[LonesomeTonight]

Welcome to the couch, old and new! A place to hang out - sometimes you get immediate feedback, sometimes you don't.

Shouting, "Cool Whip" tends to bring others out from between the cushions if you're feeling lonely.

This is a chatty thread. All are welcome. We're kind of psychologically oriented, sometimes. We try to be supportive. At times we discuss what that means.

It’s a place to plop down on the couch when you come home from work or wherever, or wake up in the middle of the night, or check in at lunch, rant a bit or not, and be among friends.

We advise you not to drink or drug and text your therapist ("T") - we speak from experience...

Sometimes the thread moves fast and you might get overlooked; sometimes it moves slowly and all you hear are crickets. Sometimes you get hugged or thanked pages later. So if it's a bigger question, you might want to start a new thread.

Grab a cushion, a spot on the floor, or an armchair in the corner (or with us) and make yourselves comfy!

Continued from https://forums.psychcentral.com/psyc...roid-belt.html

Named for the year 160, when in Rome, the manufacturing of soap containing grease, lime and ashes begins: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/160

[atisketatasket]

Shall I gross everyone out with tales of Roman (un)sanitary habits?

Possible trigger:

For instance, the sponge they used to wipe their bottoms was communal.

While I’m at it, isn’t lime a dangerous ingredient to have in soap?

my h has announced very loudly every 10 minutes or so how many minutes until his favorite show came on (The Profit). i finally said do you want me to come watch it with you? He said no, not necessarily, i just wanted to make sure you would know not to come in and try to talk to me.

Oh.

No problem, dear. lol I'm happy playing on my computer....

to make pretty links:

copy the URL for the page you want to link to. Come to the couch and start a new reply or whatever and type in the words you want to be your pretty link. click and drag your mouse to select said pretty words. click on the world thingy above with the little linky thing on it. paste in your URL. click ok. Voila.

is that what you meant by a pretty link?

oh am i rusty at writing work instructions.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

to make pretty links:

copy the URL for the page you want to link to. Come to the couch and start a new reply or whatever and type in the words you want to be your pretty link. click and drag your mouse to select said pretty words. click on the world thingy above with the little linky thing on it. paste in your URL. click ok. Voila.

is that what you meant by a pretty link?

Yes, I think so! Basically, a link with the words instead of the URL (I swear I've done that before on here!) Will try your method next time.

I could have given an example. Couch 159

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

I could have given an example. Couch 159

Yes, like that

I know how to do that in Word, just not here...but I guess now I do!

[CantExplain]

Something I need to post for my own peace of mind. I was distressed to read Lemoncake's session and I want to put it right. And of course I can't. But here goes...

Some better lines for Lemoncake's T:

"You're in pain. You tell me you're in pain and I can see you're in pain. I do get that."

"You say you're not angry with me. But you say you want me to feel pain. That sounds very much like anger to me. It's OK for you to be angry with me and it would make sense for you to be angry, since you think I've abandoned you."

"There are reasons why I do what I do. But we're not going to talk about that just yet. I want to focus on what you felt; what you feel now; what you wanted me to do; what you want me to do now."

"How do you feel about me? Don't spare my feelings. Give it to me straight. It's important for you to say it. It's important for me to hear it."

"I'm here for you now. I'll be here for you at our next session. I'm hearing you want more. I can't see you more often. But I can teach you ways to cope with my absence. And when we're together, let's make the best possible use of every minute."

[CantExplain]

By the way, if your T says, "I can't do X," it is legitimate to reply, "You choose not to do X. It's a matter of priorities, isn't it? And I'm not your top priority."

Time to accept responsibility for your choices, T!

[Wonderfalls]

It may be legitimate of you to say, but it isn't very wise. Of course if the therapist "can't" give you the time it's because there are priorities over you. Her mother's chemo appointment, another client's long-standing appointment, choir practice, her kid's ballet lessons. How arrogant would it be to feel she should stop her whole world for you? What should make you her top priority in life, no matter how good a therapist and no matter how much she takes care of you, her other life should end?

