I don't really like to hug people I know and love or people I know and like. I mean I do it and all - but it isn't something I find useful. The therapist in no way falls into those two groups. I paid the therapist to stay back.

[DP_2017]

Originally Posted by OldTaylor

The best of T's have T's to help them reach . . . .

I don't get what this means?!

[growlycat]

My t is the opposite sex and married but we hug fairly often. About as non sexual as it gets. A frame hugs. It’s still nice if not a bit awkward.

[ElectricManatee]

I don't think my therapist is a hugging type therapist, although I have never asked. I don't really want to hug her, probably because I have some stuff around hugging and being touched. But I find the idea less appalling than I once did. She's really good at that "hugging from across the room" thing, which feels good to me and happens without the awkwardness of actually hugging her.

ETA: My T and I are both female. I am gay and she is not, if that matters for your poll.

[tomatenoir]

About one in every four sessions I feel a desperate need to hug him. But he's told me no. It sucks and makes me feel unlovable. Intellectually, I know that he cares about me - - but my heart hears something else entirely.

[Marsfx]

I like hugs, but I don't get that she's a hugger. I feel like the receptionist would give me a hug before she would.

[winterblues17]

I haven't, I'm not a huggy person in general. Sometimes I have thought I wanted to mainly when I've had a tough week or somewhat intense session. I think it's for reassurance more than anything that I'm not as worthless as I feel, but it's not something I'd ever be comfortable saying, infact I just think it would cause added shame for wanting something and then getting rejected! Thankfully she is good at reassurance with words!

[DP_2017]

Originally Posted by growlycat

My t is the opposite sex and married but we hug fairly often. About as non sexual as it gets. A frame hugs. It’s still nice if not a bit awkward.

That's why i wrote no side hug. Should of also said no a frame. Those are the two recommended for t. We do regular frontal hug though. Rare in t i guess. I imagine a frame would be awkward. It looks it

[guilloche]

Need more options, for those of us who have had multiple Ts!

For me...

- I have hugged ONE T, and that was at termination (after seeing her for about 3 years). I had never wanted to hug her, it wasn't something that I thought about, but I didn't mind it as a goodbye gesture.

- I have, oddly, never wanted to hug any of the others. In fact, I sort of recoil at the thought. I think it's a bit too much closeness for me. Like, with old T, I felt like just pulling up his webpage and have his picture in my house was "too much" and a bit overwhelming. (But I apparently have the weird, difficult attachment style... "fearful-avoidant" I think?)

[LostOnTheTrail]

I haven't, and I wouldn't.

Sometimes I've asked whether I can hold her hand whilst talking about difficult things, but nothing more.

[elisewin]

I sometimes do. She has the nicest, warmest hugs ever. I am a hugger, I love to touch ang hug people I like.

[OldTaylor]

Originally Posted by elisewin

I sometimes do. She has the nicest, warmest hugs ever. I am a hugger, I love to touch ang hug people I like.

I would prefer my hugs from a sex T. The playing field is level that way. I get what I'm paying for that way without pretense . . . ?

[dtrain0802]

Yep. Only when I ask for one as I’m super particular about my personal space.

[Thalassophile]

I haven't and although I sometimes I think I'd like to, in reality, I don't think I would. I know I would like to have a hug upon termination though as I see it as an important part of closure for me. Doesn't seem likely but we will see when the time comes.