This is my first year living in the tropics with no air con. It was 40 degC here today, biy did i suffer i couldnt keep the fluids up and my dehydration test was a little off. I have no desire to get lithiumtoxicty but dont know what the answer is.

Originally Posted by Wonderfalls

It may be legitimate of you to say, but it isn't very wise. Of course if the therapist "can't" give you the time it's because there are priorities over you. Her mother's chemo appointment, another client's long-standing appointment, choir practice, her kid's ballet lessons. How arrogant would it be to feel she should stop her whole world for you? What should make you her top priority in life, no matter how good a therapist and no matter how much she takes care of you, her other life should end?

I dont think thats quite what CE was saying, he wasnt saying time outside of business hours just organise the caseload a bit differently. CE can explain if i got it drastically wrong

I must say that a frozen Niagara Falls is spectacular!

I am sure my T could organise his caseload to give me weekly sessions.

[CantExplain]

After 10 years, Madame T neither met my expectations nor managed them.

The deli in my T's village is still closed for Christmas until tomorrow I came an hour early because I had missed their coffee so much. Now I have to sit in the car for an hour. I'm gutted!

hey CE "How do you feel about me? Don't spare my feelings. Give it to me straight. It's important for you to say it. It's important for me to hear it." I need my mnqye-t to say that to me. and mean it.

that's what i'm going to call her for the time being. mnqye-t = "maybe not quite yet ex-t" shh don't anybody tell her.

[Lemoncake]

In all honestly thank you for all the replies and the PM's. I'm sorry if I've upset any of you.It just helps to feel like I'm not alone and as corny as this sounds I feel the love. I'm oh so dramatic, but I feel like I belong on this little corner of our couch.



My morning has been spent doing 3 last minutes lab reports and reading immunology notes. For now I'm not going back tomorrow- I've booked a massage instead which was actually supposed to be for today but I got the dates wrong xD.

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by Runcible Spoon

The deli in my T's village is still closed for Christmas until tomorrow I came an hour early because I had missed their coffee so much. Now I have to sit in the car for an hour. I'm gutted!

Hope you got an extra large size and a slice of cake if they have any to make up for it.

[Elio]

Originally Posted by Wonderfalls

It may be legitimate of you to say, but it isn't very wise. Of course if the therapist "can't" give you the time it's because there are priorities over you. Her mother's chemo appointment, another client's long-standing appointment, choir practice, her kid's ballet lessons. How arrogant would it be to feel she should stop her whole world for you? What should make you her top priority in life, no matter how good a therapist and no matter how much she takes care of you, her other life should end?

Originally Posted by CantExplain

By the way, if your T says, "I can't do X," it is legitimate to reply, "You choose not to do X. It's a matter of priorities, isn't it? And I'm not your top priority."

Time to accept responsibility for your choices, T!

I said something similar to this... but added... as it should be. It allowed me to acknowledge that a part of me wanted to be her top priority and that most of me knows that wouldn't be healthy if I was. I even went as far as to say something about that if I was her top priority then she wouldn't be able to help me because of how unhealthy that position would be. And that I need her to take care of herself, which means regardless of how I am feeling, making sure I am at the right level in her priorities.

[StressedMess]

My coworker called this morning before the alarm went off, to ask if our office had been placed on a 2 hour delay. I was brain dead but checked the website for instructions. Sure enough we are opening on time but close to the coast there are closures and I'm assuming the dreaded 's' word is expected. Hopefully the dreaded ice won't cause power lines to break, it's entirely too cold in my house with no heat.

Have a good day couchies, stay warm!

[UnderRugSwept]

It may snow here today.
It may not snow here today.
Meteorology is more subjective than psychology.

Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

This is my first year living in the tropics with no air con. It was 40 degC here today, biy did i suffer i couldnt keep the fluids up and my dehydration test was a little off. I have no desire to get lithiumtoxicty but dont know what the answer is.

Do you have a freezer to make ice? An ice tray where you pour water into and put it in the freezer.

Iced drinks help a lot in the heat. I live in a tropical country.

Do you have a standing fan? If it's a dry heat, people put bowls of water in front of the fan.